I have a couple of notebooks in my bed, and I caught a glimpse in one of them: love one day at a time.
It seems that society conspires against the peace that comes from the way of living: society wants you to chase something far away, and while you chase it, make vision boards, mind movies, bombastic declarations, and get caught up in the Desire Trap, which I'd like to rename Wanting Trap.
And although the best things come to you as side effect, not as results of goal setting, although what works in like is taking care of the process, keeping your eye on what you are doing, not concerned with big goals, or the future, most people today are caught up in the Wanting Trap, and live a life of unhappiness, and underachieving. Continue reading "All Goals in Life Are Problematic — Except One"
Finding a fulfilling career can sometimes feel impossible. ... according to Bridgewater Associates founder Ray Dalio. If you are one of the people who is complaining that you don't know how to get that... here is the first step is clearly setting your goals.
"Your choice of goals will determine your direction,"
"There is always a best possible path. Your job is to find it and have the courage to follow it,"
He doesn't say it, because he doesn't know... but the number of people who simply want a happy fulfilling life without investing none of their time, none of their efforts in it is staggering.
Regardless, I am continuing on the theme, because this is one of the stumbling block for most of you... so although you don't know what is eating your lunch... although you have no idea how you are screwing up, I do, and I am here to help you till you get it. I already have a third article in the pipeline... ;-/
“It’s lonely at the top. 99% of people are convinced they are incapable of achieving great things, so they aim for mediocre. The level of competition is thus fiercest for ‘realistic’ goals, paradoxically making them the most competitive.”
Most people will never be truly successful.
The pull towards mediocrity is too strong. As David Schwartz once penned, “All around you is an environment that is trying to pull you down to Second-Class Street.”
OK, that was quite a mouthful. Sorry about that...
Wherever you are in life, in any area of your life, you are in ess. In ess your actions, your ideas, your advisement will come from a "source" that wants to maintain that ess... If you are fat... then maintain being fat. If you are inactive, then maintain inactivity. If you are always engaging in bombastic dreams, then maintain that... engaging in bombastic dreams.
It's Tuesday and Rob Brezsny's syndicated horoscopes landed in my inbox.
I read mine, and my blood turned cold.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22): In the coming weeks, you might want to read the last few pages of a book before you decide to actually dive in and devour the whole thing. I also suggest you take what I just said as a useful metaphor to apply in other areas. In general, it might be wise to surmise the probable outcomes of games, adventures, and experiments before you get totally involved. Try this fun exercise: Imagine you are a psychic prophet as you evaluate the long-range prospects of any influences that are vying to play a role in your future.
Fear. Fear that I am working on something that is going to turn out not what I want.
Very scary... in spite of the fact that I experiment all the time. That I rarely make a binding commitment to any path until it is already bringing its results.
I don't set goals... and don't commit to outcomes.
In matters of the spirit a little goes a long way.
One of the most puzzling things about Kabbalah has to do with the proportions of worldly to spiritual. It says it is 1%, as opposed to the 99% spiritual. Therefore if you do your job in the 1% reality, then the 99% reality will to its job. It is like putting in $1 to a self improvement fund, and your company would match it with $99. Good deal, isn't it.
It may be a good deal, but very few do it.
Why? Because your mindset has to be certainty, instead of waiting for it to come, or hoping, or wishing, or at the other extreme, thinking that you can only count on yourself. Or strong desire... or hoping... or "faith"... or praying... or all the happy horseshit gurus teach.