What is real? What is made up? How can you tell?

I have read all the One minute books... I saw that the One Minute Manager touched on my Achilles' Heel...

Each of these One minute books teaches some attitude, or a thing to do, that makes you and the people you work with happier, more productive, etc.

Except...

Occam's razor says: everything should be as simple as it can be but not simpler.

Pop psychology is simplistic. You find yourself nodding vigorously as you read it. But when it comes to doing it... oops. You cannot do it.

The One Minute manager's job is to catch people doing the right things.

Most people cannot. Most people keep their eyes on what you do wrong, what they do wrong... what needs to be fixed. But most importantly they cannot see what is. Continue reading "What is real? What is made up? How can you tell?"

We all have multiple personalities… How does your delusional self impact your life?

We all have at least two distinct and recognizable selves that we switch back and forth between.

In this article we'll look at intelligence, but we could also look at the character, the attitude, the moral fortitude of the selves... but because I look at the world through the frame of smart and stupid, and only secondarily through loyal/disloyal, I'll write this article on the intelligence level of your two selves.

Now, let me start with a statement: there is nothing wrong with being stupid. As long as you know and embrace that you are stupid. Continue reading "We all have multiple personalities… How does your delusional self impact your life?"

How old is your child self that is running your life to the ground?

What is an adult, what is a child... and does your ego-state (Child, Parent, Adult) influence how much money you have, how much love you have, how healthy you are? 1

In the starting point measurements I measure (#19) To what degree you have access to your adult capacities. 2 or asked in another way, how much does your adult run your life? The more adult the more results...

And how much is the child running your life, how much is it running your life to the ground?

Continue reading "How old is your child self that is running your life to the ground?"

What you see… is it reality?

The view is different from the foot of the mountain than from the top

One of the weird thing about humans that they are stuck in their limited view of reality.

They don't even suspect that there is a different view from different points.

This is why almost every otherwise worthless therapist or coach can cause temporary results... because all they need to learn is to ask you to look a different way, through a different perspective, and voilà... magic happens.

The problem is that when you are left to your own devices, you rarely if ever think to activate the magic. The magic that is magical, but isn't magic.

Things look different from different perspectives, because that is what perspective means. Duh.

And because your life is given by what you see, if you are stuck, which seems to me is always, all you need to do is change the perspective.

I hardly know anyone who volunteers to do that. Continue reading "What you see… is it reality?"

How not to have your spine shrivel up on you?

It's New Year's day. Billions of people give and get strokes... 1 happy new year! Thank you, happy new year to you!

You have to answer, reciprocate, or you create a negative balance with the people you didn't answer to... Weird but is so. Violate this at your own demise...

Humans need "strokes", an acknowledgment (validation?) of their existence, to stay alive. The expression Eric Berne uses is, that their spine doesn't shrivel up.

Any strokes will do... Continue reading "How not to have your spine shrivel up on you?"

Coaching that gets results vs. coaching that sounds so transformational!

Being a coach is easy if you have no idea what they are doing, because you have never done it.

You just do what everyone else does, and hope for the best.

A "normal" coach only knows what they learned. Tree of Knowledge. Not worthless, but not authentic.

Most coaches have a mixed bag: they did some things, and learned others.

And a master coach is someone who not only has done it, but has done it successfully... and has produced success. Continue reading "Coaching that gets results vs. coaching that sounds so transformational!"

I want to be like the Soup Nazi

Why am I such a Nazi when it comes to who I am willing to work with?

Remember the soup Nazi? Who ran his soup takeout shop like a prison camp? And people lined up and waited patiently to be given soup... that was so good, and so hard to come by, they were willing to earn it... I want to be like the soup Nazi.

Like everyone, my energy is finite. I can't whip out extra at the drop of a hat... I am human. Continue reading "I want to be like the Soup Nazi"

The Christmas season water story… standing on one foot…

I live in Syracuse, NY. The city is one hour south of Canada. The energy came from the North Pole... or the Arctic Circle? Swept through Canada... and came as far as Syracuse, for sure.

Over the 12 days leading up to Christmas and up till this morning the water energizing method didn't work. Or more precisely said: the water lost its coherence faster than the energizer could energize... and therefore the people who were drinking the water lost their cell hydration. Me included.

My cell hydration dropped from 70% to 7%.

I hadn't experienced that, first hand, for a few years now. I saw and felt it from others. But not on myself.

When your cell hydration is low, it is like you are living your life standing and hobbling along on one foot. The slightest force topple you over... or threatens to topple you over. Continue reading "The Christmas season water story… standing on one foot…"

I talk to people a lot… in my head. I have long conversations with them

I am an introvert.

I don't know what that means... but I know that I talk to people a lot... in my head. I have long conversations with them.

So when I find out that they don't know about it: I am surprised.

It is nearly impossible to have an authentic conversation with someone after I already had the same conversation WITH THEM in my head.

So many things never get said. Continue reading "I talk to people a lot… in my head. I have long conversations with them"

Pinpoint accuracy or shotgun method?

There are really two types of people when it comes to making more money: one group will chase the mirage, the lottery approach, winning, betting on schemes... and the other, the tiny group that sees that making more money is a natural fallout of becoming worth a damn. 1

I am interested in talking to the second group, the tiny group.

You see, knowing that you should become worth a damn is nice and dandy... but knowing with pinpoint accuracy where you aren't... what it is that you need to do next to increase your worth a damn factor is crucial.

Life is holographic. Maybe it is the Universe... but who am I to just repeat something I heard... I don't know about the Universe. But I do know about Life. Continue reading "Pinpoint accuracy or shotgun method?"