I watch, I observe people’s behavior and the emotions that go with it.
Unless I can see what you did, your emotions and much of your behavior don’t make sense.
And occasionally I get the opportunity to see both the actions and the emotions…
The most frequent behavior is you acting without looking.
Promising without looking. Saying/answering a question without looking.
What’s the emotion?
Anxiety… afraid of the future… Rightfully
Much like a drunk jumps into an empty pool… expecting it to be full.
You buy something. You are on the payment page. You assume you know what’s there… you are not looking. You don’t even suspect that you are signing up to a monthly program as well… and that you need to “un-tick” the box if you don’t want it.
Continue reading “Why you are not confident… Why you don’t trust yourself… Why you aren’t happy…”
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Yesterday and especially today I had plenty of reasons to not want to face what there was to face: that we are the problem. Especially if and when we think it’s others.
I haven’t done MY
soul searching, but I will, I promise.
For now, just to document it, I’d like to address what I have seen.
One client paid me to remove her children’s
I am still working on the second child, and this is what I have seen:
If you live inside a strong judgmental world of your own, where everyone, maybe including yourself, is wrong, then you are the Dark Side in your and your children’s life.
Continue reading “Are you part of the problem or part of the solution? Don’t be hasty answering…”
Your vibration, your creativity, your truth value all depends on your cone of vision… But until you see that you have a narrow cone of vision, that you look at things with narrow cone of vision, or a narrow filter, you won’t want to make it wider.
Wide cone of vision means inclusive… narrow cone of vision is exclusive… exclusive of areas that you KNOW don’t matter, don’t belong, or you don’t like them. Exclusive because you KNOW the answer…
The most exciting insights first show up in the corner of your eyes… Which means they are literally outside of your cone of vision.
One way I see this is how attached you are to one area of life, or one way to do it, or one problem you have.
Continue reading “To what degree is your life fragmented?”
We all have two selves. One is real, the other is made up.
The bigger the distance between the two, the less authentic, the less happy we are.
When you love yourself: you love your life… said in another way: when the two selves are in harmony, you love your life.
The soul’s (the real self) job is to cause character, the soul’s job is to help you find out who you are. The Self. The person you are…
Many of you have not managed to distinguish a Self from all the ideas of who you should be, who you want to be, who you fancy yourself being… The precious I, the delusional self.
A Self is your “I” that is independent and defensible from other people’s opinion, and from even your own opinion of you… when you make mistakes.
I know this is a mouthful, so let me elaborate:
Continue reading “Many of you don’t have a Self… here is how to find your Self”
One of my favorite movies is a Coen brothers movie, True Grit
It comes up for me 4-5 times a year, to ponder who had the true grit… the little girl or the big drunkard marshal?
VIDEO Which, as it turns out, isn’t the right question.
Continue reading “Your soul correction in your favorite movies, the ones that come up in your memory again and again”
I just learned something terrible about myself. A lot of people hear me as if I were their father.
You see, in my family I was the dunce… meaning stupid. And even though I had straight A grades, and I was good at everything I tried, I remained stupid for my family.
How this works I don’t know. But this seems to be the dynamic: people make a decision about you, and then they never really look at you again.
You take it on, as the truth, and freeze into it. You allow it to guide you through life.
With me it was a little different, because I am defiant. I am not defiant to the person who speaks it, I am defiant to the saying. I am going to prove them wrong.
My brother, my older brother was the apple of my mother’s eye. He was smart, and good looking. And a boy. He had no challenge (as far as I can see it) because he didn’t look at life’s challenges as challenges… he didn’t study, and his grades were pitiful.
Continue reading “Fighting windmills? No time to do good stuff, let alone great stuff?”
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All mischief and all power comes from the invisible. Invisible to you, and maybe invisible to society.
It’s not hidden. It is just not obvious to the untrained eyes. What your eyes need is training and guidance.
My methodology, observing life through many distinctions, is a winning one.
It drives up, and makes visible what has thus far been invisible.
Racket, frame, memes, voices, states… the distinctions are all opportunities to see another aspect of the invisible, and gain control over yourself, so you can start moving in the direction of the good life, whatever good life is for you.
your soul correction. It is a distinction to look through and see some formerly invisible stuff. Continue reading “The methodology of making the invisible visible”
Confession time: I have a very small window where I experience being physically well. Or emotionally well. I am not very sturdy.
I have a tiny tolerance to heat, a small tolerance to cold, a small tolerance to running on empty.
Especially painful and unsettling for me is running on empty… while you, while most people spend their daily energy allotment on trivial things, and then run on fumes all day.
For me, that is unbearable, intolerable, hell.
Continue reading “MVP… Life’s most valuable player? Minimum viable product? What is the connection?”
In this article I will use ‘deserving factor’ and ‘your worth a damn factor’ interchangeably. Do they mean the same thing? I don’t know. My clarity, even after having written this article is 70%… Compared to the 10% it was when I started writing it.
I just came back from climbing the steps for the second time.
I went back to step 1 on my 67 steps. I am finding that the foundational steps are really foundational, and I better hang out there a few times, to really harvest the value of the whole 67 steps.
The first step is about
your deserving factor. Tai says that you have what you have deserved.
But I noticed, that instead I hear something else: I hear “my value…” or “how valuable am I?” so my precious “I” starts worrying.
Continue reading “Are you worth a damn? What is your deserving factor? Where do you look to answer?”
The way to find the strait and narrow of happiness (See The Anna Karenina Principle) is to watch the feedback … and self-correct.
Yesterday I added integrity to the
starting point measurements. so far all people I measured ranked on 3 out of 100. Wow.
I had an exchange of text messages with a guy, whose vibration was low, and that is all he asked for. His vibration.
He is a Polish person, part of the Starseed Global Alliance to save the earth or something. To me it sounds like a computer game… to him: it is reality.
Continue reading “Love feedback or else… Make it a feedback loop…”