What is the most important skill to develop and keep using, daily, if you want to live a life you love?

We live as if things never changed. Even though we hear, read, that the only thing that is constant in life is change.

And yet, our minds, the machine-like part of us that cannot learn, won't learn, and fancies itself YOU... our minds tell us, moment to moment, that life will remain the way it is in that moment.

Is that crazy or what?

  • When something bad happens, the reaction is not to the bad thing, but to the idea that the results of the bad thing are life-long.
  • When something good happens, the reaction is not to the good thing. It is to the idea, to the notion, to the certainty, that the good thing will last a lifetime.
  • When you are well... you are sure you'll be always well. When you feel sick, you are sure that unless you fix it, you'll never feel good again. Gloom and doom, or yippee... all is wonderful. The roller coaster, I call it.

So in light of this behavior of the mind: what is the most important skill? Continue reading "What is the most important skill to develop and keep using, daily, if you want to live a life you love?"

Why Most People Will Remain in Mediocrity

Most people will never become truly successful.

“It’s lonely at the top. 99% of people are convinced they are incapable of achieving great things, so they aim for mediocre. The level of competition is thus fiercest for ‘realistic’ goals, paradoxically making them the most competitive.”

-Tim Ferriss

Most people will never be truly successful.

The pull towards mediocrity is too strong. As David Schwartz once penned, “All around you is an environment that is trying to pull you down to Second-Class Street.”

Most people will never escape the pull. Continue reading "Why Most People Will Remain in Mediocrity"

Reframing: What is your higher power?

Frame: Your higher power? 1

Back in 1988 I had an emotional meltdown. I suddenly remembered things from my childhood.

I was suggested by someone in Landmark that it would be beneficial for me to join an ACOA group. Adult Children of Alcoholics and Dysfunctional Families.

I did. I had clear signals that I belonged. #1 of the identifying features of ACOA people is "I don't know who I am". 2

Anyway, an ACOA group is not a fun place. Continue reading "Reframing: What is your higher power?"

How to access the invisible so you can have more power in your life?

It's Saturday. The only reason I know it is Saturday because tomorrow I'll have the first session of Version 2 of the muscle testing course.

And I am afraid. Normal. Anything new, anything threatening with unexpected unknowns creates fear. Normal.

So I stayed in semi-sleep mode an hour longer than my normal getup time... Looking.

I looked at all the relevant invisible elements of my life, to see where I can influence this fear... and how. Not that fear is bad... but I prefer life with less fear. Continue reading "How to access the invisible so you can have more power in your life?"

Gloomy Sunday

As I said in a previous article, movies that you have an unusual affinity with are a great indication of some hidden belief that has an effect on your life.

This past year I have been asking and getting guidance. The guidance happens through movies, books, mostly.

I have Netflix. I don't know what's fashionable, what's hip, and that helps. Ego and the collective ego isn't driving my actions.

This is how this movie "Gloomy Sunday" showed up on my screen. Horrible title, if you ask me! And it's a Hungarian movie, dubbed in German, with English subtitles. It was a Gloomy Sunday, and I decided to watch it.

I had prejudice on top of prejudice, but the Gloomy Sunday was there, and it was clear it was there for me. Continue reading "Gloomy Sunday"

Success Loves Speed

Success Loves Speed... why is that? what does that look like in real life?

I have a simple tale to share, and it will become clear:

I have liked this guy for quite some time. He sounded firm, no b.s., and he left a nice comment for my blog.

I asked for his skype contact and we spoke. He sounded like someone I should do a project with. He had skills I didn't, research, finding joint venture partners, so we discussed what we could do together, and after some discussion we settled on creating a product together: he interviews me on how to measure your vibration, how to measure anything, and stuff like that. Piece of cake.

We started out, had 3 audios made, when time came for the fourth, he was away on a hockey tournament for his son. Then finally he came back. It took us a long time to remember what we had been doing. Then he took a week off to do his taxes.

By that time I had no interest in doing the interviews, I had moved on to other projects.
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