A "stroke" (in Transactional Analysis) is a unit of social transaction. A hug. A nod. A smile. A hello, a thank you, a "how are you?", or an f... you.... these are all social transactions. The more strokes you get the less your spine will shrivel up on you...
The way humans examine things to make sense of them is by taking them apart. It works relative well with people, but with a living thing, it is not that effective.
So humans make up parts and elements... and some seem to work to one degree or another, but nothing quite works perfectly.
The mechanical models medical "sciences" use doesn't work well at all... we have more diseases than before...
The psychological models of ego, and subconscious, and beliefs, and such don't work well either... How do we know? Because the results are temporary, or there are no results. Life is simple... The results are the shadow... showing that the method worked or didn't work. Continue reading "The puzzle that is called “human”. Your theory matters…"
The more effectively you "deal" with reality, the more you get out of your life.
Billionaires Warren Buffet and Charlie Munger, Bill Gates, read books on physics, the ice ages, and the shorelines of our planet... and I see how it helps them in dealing with reality. this is what this article is about.
The Anna Karenina Principle applies here. That is what a principle is: it applies everywhere.
A principle is a pattern. Big pattern, small pattern, it IS a pattern.1
"Happy families are all alike; every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way." By that, Tolstoy meant that for a marriage to be happy, it had to succeed in several key aspects. Failure on even one of these aspects, and the marriage is doomed . . . the Anna Karenina principle also applies to ecological risk assessments involving multiple stressors.
One of my students suggested that the linchpin capacity that humanity isn't exercising is allowing. The 12-step programs say: Let go - Let god...
I have been pondering this ever since I got the email with the suggestion. At first I didn't see the beauty of it, but it is growing on me.
Yeah, if you could let life be life, the Universe be the Universe, spring be spring, the weather be the weather, if you stopped fighting it, trying to fix it, tame it, control it, then you would be able to fall into a rhythm, a harmony, a flow. Continue reading "Patterns… or Why do billionaires read books on physics, the ice ages, the shorelines of our planet?"
You learned that the Universe, Reality, your body, other people are like a vending machine. Push a button and outcomes what you wanted.
Or a car, or an electric mixer. Mechanistic, there for your service.
Even the evil people, religion, law of attraction, manifestation people teach that... with one little twist: if you are good, then the machine will turn on and spit out what you wanted.
So these people with their little twist make it your own fault if and when it doesn't work.
But what you think about the world and the way the world works are very different.
And you go from expectation to disappointment, anger, dismay, disgust... according to your temperament. Continue reading "The life of a pinball… or Your expectations and your disappointments"
Where you are on the edge... and come back to tell the tale.
The edge? it feels like the dividing line between life and death. It is just a feeling. Some edge is quite inconsequential, but the going there is tremendous.
I signed up to be coached on Monday, and it's Sunday, and I am already "fired".
Another man's integrity may be out of integrity for you. Another man's wisdom is not YOUR wisdom. That is what happened.
I was asked to do something that doesn't agree, doesn't foster love between my two selves. Everybody is doing it... but for me to love ME, I can't do it.
If you are not free to be yourself, then your integrity number is low.
Integrity is an inside job, and only you can call the shot...
But... Without integrity nothing work. Continue reading "…And live to tell the tale…"
Every Tuesday I read my email to find my weekly horoscope, and here it goes... again. Setting a context for my life, a context I could have never dreamed up myself... Rob Brezsny and his weekly horoscopes I would not want to miss. Continue reading "The mind is the stupid part of you…"
If you find yourself on the wrong road... trace your way back to where you went astray... and choose a different road.
Why? Because trying to go across to where you really wanted to go, without going back, is fraught with death traps.
Humanity, some seven thousand years ago, took a wrong turn. In just a few words: they started to replace reality with word pictures in the mind. Concepts.
This took us to where we are now: not a pretty place. Any and every human is afflicted: no one is exempt.
An "avatar's" job is to take you backwards so you can find your way from there... They have to have earned the right... by going back personally, backtracking themselves.
Most teachers try to cut across... oh the Buddhist, oh the Zen, oh the blah blah... they must know what they are talking about... b.s.
Maybe they know, maybe they don't. But you haven't done the journey back, so you are a second-hander at best, so shut the f... up!
Continue reading "Returning to the fork in the road where you took a wrong turn"
I'll show you later in this article, that even if you eat the right things, if you eat wrongly, the how, you won't feel good... you won't get well. You won't be present to life.
And so it is with your Netflix diet as well.
Here is how I watch Netflix...
I watch only stuff that will teach me the skills by pointing me to the capacities I could distinguish and then practice. I even take notes!
Whenever I see something noteworthy, I stop and contemplate it for minutes... long minutes. I consider Netflix my mentor... Continue reading "Why and how I watch Netflix? How my Netflix diet is not binging?"
There must be something more that most people don't know or don't do...
...and neither do or know their mentors, their trainers, their managers, their teachers. 1
Capacities, DNA capacities are invisible. They are the seed level of any ability, of any success.
But this article will be about you. About your chances of being able to live a life worth living. Largely. I mean worth living most of the time.
Why not all the time? And why not gloriously?
It is too much to ask. But compared to the tasteless, joyless, have-to life you now live, a life worth living, for most of the time, is an amazing thing...
So what is the invisible part, the muddy water, that dominates your life? That makes you not enjoy life, that makes you want to go to sleepwalk, to not feel, to not be present?
It is the memes, partially, and it is you, partially.
You have no distinctions...
Let me give you an example that will shed light to what distinctions are, and why they are important.
Let's imagine that you prepare for heart surgery. Continue reading "Your world is dominated by the invisible. Get to know it… or else…"