What shall I do with my own negativity? Can I?

Originally posted 2011-02-17 08:37:36.

What shall I do with my negativity?

Most people ask me what they should do about other people’s negativity… but ultimately you can’t change anything there, you can only change yourself.

So, what can you do with your negativity?

There are permanent and temporary solutions. But even if you do permanent solutions, you will need to maintain mental hygiene, just like you need to wash your hands all the time, or cut your nails.

Temporary solutions work best if you have lots of discipline and are able to be self-aware close to 24/7.

negativity is like weedsThe art is catching yourself in the act of negativity, and of course to do that you need to know all the ways negativity expresses itself.

It’s a lot like weeding. Weeds are stronger than cultivated plants and grow faster too. Same is the situation with negativity.

Another similarity with weeds is that you can remove the top of the weed plant, or you can remove it from its deep roots.

A few years ago I took a sabbatical, and all summer I worked on a small patch of ground that was full of weeds. Had I suspected that the weeds spread by deeps horizontal shoots on the roots, I would have probably left the whole thing alone, but I didn’t. And once I declared war on the weeds I stuck with it.

I was: it is either the weeds, or me! And I needed all the energy from that battle-cry! Some roots were as deep as two feet, but I got to them, and I was relentless.

negativity: need to pull it by the roots and make sure it doesn't grow backIn the following years weeding was a once a week task, and it worked. I completely pulled those darn roots. It was probably also important that I planted a strong ground-cover type of vegetation.

This second type of weeding is the “Permanent” solution, you pull the roots and you establish an environment that is not conducive for the negativity to re-establish itself. You still need to be mindful and pick out the occasional negative thoughts you catch but

  1. the new ground cover: new beliefs and feelings will leave less room for negativity
  2. your accomplishments, your relationships that are suddenly nurturing, your health that is suddenly robust will keep negativity away from you.

When Does Tithing Activate The Law Of Attraction?

Originally posted 2011-02-13 20:14:34.

tithing: does it activate the law of attraction?Tithing Or Not Tithing, That Is The Question. Does tithing really work?

Now, why does this issue come up, and why now?

I have a client who asked this question, and because he has given me an opportunity to think this over, maybe even channel a little bit of knowledge, here is what I have come up with so far:

Tithing requires you to give from the seed level of vibration of gratitude. From that frequency you can activate value exchange. A value exchange, from a place of equal values changing hands, not from a place of being a bottomless pit in need, asking for handout, asking for more than you can give back. 1 What does that mean? Tithing is a kind of thank-you, appreciation (acknowledging value) expressed on the level of gratitude. 2

So when people ask: what is the vibrational frequency of money, they really should say: what is the vibrational frequency of equal trade? I give you this and you give me that, and we are both winners.

As such a tool tithing works miracles, but there is a problem. Continue reading “When Does Tithing Activate The Law Of Attraction?”

No One CAN Do It FOR You… And Even if They Could…

Originally posted 2008-11-15 08:02:53.

Most “do-it-for-you” programs don’t work. Why? Are they bad? Are they fakes, thieves, or is there something in our design as human beings that prevents us from taking advantage of these opportunities. This is what this article is about. Surprising. Documented. True. Continue reading “No One CAN Do It FOR You… And Even if They Could…”

Humanity has a tendency to use shortcuts to get there faster

Humanity has a tendency to use shortcuts to get there faster***… Where is there? Nowhere, really, so it is all about the faster, the cheaper, the less effort for humanity. Going nowhere fast.

Was it always so? No.

I have a theory that humanity cycles through phases of being… beingness… that are, maybe the same as the book ‘Pendulum‘ teaches. The book says that the beingness humanity cycles through is the degree to which it is about ‘me’ or it is about ‘us’. Continue reading “Humanity has a tendency to use shortcuts to get there faster”

Equality, racist, collusion, big words you throw around

The other day I used the free community van to get to stores I cannot get to easily on my own.

Note: in the illustrations I am not taking sides. I am illustrating that there is confusion and disagreement in what race. what is racist. what is racism, and what it does is it makes people rigid, lie about what they think, and vote for Trump… ugh.

The driver of the van has a PhD in sociology He asked me if it bothered me if he continued to listen to NPR radio, National Public Radio. There was a public debate on Trump and on the question whether he was a racist or not. Continue reading “Equality, racist, collusion, big words you throw around”

Empath? Sensitive? What is the difference?

the difference between an empath and youAs almost all Tuesdays, one of the first things I do is I read my Rob Brezsny horoscope.

For more than 10 years it was always a perfect match to how I felt, what I felt I needed… and this consistency, during this pandemic, has been broken.

But today it might be just spot on… It says that ‘In the coming weeks, I’ll encounter people and animals and places and experiences that can bring me into more intimate contact with my soul

The question, the big question is this: how do you know that you are in touch with your soul? Will some heavenly music play? Will the soul actually talk English? Or how? Continue reading “Empath? Sensitive? What is the difference?”

Your life script and how to tweak it so you start getting what you want?

mind patternSuccess or Failure in life… where do they come from? Do you ever ponder that question? How come some people are successful and others are not, even though seemingly they do the same things?

Consider this: The mind is a pattern creator. It is not interested, fundamentally unconcerned about your thriving or success, it is interested in surviving itself and once survived, staying the same. It creates the beginnings of a pattern every time you survive. And it continues to do so till you die. That’s why behavior scientists say it takes 21 days to change a behavior: a new pattern needs to be created.

Some patterns are deeper than others…

Continue reading “Your life script and how to tweak it so you start getting what you want?”

How to become whole and complete? Like good soup…

What kind of soup are you?Tai Lopez uses an analogy that really talks to me. He says that we need to be like a soup. Our knowledge, our lives needs to be like good soup.

What does it mean to be a good soup?

You can’t make a good soup with just a few ingredients. You need a lot of ingredients to make a soup that you don’t have to make edible by crumbling crackers into it, or bread.

Some poor man’s soups, onion soup, garlic soup, ‘rue’soup in Hungary, are so uninteresting that you can’t eat it without putting bread in them. The versions with poached egg, cheese melted on top, etc. are the restaurant versions of the same soups… but the soup itself is a poor man’s soup. Poor as in not having much to give. Continue reading “How to become whole and complete? Like good soup…”

The benefits, the drawbacks of a true empath coach

Most people, including coaches, are too wrapped up in their thoughts, in what they want, etc.

They cannot see outside of it… In essence they are locked into the nine dots… the famous exercise.

Here is another one I learned this morning, and I fell into the same nine dots trap…

A father and a son has a car accident. The emergency services take them to different hospitals given their injuries. Continue reading “The benefits, the drawbacks of a true empath coach”

The emotions that you are a slave to are manipulated… Emotional Intelligence Part two

This is part two of an article I started yesterday

I have a client whose soul correction is Fear/Fearless. She asked me how to get rid of that fear.

She is young, she is impressionable, and she acts fearful. She will have a lot of problems in life from that: it will keep her a child needing protection, someone else to look out for her.

Not what Life wants her to be.

Your soul correction is a particular way you lean away from Life, you turn away from Life: you don’t take responsibility and accountability for yourself and your life.

Life whats what Hillel the elder said some 2100 years ago:

If you are not for you, who is for you?

In this article we’ll examine what is ‘being for yourself’ means… be prepared to be surprised, my students were when they found out. Continue reading “The emotions that you are a slave to are manipulated… Emotional Intelligence Part two”