Every generation is more entitled than the previous one. Why? Let me explain...
If appreciative is the opposite of entitled... does that mean that all those people who are not appreciative are entitled?
Entitled 1 is a worldview. It is a ground-of-being phenomenon, invisible, like the floor. An unexamined truth. To you. But for the other, it is quite obvious... 1
So how do you know that you are not appreciative? that you are entitled?
This is how:
Even when you thank someone, they frown...
You may even be diligent in thanking someone, you may even feel a stab of thankfulness, but those thanks are the waves on the waters, not the bottom of the sea... The bottom of your sea is entitlement.
In spite of The sight, and other capacities newly available to you, You don't seem to be able to change...
You have been unsuccessful getting their guidance, getting your information from outside of the mind.
This manifests, among others, in your inability to muscle test correctly.
The question is why?
The phenomenon, what actually seems to happen is this: you understand where to look, how to look, and you nod rapidly. You bring great examples to show how you just succeeded in using the new capacity... but I can smell the mischief... you are trying to throw me off my tracking.
Now, I say "you" but who is this "you"? What aspect of a person am I talking about?
Why all techniques of increasing Emotional Intelligence are b.s. and not effecting the level of happiness, the level of well-being of people who practice it.
Same is true about the Emotional Guidance System of Abraham/ Hicks... b.s. and ineffective. Why? Because they are trying to change the fruits instead of the roots... Putting makeup on syphilitic lesions. 2 Or pimples, if you are squeamish...
Feelings are clean. They do four simple things. Make you go for it, make you stop, direct you towards pleasure and away from pain... They are the seed level. The foundation. 3Feelings are what guides you as an organism to feed yourself, to procreate, to stay safe, or to fight. To have a community to belong to, and to have enough information so you know what to do[/note.]
Are you always going for the home run? The big win?
One of the most useful steps in the 67 steps is the step where Tai compares business/life to baseball.
The most important aspect of business is to not lose money. Money lost is the result of mistakes. Mistakes are the results of hasty actions, or actions that try to go from zero to sky high in one fell swoop.
Like a baseball player who tries to hit the ball so hard every time as to be able to have a home run...
Most people I talk to have no skills, no plans, no idea... but when I ask them what they are up to, they talk about the sky-high.
It's my birthday today, and I guess, I should be doing something other than work... but I love working, so I am going to do as much of it today as i can.
What is great about having all this Social Media is that people are reminded that I have a birthday, so people come out of the woodwork.
But people do it in their inimitable way.
Self-expression... or maybe self-expression?
Some act as if they were the one stirring the soup of the Universe, and therefore had the right to tell me how to be, who to be... I have removed them from my mailing list. Unless I hired you to be my coach, your coaching is not welcome.
Yet others, who are stingy... your stinginess is expressed in everything you do and say. Especially in the "you are welcome" part... That "you are welcome" shows that they think more than 90% of the time about themselves... and nothing else. Continue reading "Birthday musings"
True humility is not thinking less of yourself; it is thinking of yourself less. Wrote Rick Warren in The Purpose-Driven Life, where it appears as part of Day 19, “Cultivating Community.” 4
When you have "thinking of yourself" block or filter what you are looking at, you end up in a small box that is all about you.
There is no joy there.
I just finished my Sunday call... unfortunately I forgot to turn on the recorder... it was all about this principle, about how different people have a different amount of time spent thinking of themselves, and how the amount of misery they experience differs, very consistently, accordingly.
Different soul corrections place different amount of emphasis on "it is all about you", so each of us gets a different start in life... some are more about it than others.
From time to time I run experiments where I work with one student beyond what they pay for, to test out a methodology I hope will be instructive and will work for most students.
Most people have a fixed mindset.
What does fixed mindset have to do with skills?
Unfortunately a whole lot. Why unfortunately? Because if you have fixed mindset, you somehow, magically, think that skills are innate and you don't have to learn them.
But neither knowledge, nor skills are innate: humans were designed to be shaped by their own actions primarily. That means: your genetic heritage counts about 10% of who you are, and 90% comes from environmental influences, including your own efforts, attitudes, and actions.
One will say: bummer. Another will say: thank god.
Intelligence is a state where you can see the sameness, where you see that life has no boundaries.
Of course it seems as if there were boundaries, but it's an illusion... cells have walls, but it is permeable, you have skin, but it is permeable, you are a human, but you are just like everything else, built of cells, like most every living being, have genes, like every living being, and your body performs chemical miracles, every living moment.
But most importantly, you live as if you were an island.
You are locked into "I", and you are locked out of life.
All your fears are a result of living as if you were threatened, the "I".
The Mindset book is the perfect accompaniment to the Reclaim coaching program, and the From Upset To Communication course 1 where we learn the fields inside which all of life plays out.
I have questions coming at me that shed light to misunderstanding of what this work is about. What the course is about. What the program is about.
I have asked for this type of questions. I have asked my student to share with me what they are getting, so I can see where they are off... where I was off... what it is that is misconstrued, misunderstood, or not understood in what I teach... It was a great idea, because unless I know what you got, I can't help you.
It won't be easy to share it, so please advance to me some compassion: I am walking on some uncharted territories.
1. You may feel, together with some of my students, that it is all about removing the upset, removing the disagreements, removing all confrontation, including how hard, how difficult it is to do something.