...when things are fast
You can only control what belongs to you... Your thoughts, your feelings, your emotions don't belong to you. Your actions, your attitude, what you actually heed, what you say... they do belong to you.
They are interestingly difficult to see... they are hidden from your view, overcrowded by noise.
We call these here: invisible dynamics. They are tiny machines, their behavior is predictable, manageable, and their effect on your life are detrimental. Continue reading "Focus on the things you can control… but what can you really control?"
I measure this in the Starting Point Measurements. The measure is called: "To what degree you honor your emotions as reality?"
Emotions are like the hood ornament, the painted decorations, the wheel whatever shiny things on a car. They have nothing to do with where the car is going, how the car is driving, the only things that matter.
And yet, when you observe people, they hang out there, and their life passes them by. Continue reading "Indulging in emotions and thoughts is the favorite pastime of the unproductive"
Yesterday I found a quote that shook me to my core... So I want to start with that. You could say: that quote accurately expresses my attitude about life... and I am moved by that 1
It is 60% truth value, not because 40% of it is not true, but because it doesn't quite distinguish the path, doesn't look at the invisible dynamics of life it a way, that people can catch themselves as they make themselves miserable...
It is never circumstances, nor other people that make you miserable, it is your inability: lack of distinctions, to see exactly what creates your attitude and behavior.
You can't catch what you can't see! And lack of distinction is the cause of it.
Distinction is the ability to tell two things apart, even if and when they are very similar.
Until you can... and to the degree that you can't... everything is the same for you as everything else... you are a bumbling idiot when it comes to life. Continue reading "I am starting to change my mind about Jordan Peterson. Here is a 60% truth value video"
Some of you cannot deal with complexity, and therefore you will deny your right to feel feelings. And some of you will indulge your feelings and never look, never ask any probing questions that could let you see what is really going on...
What am I talking about?
In the Playground program, always starting new groups, we attempt to bring clarity to life, we attempt to reclaim our power over our lives by separating what life seems to be, what seems to be happening in many different ways. One of these is having a "reality" side, everything a Martian could see or detect, and another that is all words. Continue reading "Feelings, emotions… what should you do with them?"
Yesterday, having several conversations with people, I decided that the best way to bring dead people back to life is to offer them the Second Phase Activators.
You see, when I look at people, they are soooo plagued by negative emotions, and they so hate them, resist them, hide from them, that they have no chance to feel anything uplifting, inspiring, heartwarming... Continue reading "Cyber Monday: Get Innocent… Get your emotions activated… or remain dead and deadened… Your choice."
You learned that the Universe, Reality, your body, other people are like a vending machine. Push a button and outcomes what you wanted.
Or a car, or an electric mixer. Mechanistic, there for your service.
Even the evil people, religion, law of attraction, manifestation people teach that... with one little twist: if you are good, then the machine will turn on and spit out what you wanted.
So these people with their little twist make it your own fault if and when it doesn't work.
But what you think about the world and the way the world works are very different.
And you go from expectation to disappointment, anger, dismay, disgust... according to your temperament. Continue reading "The life of a pinball… or Your expectations and your disappointments"
Your mind, your stupid part, has no direct knowledge about reality. It has no concern, no regard to reality... It has in it what the memes have programmed it to have... 1% reality, 99% b.s. And your mind is, therefore, your worst friend. It is killing YOU and it is killing your life... sometimes slowly, sometimes really fast. 1
Every Tuesday I read my email to find my weekly horoscope, and here it goes... again. Setting a context for my life, a context I could have never dreamed up myself... Rob Brezsny and his weekly horoscopes I would not want to miss. Continue reading "The mind is the stupid part of you…"
If you find yourself on the wrong road... trace your way back to where you went astray... and choose a different road.
Why? Because trying to go across to where you really wanted to go, without going back, is fraught with death traps.
Humanity, some seven thousand years ago, took a wrong turn. In just a few words: they started to replace reality with word pictures in the mind. Concepts.
This took us to where we are now: not a pretty place. Any and every human is afflicted: no one is exempt.
An "avatar's" job is to take you backwards so you can find your way from there... They have to have earned the right... by going back personally, backtracking themselves.
Most teachers try to cut across... oh the Buddhist, oh the Zen, oh the blah blah... they must know what they are talking about... b.s.
Maybe they know, maybe they don't. But you haven't done the journey back, so you are a second-hander at best, so shut the f... up!
Continue reading "Returning to the fork in the road where you took a wrong turn"
You just do what everyone else does, and hope for the best.
A "normal" coach only knows what they learned. Tree of Knowledge. Not worthless, but not authentic.
Most coaches have a mixed bag: they did some things, and learned others.
And a master coach is someone who not only has done it, but has done it successfully... and has produced success. Continue reading "Coaching that gets results vs. coaching that sounds so transformational!"