You look around. Everyone seems to have it better than you. They laugh, they hug, they walk hand in hand, kiss… or have friends who like them… but you? If feels like you have no one, no one cares about you, no one responds well to you… You are not getting enough “strokes”… from others.
A “stroke” (in Transactional Analysis) is a unit of social transaction. A hug. A nod. A smile. A hello, a thank you, a “how are you?”, or an f… you…. these are all social transactions. The more strokes you get the less your spine will shrivel up on you…
I have a next door neighbor who feels miserable most of the time. As an empath I am forced to feel it. No escape. Can’t cloak myself, can’t shield myself.
Yesterday, at 10 am she went into massive fear mode… So I had the idea to test if I can use the Heaven on Earth to ease her distress. I downloaded and pushed Heaven on Earth, the energies, across the two driveways to her, and it eased her misery considerably. To bearable level.
But then, a few hours later, she had a new wave of misery… this time it was anxiety… so I asked Source “what’s wrong with her that she has so many bad feeling for so much of her day?”
I have been doing a lot of work while I seemingly do nothing… or not much.
Something is driving me…
I used to say it this way: “I can’t do no other”…
I am very fond of weirdly worded things, because they poke a hole in the cultural fabric and allow things to be seen that normally are hidden behind the fabric…
One of the issues people would struggle if they gave a hoot, if they really understood that it’s crucial to get, is what is coming from where… What is coming from their insides and what is peripheral to them.
One example is what is the motive power of your actions? Does it come from the inside, or does it come from the outside?
Here is an article that is right on the money:
The difference between ambition and desire
Ambition & desire are two seemingly similar ideas but in reality are concepts that have a world of difference. Ambition is the desire for achievement, while desire in its most raw form is just pure greed and avarice. While it is perfectly reasonable to be ambitious it really does not bode well if we are too desirous of something.
Oftentimes we get confused with the philosophy of the Bhagavad Gita (Hindu Holy book) desireless actions. We think that this basically means going through life in a mechanical way without any ambition. We then start to drift aimlessly in life.
Ambition is very important in life. It is the chief motivator that propels us to be achieve great things, It makes us want to do better in life. However pure desire is bad. Desire for power, wealth or fame is extremely bad and in fact can tempt people to use dishonest means.
Ambition is never affected by evil thoughts. Ambition is pure. It is the driving force which makes us do things, to get better in life.
Ambition propels us to great heights while craving or wanton desire can really result in a person’s downfall.
The same question applies to the issue: what is your Self? Who are you?
Most people, when they attempt to answer that question, Who are you?, they talk about their religion, ethnicity, profession, gender… but these are all external to them.
The only thing that is internal is what you can fully generate. Cause. Change.
So what can you generate? Can you change your gender? Not really… but you can be responsible for it. Can you change it? Just ask the transgender people… you cannot change it, because gender is not what sexual organs you have… it is a lot more than that.
Can you change your feelings? No, not really. The therapist that are good at that, like Katie, and to some degree Abraham/Hicks, they use changing words to change how you feel.
You can change how you look, but you are not your looks.
You can change your behavior, but somehow, underneath the thin veneer, it is still you there… wretched you, for the most part.
So is there a Self you can find when you peel away all the external? Is there a Self there?
The truth is that the answer is yes and no.
You are following some drummer, you have internalized some rules and ideals, but when you scratch them… they are really still external in source to you… and you really can’t change them.
The only “thing” that is fully internal to you is your word.
I don’t mean it in the “watch your word because it will come true” pollyanna way… I don’t mean it in some positive thinking b.s. way. I don’t mean it the “What the bleep do we know” way where the deaf girl in the movie writes Love on her body…
And yet, you can create with your word. Let me retype it correctly: Your Word.
Most of us live as if our word is just noise… Very few of us live like we have Word.
But why? Because Word is sacred, and when you violate something sacred, then it stops being special: it becomes what word has become to you: cheap.
Last night I read my notes from a Landmark Seminar, Integrity. The notes were from 2003. I’d just came out from five years of brain damaged living. I was rebuilding Self… one word at a time.
Rarely one gets to see how far one has come…
What I needed to do first is create a bond, a sacred bond between word and action. Between word and self.
Inventing ways of being with word, and then allow that word to be like a torch, allow me to see the path at its light, allow it to shed light at ways of being that are consistent with those words. Consistent with Word.
Only when Word is your Self, when you honor your Word as your Self, that you have integrity, and start living as a human being.
Word is the key, Word is the divider, Word is the Holy Grail.
Word is the beginning and the end of the vertical plane. In fact, Word is all of it.
To the degree you honor your word as your Self, to the degree your vibration is high or low.
But Sophie, where does Ambition and Desire come into this picture?
Ambition, curiosity, the hallmarks of a producer were all activated by word, with Word.
Even though we are all born with a lot of ambition, only those of us are able to use it as motive power, those of us that have acknowledged and connected that innate, intrinsic power with Word.
Is it too late for you?
Honestly, I don’t know. Because unless your word has power, the answer is yes.
So how do you give power to your word?
I remember when I first encountered this question, in 1985, I thought it was the tone of voice, the amount of air you used to push the word out.
But no matter the tone of voice, no matter the amount of air, what gives your word power, what makes it eventually Word, is whether you honor it as your Self or not.
If you live like word is cheap, if you live like word is whatever comes out of your mouth, if you live like there is word for you and there is word for the public, your word will never become Word, and you’ll never have a Self… your every word creates a self… but because all words say something different, All those words, uttered without the intention to BE that, gel into a mess… and that is what you feel you are.
You are a mess of things you said. No rhyme, no reason. Contradictions galore.
I have shared with you that at some point the work pays off, and you can tell the difference between word and Word.
I often think (thinking is words!) that I can’t… and then I find myself doing what I thought I could not do.
You, more often, catch yourself, find yourself doing what you said you wouldn’t do… right?
And that tells the whole story: your word has no power. What is calling the shot is not your word. But something external to you: desire, appetite, hunger, sex drive, need, neediness, laziness, pleasure seeking, the desire to control another.
No Word: No Self.
Ambition is inner drive spoken clearly. Spoken into existence. For no reason.
PS: Everyone is looking for guidance. Everyone wants to be told what their Dharma, their life’s purpose should be.
This looking, this seeking is the most inauthentic thing you do.
When the guidance comes, you reserve your right to say no. Or to pretend that you accept it but do nothing with it. Or do the opposite… or do it a little bit.
Your relationship to guidance, inner or outer, is the same as your level of integrity.
Integrity has three levels: the basic level is that you keep your promises, do what you said you would do without cutting corners. The second level is to be true to YOUR principles and ideals (NOT STANDARDS!) and the third is “honor your Word as your Self”.
Just like any building, if the foundation is leaky, the building won’t stand.
Integrity, being whole and complete with no parts missing, is a building. You cannot pretend to be true to your Word, to honor your Word as your Self if you are late, or lie, or speak from two sides of the mouth, if you gossip, or if you live like your principles only apply to other people.
Without integrity nothing work, without integrity your life is a chaos, a mess, and unworkable.
But, or course, your vibration shows that integrity is far from your mind. Your Bach Energy® profile shows the many ways you are out of integrity… and you may have never meant to be in integrity.
Once you get it, you can tackle it one Bach Energy at a time.
You’ll have a chance to upgrade it to the full Monty… to see all the ways you fall short of the perfection you crave… But once you have the map, you have the path… Really.
PPS: There are a lot of memes floating out there promoting that you create your own self. But you have no idea how to create… so those memes are toxic. Come back to here… and do the work to create your relationship with your word. With Word… without that you create NOTHING. Not a thing… EVER.
PPPS: here is an article that starts out promising
Do You Define Yourself and Your Life Negatively?
By Samuel Gentoku McCree Growing up on military bases I learned to make friends quickly. My family moved a half dozen times before I was out of the second grade, so I didn’t have many other options. But while living on base it was easy, because all us military brats were in the same boat.
In third grade my dad retired from the Air Force and we went to live in a small town just south of Nashville, Tennessee. Once we moved everything changed. Instead of living with the sons and daughters of service families, I went to school with the children of the southern nouveaux riche. New Kid In Town
Instead of making friends quickly, I struggled. I was teased and I developed quite the temper. I acted out in class and one day on the playground I tackled one kid and drug him several feet by his hair.
Though getting picked on was hard, what was worse was what I started doing to myself. But once I started, it was hard to stop. To this day this habit still haunts me in big and small ways. Accentuate the Negative
What I started doing to myself in third grade was defining myself in the negative. I started believing and telling myself I wasn’t likable. I wasn’t like the other kids. I was outside the group.
Now, in some ways this was true. I was different from the other kids in ways. But my difference was situational, not inherent. I just didn’t realize that.
I thought there was something wrong with me. I took this thought and internalized it; I turned it into a story about myself, and then I told it again and again. A Not So True Story
It became true for me, perhaps in the same way some of your stories have become true for you. Now I’m 32 years old and I still am afraid that I’m not likable. I struggle to make friends even though I’m social and outgoing.
I discount the friends I have and struggle to trust that they really like me. All because of this definition that I wrote for myself when I was in the third grade.
But I know it doesn’t have to be like this. I don’t have to live trapped by these old definitions. For all the definitions I still have I have overcome many others. Overcoming Obstacles
For years I smoked pot and defined myself as a stoner. Now that I don’t smoke and rarely drink, I now prefer being alert and attentive. I no longer define myself as a stoner.
For years I was argumentative about everything. “Yes, but,” were probably the first word most people heard me say. Though I can still hold my own in a debate, I don’t feel the need to constantly object in every setting. In high school everyone you asked would have said I like to argue. But now people talk about how calm I am.
The same thing that makes defining yourself powerful is what makes overcoming it possible. The only person who decides how you define yourself is you.
Sure, people reflect that definition back to you, but if you stop doing it so will they. It’s not an easy thing to change, but it is changeable. And you can do it in 4 steps. Notice.
This blog (on Kabbalah) is new, and I decided to look for a logo image for it. A picture of a left wrist with the famous red string around it felt like an excellent idea.
So I went on Google and search for “Kabbalah String.” What a mistake. First off, there were 420 thousand pages listed. Intimidating. Second: most of those sites are hellbent at throwing dirt, venom, spit, at Kabbalah, and everything that has anything to do with Kabbalah. They call it a religion: it is not. They call it a cult: it is not.