One of my ‘favorite’ ways to slip into hate and disgust has been to gossip about things or people… whom otherwise I love and cherish, but something about them irks me.
The solution is to make room for the imperfection, the part that irks me, and then I can love them, warts and all.
The secret is to rant first and accept second.
- What most people do is suppress. It is wrong to hate your teacher, for example. Or your wife.
- Or alternatively, they get stuck in hate. They don’t proceed to acceptance.