My first foray, my first venture into joy or joyous is trying to figure out what joy is. After all we don’t know necessarily what words mean when it comes to feelings… do we. We, children, watch and learn… but in a world where what you see is a mask, what you see does not represent a feeling accurately, because the person isn’t feeling it, because the person is faking it, the looks don’t help.
My hunch is that joy is fabricated with the intention to cause craving for it, to cause an acute sense of the lack of it.
Actually, when I watch people who enjoy something, they don’t smile. Smile is for the outside, social grease. They are deeply connected to something… The pictures of people enjoying something are fake… no enjoyment. I know, I feel what they feel… no joy. Joy interrupted.
Joy is inner, smile is outer. NOT joy.
Joy is a feeling that says something is enjoyed, and, surprisingly, it makes you want to expand…
So, as you see, my first access to joy is the word: enjoy.
You enjoy something, or you don’t. (Enjoy: take delight or pleasure in an activity or occasion).
When you don’t: it doesn’t mean it is NOT enjoyable, it means that YOU don’t take the time to enjoy it.
It happens to me with food, with travel, with music.
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