Tag: generosity

Generosity, choosing, gratitude

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Generosity was one of the distinctions I spent years researching and trying to BE...

It is a tricky way to be, the full meaning of generosity, because almost no one ever is really generous.

We normally equate giving with generosity. Some give stuff, others give praise, some give of themselves.

Most generosity makes the recipient suspicious: what is the ulterior motive?

And rightly so: culturally, human culture, I mean, generosity doesn't make sense... only trade does. "I give you this, so you'll give me that."

And yet, there are a very few people who are actually generous, and they are happy. WTF, right?

Here is another important question: just like with love, whose experience matters, the giver or the receiver? Continue reading "Generosity, choosing, gratitude"

Your soul correction in your favorite movies, the ones that come up in your memory again and again

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One of my favorite movies is a Coen brothers movie, True Grit

It comes up for me 4-5 times a year, to ponder who had the true grit... the little girl or the big drunkard marshal? 1

Which, as it turns out, isn't the right question.

Continue reading "Your soul correction in your favorite movies, the ones that come up in your memory again and again"

What is the most important skill to develop and keep using, daily, if you want to live a life you love?

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We live as if things never changed. Even though we hear, read, that the only thing that is constant in life is change.

And yet, our minds, the machine-like part of us that cannot learn, won't learn, and fancies itself YOU... our minds tell us, moment to moment, that life will remain the way it is in that moment.

Is that crazy or what?

  • When something bad happens, the reaction is not to the bad thing, but to the idea that the results of the bad thing are life-long.
  • When something good happens, the reaction is not to the good thing. It is to the idea, to the notion, to the certainty, that the good thing will last a lifetime.
  • When you are well... you are sure you'll be always well. When you feel sick, you are sure that unless you fix it, you'll never feel good again. Gloom and doom, or yippee... all is wonderful. The roller coaster, I call it.

So in light of this behavior of the mind: what is the most important skill? Continue reading "What is the most important skill to develop and keep using, daily, if you want to live a life you love?"

The methodology of making the invisible visible

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All mischief and all power comes from the invisible. Invisible to you, and maybe invisible to society.

It's not hidden. It is just not obvious to the untrained eyes. What your eyes need is training and guidance.

My methodology, observing life through many distinctions, is a winning one.

It drives up, and makes visible what has thus far been invisible.

Racket, frame, memes, voices, states... the distinctions are all opportunities to see another aspect of the invisible, and gain control over yourself, so you can start moving in the direction of the good life, whatever good life is for you.

For example, your soul correction. It is a distinction to look through and see some formerly invisible stuff. Continue reading "The methodology of making the invisible visible"

It is the week of Thanksgiving… Why can’t you feel gratitude? Why your thanksgiving is hollow?

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This morning I received an email from a young man who paid me to measure his starting point measurements.

He could be speaking for you.

I need to take better care to my physical body. Like you said, drinking more water is the first step.

I don't take care of my body, and I can't understand why.

I feel like I'm missing gratitude. I hate to say it but I don't feel grateful, and I don't understand why.

Gratitude probably will come up to everyone, at least in the United States, where this week is Thanksgiving week... and you are supposed to be grateful. Or pretend that you are.

The more lavish your Thanksgiving, the more money you spend, the more food on the table, the more you do it to cover up that you are pretending. And pretense is the killer of the spirit.

Continue reading "It is the week of Thanksgiving… Why can’t you feel gratitude? Why your thanksgiving is hollow?"

Are you teachable?

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I help people become the person who can have what they want to have. Will I be able to help you?

This is really the bottom line promise I have for you. But like every promise, it is conditional. Conditional on you... on you being teachable. Continue reading "Are you teachable?"

How is your brain like a guitar? The American Idol syndrome… are you the victim of it?

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What do mad scientists do? And why are they considered mad?

Mad scientists go beyond the obvious. They go beyond the visible. They go beyond the socially accepted map of reality, that is obviously faulty.

They are mad because they don't care if they fit in. In their world, in my world, you are mad if you want to fit in.

Fitting in means dumb, superficial, gullible, manipulable, ignorant, sick, tired, and aimless.

So your reason to be here is all caused by what you find most important: to fit in.

Humans have this big brain, and they never bother to learn how to use it. Continue reading "How is your brain like a guitar? The American Idol syndrome… are you the victim of it?"

Will Practicing Compassion Make You A Better Human Being?

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How To Raise Your Vibration? Become A Better Human Being, Practice Compassion

What is good: the definition

The first question that you should ask when I suggest you become a better human being, is "what do you mean: better?"

So far I have never had anyone ask that question. Why is that? Because we live our lives based on assumptions.

One assumption is that we fully understand the meaning of the words we hear.

As a foreigner I learned every single word. And struggled mightily with five-dollar words that describe a better human being.

I came to the USA when I was 38 years old. I had 29 years of academic study under my belt. I had read thousands of books. I had watched hundreds of movies. I spoke 4 languages fluently, and 3 more badly. Continue reading "Will Practicing Compassion Make You A Better Human Being?"

Sharing. The misused word… just share… i.e. sell?

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I know the word sharing gets thrown around in these emails quite a bit. Sometimes we become numb to the word. To get back to basics, sharing means giving something of ourselves.

It can be sharing with someone we're not used to sharing with. It can be opening up with someone we're not used to opening up to. It can be calling someone with whom we're holding a grudge and wishing them well and saying something nice, some words of wisdom. It can be anything. It just has to be an unconditional stretch.

As a certified est-hole and Landmark junkie, I have heard the urging "Share, share share."

In Landmark they mean "Bring more chumps like you so that Landmark can become a World Class Organization, here to stay." They mean: do our selling for us. No please, or anything... Maybe they don't, but that is how it lands for people.

In multilevel marketing companies (network marketing, MLM) they say the same thing, but mean, definitely, selling. Continue reading "Sharing. The misused word… just share… i.e. sell?"