The Producers, The Takers, The Waiters, The Hopers, The Wanters… Which One Are You?

In this article that i started seven years ago, I looked at what it is that separates from Producers from Hunters and gatherers

I had a conversation with my friend, Nancy F., yesterday. The topic of the conversation, after some wild twists and turns, settled on what is the secret of Jewish people's success.

Nancy F. has always wanted what Jews had, without having to be a Jew or doing what a Jew does... lol.

Much like my next door neighbor.

She want to be an Israelite without becoming an Israelite.

Here is an example: I look out the window between our houses. I mostly look to see if the mailman has been here so I don't have to go downstairs and climb back a few times a day. Our mail comes at unpredictable times. Continue reading "The Producers, The Takers, The Waiters, The Hopers, The Wanters… Which One Are You?"

The fear of finding out… the fear of being found out

We have the real self and the false self, there's nothing wrong with them, and everyone has both of them.

Given the two selves everyone has, being afraid to be found out is normal.

And being afraid to upset the apple cart aka ess (evolutionary stable strategy) is even more obvious. 1

In playing Freecell, one of the things I am experimenting with is moving stuff around, so the covered cards can be revealed.

It's not a hasty, scrambling type of move... it is methodical, and scary.

Human tendency is to hold onto your gains. The ess. Every time I experience the resistance, I bring in the "upsetting the apple cart" and then I experience the breakthrough.

If it is a principle that all the power is tied up in the hidden dimension, what is hidden from your view...

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The life of a pinball… or Your expectations and your disappointments

Your expectations and your disappointments reveal to you and to everyone who knows anything about the unconscious world view that makes sure you are miserable.

You learned that the Universe, Reality, your body, other people are like a vending machine. Push a button and outcomes what you wanted.

Or a car, or an electric mixer. Mechanistic, there for your service.

Even the evil people, religion, law of attraction, manifestation people teach that... with one little twist: if you are good, then the machine will turn on and spit out what you wanted.

So these people with their little twist make it your own fault if and when it doesn't work.

But what you think about the world and the way the world works are very different.

And you go from expectation to disappointment, anger, dismay, disgust... according to your temperament. Continue reading "The life of a pinball… or Your expectations and your disappointments"

…And I recoil from dirty laundry…

I should be doing some laundry. I have run out of socks... And anyways, I want to tame this beast of not doing my laundry.

I gather a load's worth of stuff, carry it to the washing machine... and the distaste, the disgust is so strong... I take a beeline... and sit down by my computer.

Distaste, eh? Yeah, says muscle test. Disgust? yes. Was it always there? No. Was it from when i was 3? later... from age seven.

What was happening at age seven? I went to school. We had a live-in help: my mother was working on her Masters Degree, coming home around nine every night. My brother was about a year old... and was probably driving the live-in help bonkers.

And I recoil from dirty laundry...

I sit really quietly. The fear joins the distaste. I feel terror. I feel being beaten. Screamed at. Wrapped in wet sheets... Can't breathe...

I must have wet my bed. I don't remember. My body remembers. The fear, the disgust, the gagging.

The body remembers.
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The Enchanted Forest, Fairy Tales, and how to start living like a person

I have one student who actually is doing the work the way the work was meant to be done.

It sounds meager... but it is all I ever wanted... really.

If you have one student who actually does what you teach, you can tell if what you teach works or not. Or tweak what you teach to accommodate the difficulties they experience. And watch if the changes you made will make the results match what you intended to accomplish.

What do the rest of the people do? I mean the students in the same program? I am not sure. Apple polishing? Feeble attempts to fake me?

Humans live this fake, apple polishing lives, thinking that life should respond to their feeble attempts, to their intention, to their desire, or whatever the heck they were taught should change reality to what they want reality to be.

This, humanity, humans, include the millions of writers who dish out advice... Continue reading "The Enchanted Forest, Fairy Tales, and how to start living like a person"

…And live to tell the tale…

You want to live a life where you say this about yourself, a lot. "...And I lived to tell the tale..."

Where you are on the edge... and come back to tell the tale.

The edge? it feels like the dividing line between life and death. It is just a feeling. Some edge is quite inconsequential, but the going there is tremendous.

I signed up to be coached on Monday, and it's Sunday, and I am already "fired".

Another man's integrity may be out of integrity for you. Another man's wisdom is not YOUR wisdom. That is what happened.

I was asked to do something that doesn't agree, doesn't foster love between my two selves. Everybody is doing it... but for me to love ME, I can't do it.

If you are not free to be yourself, then your integrity number is low.

Integrity is an inside job, and only you can call the shot...

But... Without integrity nothing work. Continue reading "…And live to tell the tale…"

How does your past get into your future… and make you repeat the same life

I have an older blog that is attacked by hackers every week. They install malware... so I don't want you to go there...

It's an old website, more than 10 years ago it was my main blog. Most of it is still useful. 1

I have started to move the old blog posts, one by one, to my yourvibration.com site.

One of those posts reminded me, that until you get what I am writing in it, your future will be much like your past.

While I was researching for pictures, I found that what I am teaching is against the mainstream ineffective, all in the visible... the mind is powerful type of teaching.

Reality, if you watch a person, reality doesn't work the way THOSE people, those memes, those motivational speakers tell you it works. The nature of reality is that 90% of what moves anything or anyone, the CAUSE, is in the invisible/unconscious domain of life. Continue reading "How does your past get into your future… and make you repeat the same life"

“Either everybody counts or nobody counts”

20 years ago I had my first entrepreneur value profile done.

It was some 30 pages long... a lot of English. But it said something like: I don't work well through others...

Bummer...

A year or two later I got my certification to become a value profile consultant. Then I learned to see all that the 30 page said in English (meaning lots of words) at a glance on a grid.

My starting point measurements is a lot like that grid. It is more meant for the coach/consultant to know how to guide you, than for you to enjoy reading to indulge your delusional self.

Sigh.

So today, 20 years later, I looked at coaching, both as a client and as a provider. Continue reading "“Either everybody counts or nobody counts”"

What is real? What is made up? How can you tell?

I have read all the One minute books... I saw that the One Minute Manager touched on my Achilles' Heel...

Each of these One minute books teaches some attitude, or a thing to do, that makes you and the people you work with happier, more productive, etc.

Except...

Occam's razor says: everything should be as simple as it can be but not simpler.

Pop psychology is simplistic. You find yourself nodding vigorously as you read it. But when it comes to doing it... oops. You cannot do it.

The One Minute manager's job is to catch people doing the right things.

Most people cannot. Most people keep their eyes on what you do wrong, what they do wrong... what needs to be fixed. But most importantly they cannot see what is. Continue reading "What is real? What is made up? How can you tell?"

When you are afraid… what is there to do?

I am doing a business project with my brand spanking new coach... and...

As it was predictable, this is my fourth day only, I already got to a place, where fear is coming up.

I am glad, because I am so rarely afraid. This will give me an opportunity to notice something Tree of Life for my scaredy cat clients and students.

So I am afraid. IT, the voice, is whispering sweet nothings into my ear, lol. "It's not important." "You are already fine." "What if you lose all the money you've made?" "he doesn't know..." Continue reading "When you are afraid… what is there to do?"