Become all you can become with Sophie
He that won't be counselled, can't be helped
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You cannot change something if you don’t know what causes it…
Thoreau thought misplaced value was the cause: We feel a void in our lives, and we attempt to fill it with things like money, possessions, and accolades.
I say that the truth is deeper than that. Continue reading “The simple skills to rise above what bothers you”
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All emotions speak!
I have, until a few minutes ago, thought that to be frustrated something needs to be block or hinder you in an action…
I am finding out that frustration is actually synonymous with disappointment. Continue reading “What is frustration? And what does it say?”
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Integrity is an inside job. It is between you and yourself.
Everyone has two selves, one that is perfect, and the other that is flawed.
The perfect one is generous, loving, unconditionally. It is compassionate.
The flawed one KNOWS, i.e. assumes that it is judged, looked down upon, and is full of hatred, anger, fear, anxiety, rebellion, and expects to be loved and accepted the way it is… and even though is loved, and accepted… it can only feel its own emotions.
This is so with every emotion. You can’t feel the love that is coming towards you. You can only feel the love that you feel for the other, Your love. Your anger. Your hate.
So no matter how much the perfect self loves the flawed self, the flawed self will feel judged… hated, despised, etc.
I have been observing my clients and my students, and there is one common characteristic that only varies in intensity: and that is self-hate… and stinginess towards self… as in punishing the self for not being perfect. Continue reading “Self-love, self-hate… let’s dig deep on these, shall we?”
You live life as if some things were better than others, as if some things are wrong, and other things are right.
Truth is, these are all memes 1. This is not how life works.
Life works with physical laws, some of them we know, others we don’t, but they are laws nevertheless.
The difference between a physical/natural law and a rule is that for a law to be law you don’t have to agree to it for it to do what it does… But rules for them to be working on all involved, have to be accepted, agreed to, and bear the consequences if you don’t. Continue reading “Rule-making, rule-accepting separates you from reality”
