Emotions are like firestorms, they cause incoherence, and are the most manipulated aspects of a human

eft-emotional-guidance-scaleThe best way to examine whether emotions give you a reliable internal guidance system is looking at the flip side of emotions.

In emotional terms, for example, love’s opposite is hate, disgust, being appalled, repelled. But if you look at your emotions, these opposites are right there, right behind the emotion: love… They come together like the front of your hand and the back of your hand. You are in perpetual ambivalence, yoyo-ing back and forth, ups and downs, and incoherence.

Love, the one that vibrates at 525 or so, is not an emotion. Love is a commitment to love.

Love is a commitment to accept another human exactly the way they are and exactly the way they aren’t. Whether they do the right thing, love you back, chew their food with their mouth open, lower back the lid on the toilet, or leave the top off the tooth paste.

Commitment. Not a promise, a commitment.

No ifs, no buts, no conditions.

No action necessary, just acceptance.

No show of love, no giving till it hurts, no nice talk… those are not part of love, they are societal demands.
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Your emotions make your decisions for you, not your mind. The mind only justifies your decisions

emotions vs mind making the decisions

american_goldfinch_birdbath-mindA student of mine sent me this article because of my recent discovery I talked about in the “What’s wrong with me” article, and have been elaborating on it on the free webinars that I have three times a week.

I had always taught what I learned, that first is the word, that creates the feeling, and that triggers the action. But this past Tuesday I finally put that to the test and it is now proven to be absolute horse manure: not true.

When something happens, your other than conscious mind, your emotions already react, whether you are aware of it or not. And that makes you act… even before the mind gets any of this.

Whether it is 7 seconds as they claim in this article or not, is immaterial, your mind is always late to the party…
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