Self-Punishment, Self-Punishing Behavior

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This topic comes from a reader, thank you. Without her prompting I would have never looked there. It would have been a big missing.

I am going to share only what I really know, from my experience, not some theories of some big names, like Freud… I am giving you only Tree of Life.

In my experience, most people have self-punishment to some degree.

There are quite a few ways to get to guilt and shame, which is at the root of this behavior.

Self-punishment for doing something wrong, lack of self-discipline

One way is to do things that we know are wrong. We want it, desire it fervently, and then we do it. If the environment is unforgiving or we have even seen anyone punished, verbally or physically, we expect to be punished.

Desire for pleasure is like a two-sided coin (do you know a coin that is not two sided? lol). One side is the fulfillment of the want or desire for pleasure, the other side is always misery. Why? Because pleasure is momentary. It comes with a downside, and the downside is either guilt, or more desire plus guilt.
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You can’t fix being human

lying-to-continueYou can’t fix being human

..that is one of the disappointing things you learn when you do work with me. I won’t feed you baloney like “you are a spiritual being having a human experience…” and other garden variety horse manure.

The other half-sentence is just as disappointing: “you can’t get out of this life alive…”

These two half-sentences address 70% of the popular delusions of humanity.

When you internalize these truly, when you start to be energized by them then your vibration will jump 50 points or more. Continue reading “You can’t fix being human”

I hate making mistakes! don’t you?

what's the truth about you? why are you making mistakes?Correct Diagnosis is 50% of the Cure in any area of your life

In this article I am going to show an area of my life where diagnostic skills and tools have saved the day, and in fact proved to be 90% of the cure.

The process of growth is not linear. It is more like layer by layer. No matter where you are now, in order to get to the next level, you need to completely explore the level or layer where you are at.

I have been relative successful for a while now, and like any other “normal” human being, I had the illusion that I have arrived to the place where it is smooth sailing from hereon. Continue reading “I hate making mistakes! don’t you?”

Why would you want to connect to Source? Will it raise your vibration?

Let me start with the story of a famous thief…

Arthur Barry was described by Time as “The slickest second-story man in the East,” truly one of the most famous jewel thieves of all times. 1
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In his years of crime, he committed as many as 150 burglaries and stole jewels valued between $5 and $10 million.
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He seldom robbed from anyone not listed in the Social Register and often did his work in… get this…
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A tuxedo!
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Can a spiritual capacity turn off ADHD-like symptoms? Procrastination?

I feel and I behave like an injured quarterback without my usual programs at my usual computer.

And the big winter storm is here… so I most likely won’t get the new computer on Thursday… Eh, we’ll just limp along, and it will turn out the way it will turn out… I can handle it.

One of the topics that have come up from students over the past few days is their difficulty to focus.

I say it is ADHD. Now, I am not a doctor, but then again, that’s a good thing. Because as long as you have some medication to take, you don’t pay attention to anything: you let the meds do the work, and you become a slave. Even if the meds work, Actually, especially if the meds work.

I don’t have ADHD. But I do have, from time to time, ADHD symptoms. Continue reading “Can a spiritual capacity turn off ADHD-like symptoms? Procrastination?”

A great little exercise to cause self-love…

Last night, in bed, I accidentally hugged myself.

Then, unexpectedly, I said to myself: I love you, little one. And then the “fun” began… The emotional dings, the doubt, the questioning, the grief.

Hoho… I said, what’s going on?

The little voice said: why would you love me?

Because I do… I said.

Do you love me, even though the house looks like a mess?

I don’t love your house, I love you. house, no house, mess, no mess… I love you.

oh. But do you love me even though I am getting old?
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How will you reclaim your life from the machine… one great way: handle just one feeling!

anchor to doomI wrote this article back in 2012. It talks about one of the most important invisible dynamics of the human condition… your homepage. I am republishing it to give you a fuller picture of this invisible dynamic… so crucial to your future, to your results, to you becoming an expanding human being.

Here is the original article:

I’ve been trying to teach a new way to connect to Source. It would give you a lot more control over your attention, over your connection, and a lot better results overall.

The difference would be the greatest in the speed with which you would incorporate the activators: instead of having to repeat them 10-20-30 times, just a few repetitions would get you the same amazing results.

I have made, so far, four attempts. Each more disappointing than the next. Continue reading “How will you reclaim your life from the machine… one great way: handle just one feeling!”

Expectations, Self-Image, and your future results: should you expect the best?

illusion, beautiful illusionI have a friend who is around 4 years older than me, he is in his 70’s. We have been talking once a week for about seven years.

He would like to retire, but his business is in decline, and there is nothing to sell: he is a glorified self-employed person.

Since I have known him, he bought about 15 money making programs, only to drop them after a weak attempt, after losing money with it, or even without trying.
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Molecules of Emotion… Are you suppressing the negative?

Summary: Emotions… without emotions you feel deadened. But you only want good emotions… unfortunately, for you, you can’t have the good without the bad, life is a roller coaster, and you would hate to be stranded on the top of the peak anyway…

I listened to the audiobook, Molecules of Emotions some 10 years ago in the car. It’s a book written by a scientist, Candace Pert.

I did not set out to be a scientist of emotions… but I was eminently suited: instead of just talking about it, instead of writing about, I can actually verify the “findings”, verify or un-verify the theories by feeling.

Our language doesn’t keep up with the emotions: just like we don’t have words for the billions of colors that can be created with the four base colors of light, red, blue and yellow… and of course white… we don’t have accurate words for the feelings that are a combination, an energetic combination of base feelings.
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Raise your vibration? It’s a Hero’s Journey

katara water benderIf you are here, I know a thing or two about you.

One of the most important things I know is that you are smart. That you have earned to be here. You have tried a lot of other teachers or gurus or methods or tools to get what you want: more energy, better decisions, more love, more peace, a sense of meaning in your life.

There is no way to throw a dart and get to the right solution, every mistake you make, every wrong turn, wrong decision, believing false promises, falling pray to money-sucking gurus or cults have caused you to get here, zig-zag.

The more often you have been disappointed, the more hopeless it seemed, the more of your funds were eaten up, the smarter you have become, and the more ready you have become to actually see your way, do your work. You haven’t given up. Good. Continue reading “Raise your vibration? It’s a Hero’s Journey”