We live in a “fix-it” culture. Doctors, chiropractors, coaches, husbands, parents (especially mothers) are all about fixing what’s wrong with you. No wonder that you relate to everything that is going on with you as something to fix.
What is part of the “fix-it” culture, and is hidden behind it, but gives it the context, is that what is going on is INTOLERABLE, and MUST BE FIXED.
It feels like an imperative… like a straightjacket.
What is the problem with fixing stuff?
Let’s look at the action of fixing from a different point of view: what is your cone of vision when you are looking to fix something?
Happiness is a function of accepting what is. Life is like this weird rose… doesn’t look the way it should… orderly, smooth, safe, winning, beautiful, etc… Hard to accept, hard to even tolerate… Right?
What is accepting what is?
Accepting is saying yes to. You could also say: when you are accepting something, you give it permission to be exactly the way it is, and not be what it isn’t.
What is it costing you that you procrastinate? “What is your current mindset costing you?”
Or maybe even a better way to ask: what are you not getting out of your life, given that you procrastinate?
No one can tell you that… but whatever you are resisting, whatever you resist doing, has all the power.
There are people, myself included, that consciously not do a lot of things. I don’t do much house work, but I am not procrastinating. I don’t obsess about it, I have made a decision to not do it, or do as little as I can get way with, and I am fine about it.
If I were procrastinating, my mind would be on hold about that thing which I am not doing, and I would not be fully available to do what I am doing instead: I would be doing everything “instead” and not fully, not joyously, not with power. Why? Because my power would be tied up in what I am not doing.
Once you give yourself permission to not do the thing at all: you are free. You take complete responsibility for what other people say, etc. and that’s that.
But it takes almost as much courage to declare to not do something as it takes to actually do it.