Just think how hard it is to let go and pee, when people are, maybe, watching. Falling asleep in a new environment.
But… when you are controlling, your are shrinking. When you let go of control: you are expanding.
There are so many things to control: with your control of the few things you know, your breathing, your thoughts… you take yourself out of life, take yourself to a place, where life dies with your control.
In you, and around you.
There is an exercise they make you do in leadership classes. Two people face each other. One say names of colors, the other’s job is to repeat the word the one says.
After a while they synchronize… then they switch.
Pairs where either of them wants to control… fail. Pairs where both let go… they seem to be one mouth speaking.
Same thing happens when it is movement they mirror. The same couples fail.
When I put the word “energy” into the search box on google, most listings are about electricity, and the rest are about woo woo sites.
People still don’t understand energy. Why? Because our receptors for energy are not differentiated enough, and not connected to the conscious mind enough for us to have more words… and without words there is no understanding. 1
I have always been weather sensitive. You know those insufferable people that know what weather is coming, where the wind is coming from, the pressure and the magnetism, and don’t stop talking about it.
I didn’t talk about it, but that’s it. The rest has always been true to me. I’ve felt it, I’ve known it. Insufferable for myself… lol.
And I paid attention, so I wasn’t merely an “I am suffering” type of insufferable, suffering from the bad feelings that others could not believe I was feeling.
Science talks about genetic lottery… haves and have nots, lucky and unlucky.
The truth is both simpler and more complicated.
Human DNA has capacities encoded, but they are either turned on or not. And even capacities that are turned of, may be used, or not used.
The kids in studies who are good at reading but not good at math are dealing not with a reading gene and a math gene missing, instead they deal with something less simplistic than that.
There is no reading gene and there is no math gene. On the other hand, there are 160 genes that lie underneath all the clever feats a child or adult can perform to scientists’ amazement. Sarcasm intended.
So, let’s take an example: you got a kid who is good at reading… but isn’t good at math. I say, that the capacity that is definitely missing is humility: the capacity to say: I am incompetent, I don’t know anything: teach me.
Why? Isn’t saying “I am incompetent” going to keep me stunted? No, the opposite is true. What keeps you stunted is what you have decided is true about you and about the world.
When your earlier decision was: I am not good at math… you’ll not even try. You already know that you won’t be able to get it.
Sometimes people get an idea of activating a capacity that is so alien to their culture, it takes a good 5-10 minutes for the history channel, the ancestors backwards, to build.
It is so unfamiliar that ego doesn’t even know to protest. It is like a way of being that is totally unfamiliar… you can’t see other than special people, like kung fu fighters, or shaolin monks to demonstrate.
You talk about something miraculous, that could make all the difference for people… you speak, they listen… and nothing.
You say something profound… no echo. You ask for something, and people’s eyes are glazed over.
Well, this is a regular occurrence in my life… it’s been happening as far as I can remember. And it has happened in every language… not just in English.
I used to suffer about it. I used to blame everyone, call them stupid, etc.
There was a point, some 30 years ago, when it first occurred to me that maybe it is my job to speak in a way that people can understand, it is not their job to change how they speak.
In the game of life, when you are losing, or not winning, the two things that can be missing are moves and DNA capacities.
The game goes the way the game goes, but you can play well and with a full deck, or not. Life deals a hand that you can play to win, and you can play to lose…
Each game in life has moves. Winning moves, and losing moves. You can have all the winning moves if you can’t see the consequences of your actions, you won’t win. And even if you see the consequences of your actions (capacity), if you don’t have moves, you still lose.
You have to have the capacities and you have to have the moves to win. Both are part of the invisible.