Somewhere else is better than here… Something else is better than this… Someone else has it better than me

Yesterday, still recovering from my strenuous weekend, lol, I watched TED talks for a few hours, all on Emotional Intelligence.

They were all profound, and nice, and useful... and yet.

Emotional intelligence, measurable in percentages, is the ability to be appropriate to life, to dance, to get stuff done, to rest when it is time to rest, and work when it is time to work, and to love, and appreciate, and say what you need to say, when it is appropriate.

To look at things from more than just one fixed point of view, to be able to empathize, have compassion, express instead of stuff it...

You see why emotionally intelligent people get ahead in life... they are easy to be around because they are OK with themselves.

What people, psychologists, writers, etc. teach is surface.

Much like telling you to cover up chicken shit and enjoy the praline... Praline is an expensive candy... for those of you who don't know. Continue reading "Somewhere else is better than here… Something else is better than this… Someone else has it better than me"

Emotional Intelligence and your experience of life

Emotional Intelligence is a buzz word, an expression, that no one explains, and yet, everyone pretends that they know what they are talking about.

No such THING as emotional intelligence... it is made up.

And yet: some people maneuver life better than others, have less upsets, upheavals, self-hate, than others.

They take obstacles differently than others. They are OK with themselves, and they don't worry about what other people think about them. They are not attention, approval, drama seekers. They just do what they do... and let others do what others do.

We call those people emotionally intelligent.

I guess you are reading this article because you are not like that. Continue reading "Emotional Intelligence and your experience of life"

Do you have, do you create drama in your life? Excitement?… or how to become a producer instead

This article may bring some pointers how you can have a life of producing results instead of drama.

Why isn't everyone breaking a path to my door to participate in the Playground, my groundbreaking program?

When I look at my new buyer list, and the products they buy, I get a clearer sense of who I am reaching. I make no effort to reach anyone specific, anyone particular... by the way. I don't know how to reach the person who would be able and willing to even consider taking the long road to where they want to get to. People want instant of near-instant results. Titillating results.

Just like art house movies are deemed boring, because the cuts are longer than a few seconds long... paths are deemed boring, tedious, and undesirable, if they take longer than 2-3 days, or alternatively a short exciting class with magical stuff in it. Continue reading "Do you have, do you create drama in your life? Excitement?… or how to become a producer instead"

The misbuttoned shirt life and what to do about it

Emotional intelligence, emotional maturity... the end of suffering, the end of life in hell is all a result of the misbuttoned shirt life

Fiction, good fiction, allows you to have intimacy with people you never knew. And what we miss most in life is intimacy. Knowing the other, being known and accepted.

It's hard to be intimate in real life, it takes two people, two people who were hurt, maybe abused as children, so it is nearly impossible.

I listen to the partner call (from the Playground) and wish they read fiction. Reading fiction, especially children's books, is very healing.

At least for myself.

You cry, and you don't even know why, but you are healing.

Continue reading "The misbuttoned shirt life and what to do about it"

People Who Are Better At Identifying Emotions Make More Money, and have a better life

Everybody writes about recognizing other people's emotions, or recognizing your own emotions... but that is talking about the 14th floor in a building that stands in thin air... They write about what they know... because no one knows there is a missing 13th floor, because the science isn't built for the 13th floor, or not quite. It has begun by a nobody in Hungary... And the science is valid. 1

The 13th floor is the floor of feelings. And the whole world of feelings we have been discouraged to explore, no one teaches it, because a person who is grounded in their feelings cannot be duped, cannot be enslaved, cannot be used.

And a person who is grounded in their feelings and build their 14th floor and 15th floor on top of that well-developed foundation is rich without being a slave to money, enjoys life without being a slave to pleasure, loves their family without being a slave to the family, and is a contributing member of society, without being enslaved to society.

A person whose 13th floor is not built out cannot be happy, no matter how much they talk about the good life. Continue reading "People Who Are Better At Identifying Emotions Make More Money, and have a better life"