When I wrote the article about racial, ancestral identity and its importance, I touched on something that is not valuable for most people… because I didn’t go deep enough and I didn’t accurately identify what it takes to be proud of who you are, where you belong.
I got on the phone with one of the people who was very unhappy about that article… I was eager to talk, because it is near impossible to go beyond the visible by yourself. It is a whole lot easier when you get input… because what is invisible to you can be visible for another.
The conversation was fruitful… And the insight to me was: it is not virtues, it is principles that form the basis of a happy life… I will elaborate…
Continue reading “Principle guided life… OK… but what principles will make you happy?”
I am listening to step 1 of the 67 steps again. The seventh time? Eighth time? I have lost track.
And as is usual for me, I am seeing something that Tai is not saying, and I kind of have been seeing, but not really. In the corner of my eyes.
OK, I am in the middle of writing an article, but this hit my inbox and enough of you have been asking for some advice on what to practice… so here it is: observe Keanu Reeves, and learn to be like him…
Can you? The answer is: probably not… but… by learning and internalizing what he is doing as humility, etc, you’ll have more of reality and more ways to be than you are being now.
Don’t be mistaken: humanity is arrogant. Haughty. Self-centered. Self-aggrandizing. The opposite of what Keanu Reeves is, and the opposite of what would make you life a life worth living.
Now, if you have been smart and own my Big Bundle energy: if you study Keanu Reeves, or even just read this article while you have the energy bundle on your ears, your consciousness will hear it, and hear it as instruction or request: you requesting to be like him… and consciousness will help you. Continue reading “What makes Keanu Reeves special and why you would want to learn a thing or two from him_”
I don’t wanna…! You can’t make me… Nooo!
We expect these reactions from children, but more than 50% of all soul corrections’ foundational issue is this unwillingness, this resistance.
If you remember, all soul corrections are, fundamentally, about restricting desire for the self alone (evil, negative energy).
Obviously, this resistance, this unwillingness is about you, and not something beyond you… What you are gaining from this behavior is only for you, and not for anyone else’s sake, and it serves only your lowest self… not anything else.
So we can say, safely, that it is one of the major enemies of you, personally, and us, humanity, become better, higher, a humanity of human beings… who don’t kill each other, don’t hate each other, who don’t use each other.
And because this unwillingness feels innocent, or it feels like procrastination, or it feels that it holds YOU back… you think that it is not evil… and that it is not mandatory for you to overcome it, if you want to feel good about yourself.
Continue reading “Unwillingness masquerading as confusion, fear, and a host of other “symptoms””
Somebody said that being in the 900s, I must be in the flow.
I felt that what she meant and what it means are very different.
Most of what is termed “flow” is a feeling that everything is OK… That there is nothing to resist, because god is on your side.
But from that definition to get to flow, the real flow, you first have to make bad feelings wrong.
As if feelings were responsible and at fault…
But feelings are there for a reason, and resisting them is the stupidest thing you can do.
If we looked what prevents you from entering the flow state, I can promise we would find that you don’t want all the feelings, you only want the good ones.
But most, maybe all gold is in the unpleasant feelings.
I finally got response to my private message to the author of the book “Feelings.” Continue reading “Cynicism, resignation, feeling your feelings… turn your resistance into flow”
If you are on this site, you will find yourself, more or less, in this article. And it may change your life.
A student writes,
Hi Sophie, I think I take trivial and superficial things too seriously. How can I let go of these immaterial incidents or people and focus on important things that truly matter to me?
this was my answer
“This is the sign of two things: 1. your map of reality isn’t very similar to reality. 2. you have too much importance attached to nice words about you… i.e. you want to be defined by words not by your actions.
Continue reading “Do you meet others’ expectation of you? No? Don’t care? There is a price to pay…”
A purpose is not automatic… or if anything can be called automatic, it is always bad… or inappropriate
We, humanity, are more attuned to danger, bad feelings, than we are to good feelings… And it is natural, given our size and defenselessness in the natural world.
In order to get anything done, you cannot rely on your natural inclination, it won’t be helpful. Your natural inclination is to do nothing much, reserve your energies, unless you are hungry, you are horny, or you are in danger. Continue reading “The risk of living a life without a purpose…”
The fox and the hare tale: Why does a rabbit run faster than a fox? Because while the fox is running for his dinner, the rabbit is running for his life. All of life works the same way…
Keep this tale in mind as you read this article: are you running for your dinner, or are you running for your life?
I have noticed that take-away, as a manipulation technique, works exceptionally well on me.
Here is how the technique works: you show something, and you state that it is only available at this price or any price for a limited amount of time.
I find myself scrambling to get it…
Obviously I was taken in, because once I have it, I don’t want it. I was put in a hypnotic trance, and I acted under that influence.
I am fairly certain that nearly all humans are sensitive to scarcity or takeaway: the pain of loss is bigger than the joy of having something. Or better said: the genes are…
One area you may notice it (the fact that you don’t notice it, doesn’t mean it’s not there!) is how you value your life. Or a relationship. Continue reading “The secret sauce that makes you start having joy in your life”
There are two ways to get to Self-Love… One through finding things to love… the other is the strait and narrow method: discounting all the bad things you do, so you end up with loving yourself.
I prefer the second path.
Once you love yourself, learning new things to do well is much easier.
So far 46 people read my article about the exercise for self love.
One of them actually did what I did, followed my example, and wrote to me about his experience. He is astute .
So what did the rest of them do?
Some of them, at least, hugged themselves, and felt the pain or the sadness.
Did any of them have a conversation? Yes. Some of them. Continue reading “Astute, clueless… how many distinct things can you tell apart?”
I am still struggling with having something or anything to say. Now I have the energy, but don’t have the … what?
What don’t I have, and why is that important to know what it is that you don’t have?
The number one need of people, I say, is the desire to make a difference.
But when I say “make a difference” I don’t mean the big flashy things, like Bill Gates curing malaria… I mean being wanted to be there. That you are not refused.
Cain killed Abel in the Bible, because god accepted Abel’s sacrifice, but not his. He, Cain, got furious, and killed who he could killed, Abel.
Feeling refused, feeling not wanted is the cause of the biggest pain, and unfortunately people carry that in their unconscious for the length of their lives.
Continue reading “Can’t learn? Won’t learn? Is that how you keep yourself stuck in life?”