You create your future with your words... spoken or unspoken.
What is a future?
A future is not real... and yet it appears real. There is no past in reality and there is no future. Only the present moment, how things are.
The past lives in your memory, 80% is words, 20% is perception organs information. But even those 20% are "colored" by what you said about it.
I have had quite a few Irish clients who were disciplined by their parents, mostly the mother. It was a ritual. Pull down your pants, fetch the paddle or the ladle or the hairbrush for your mother... lie over her knees, and there you went. You knew what you did that didn't meet your mother's expectations of you.
Most of us have two modes when we think about things:
1. the urgent, the right now, the emergency, the having to, needing to, wanting to, and the should. Pay the bill, pick up the kid, what to have for dinner, what am I forgetting?
2. the some day one day future. Retirement. Summer vacation. Getting married. When I have lost all this weight. When I'll have my horse farm. When I have my retirement community that I built and I will be significant, and rich. When I'll be a rock star.
I remember when it was like that for me. And, to be quite hones, it is still work to dislodge myself and think of the in-between.
Without working TOWARDS something, it is natural to fall into the same old, same old, or good enough is good enough. The rut.
Yesterday I spent about four hours listening to Jordan Peterson. The material I listened to was a truth value of 30%... not bad.
In some ways Jordan Peterson, the teacher, and I, the teacher, deal with the same things: people don't see why they should learn.
Many reasons, I see, but one of them is fundamental, and also invisible, meaning it is an invisible part of reality, the part that is below the sea level of the iceberg. It's not hidden, as one of my students says... although Werner calls the process that makes it visible "unconcealing" suggesting that it is concealed, which is another word for hidden.