This word, trust, has been coming up disproportionately too often, in conversations with my students. I consider that guidance, so let me start exploring trust: what it is, what it isn’t, and how to deal with lack of trust, or different forms of distrust.
I had a great opportunity to observe myself today. My website host shut down my site for a reason of their own. A year ago that was a daily occurrence, but this was a first since.
First I sent them an email asking them to restore the site. Waited 20 minutes, then got on instant chat. I was seething inside, and was formulating defiant answers to their “inevitable” demands, their “despotic” control, and I formulated threats in my mind.
I was watching this drama unfold in my mind, with great curiosity. I didn’t get involved, I was watching from the “Observer” position. I asked the angry mind to just hang in there, and see what will happen. Wait and see…
The issue resolved itself, at least temporarily, without me saying anything, good or bad.
So, you ask, how is this relevant in a “trust” article. I’ll tell you: the way we have trust is an incorrect use of the word: we have no idea what trust is, because it hasn’t been distinguished, and the media, parents, school, society is using it for everything and their opposite.
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