The empath’s guide to: How to not feel alone, isolated, abandoned, not belonging…

You look around. Everyone seems to have it better than you. They laugh, they hug, they walk hand in hand, kiss... or have friends who like them... but you? If feels like you have no one, no one cares about you, no one responds well to you... You are not getting enough "strokes"... from others.

A "stroke" (in Transactional Analysis) is a unit of social transaction. A hug. A nod. A smile. A hello, a thank you, a "how are you?", or an f... you.... these are all social transactions. The more strokes you get the less your spine will shrivel up on you...

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The puzzle that is called “human”. Your theory matters…

Humans are an unpredictable mystery, and therefore have given rise to many many theories.

The way humans examine things to make sense of them is by taking them apart. It works relative well with people, but with a living thing, it is not that effective.

So humans make up parts and elements... and some seem to work to one degree or another, but nothing quite works perfectly.

The mechanical models medical "sciences" use doesn't work well at all... we have more diseases than before...

The psychological models of ego, and subconscious, and beliefs, and such don't work well either... How do we know? Because the results are temporary, or there are no results. Life is simple... The results are the shadow... showing that the method worked or didn't work. Continue reading "The puzzle that is called “human”. Your theory matters…"

Law of Attraction vs. Victim Mentality… Choose!

I wrote this article back in 2007, when I was in Pam Ragland's course...

I want to address the phenomenon of the "Law of Attraction" vs. "victim mentality" in today's post.

Most of us interpret the Law of Attraction as a kind of "Cosmic Soup Kitchen" where you sit at a table, a waitperson comes and takes your order, and then you wait for your order to come.

Sometimes your order comes, sometimes it doesn't. Sometimes you get something totally different, something that you didn't want.

Some people's order comes faster than yours, some others' slower, or never.

It all seems random, and capricious. Like the Universe is playing a game with you.

Frustrating to most, happy and great for some. It seems like there are chosen people, or lucky, and something invisible marks YOU as the one who should never get ahead, never get what you want.

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I have been toying with the idea of teaching the Effortless Abundance Course…

I have been toying, playing with the idea of teaching the Effortless Abundance Course...

What has been blocking me is the kinds of people who want it.

You see effortless is a lie... although efforting, per se, 1 is unnecessary.

Efforting is a concept. But doing things, learning things, unlearning things, is sometimes hard work. And for most people, who are attracted to the Effortless Abundance idea, work is a dirty word. Continue reading "I have been toying with the idea of teaching the Effortless Abundance Course…"

How old is your child self that is running your life to the ground?

What is an adult, what is a child... and does your ego-state (Child, Parent, Adult) influence how much money you have, how much love you have, how healthy you are? 1

In the starting point measurements I measure (#19) To what degree you have access to your adult capacities. 2 or asked in another way, how much does your adult run your life? The more adult the more results...

And how much is the child running your life, how much is it running your life to the ground?

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Do you feel responsible for what others say about you? The savior racket

Soul correction, responsibility, what is yours and what is not

First Lady Eleanor Roosevelt said it best: what others think about me is none of my business.

For most this is the hardest thing to learn. Continue reading "Do you feel responsible for what others say about you? The savior racket"

Why you can’t tell if somebody is smart or not… Because in the dark all cats are gray

One of the most surprising thing in the world of humans is that humans can't tell if they are smart or not. This error leads to lives that are not fulfilled, filled with fear, trepidation, or on the other extreme: boasting and disappointment. 1

I just watched two episodes of a Korean series where most people were dimwitted.

Dimwitted is just another word for "not smart"... but it is a good word because you can see that something is dimmed... as in "it's dark here... you can't see much".

I like this word because it is more accurate than most. Continue reading "Why you can’t tell if somebody is smart or not… Because in the dark all cats are gray"

I want to be like the Soup Nazi

Why am I such a Nazi when it comes to who I am willing to work with?

Remember the soup Nazi? Who ran his soup takeout shop like a prison camp? And people lined up and waited patiently to be given soup... that was so good, and so hard to come by, they were willing to earn it... I want to be like the soup Nazi.

Like everyone, my energy is finite. I can't whip out extra at the drop of a hat... I am human. Continue reading "I want to be like the Soup Nazi"

Why do you choose the shotgun method that doesn’t work, while you know that the process method works?

I am reading this guy's book. I say "this guy" because I don't want you to read it. I want you to read my blog...

In a lot of ways he and I teach the same things, even though we use different words. He uses words from psychology and woowoo science... I use words like Amish Horse Training Method, Memes, Marker Feelings.

He is a money/marketing man. His vibration is 200, his accurate vocabulary is 600.

He is proof that you don't have to have a very high vibration to be able to look from high enough so you see enough to make millions and even teach others to make millions. Continue reading "Why do you choose the shotgun method that doesn’t work, while you know that the process method works?"

Can you predict the future? Can you pick the next big winner?

My last article, the shotgun method has missed its target... few even understood what the heck I was talking about.

Regardless, I am continuing on the theme, because this is one of the stumbling block for most of you... so although you don't know what is eating your lunch... although you have no idea how you are screwing up, I do, and I am here to help you till you get it. I already have a third article in the pipeline... ;-/

About a month ago I finally and suddenly got ready to pick a marketing mentor. Terry Dean is his name... and as soon as I can afford it, I'll also book one-on-one coaching with him. It's expensive... Continue reading "Can you predict the future? Can you pick the next big winner?"