On one of the webinars the topic was "Not being heard... Being misunderstood"
Every person on the call had at least one painful childhood incident where their speaking wasn't getting for them what they intended to get, instead their speaking was earning them grief and heart ache.
They wanted appreciation, understanding, equality, or love, validation, significance, or at least agreement.
When something doesn't work, one would expect, next time you'll try something different. But no... in real life it seems that the more something doesn't work, the more you, humans are trying to fit a square peg into a round hole.
The world is mundane. Ordinary. At least through ordinary eyes. It is just the way it is.
Some people see beauty, some people see truth, some people see goodness, but for the most part you see reasons to justify why you only trudge through life, never really seeing any poetry, any romance, anything really uplifting.
The Beyond, The Divine, The "Spirit" gets through to you through one of those, truth, beauty, goodness, and how you know it got to you because something echoes in your Soul.
You cry, you laugh, you shut up... words don't come close to express it.
When I work with people on their life's purpose, on the meaning of their lives, especially when I do it in a private call, I need to work a lot.
First: Heartmath has a theory, that the heart has a lot of brain cells in it and they can be influenced just like the brain can be...
The promise is of Heartmath is to help you calm down and handle life's stresses better at will.
I first heard of and listened to recordings, exercises from the Heartmath Institute around 2003. I found the idea very seductive, and really wanted it to work for me... but it didn't. When a few years later Dr. Alex Loyd used them to prove that the Healing Codes work I revisited them... and found the methodology still not working.
The truth is: they are both, the Healing Codes and the Heartmath, a nice idea... but neither of them works reliably, consistently, and for anyone. If something is NOT reliable, NOT consistent, then in essence it doesn't work... what works is the Placebo effect.
As I have written before, the "universe" or the aspect of you that conspires and is in kahutz with the Universe, will put up obstacles in your path, so instead of doing stuff that's consistent with your commitment, you are now on a detour path: handling your obstacles.
Landmark Education was born in 1991. With its name change it also, appropriately, introduced a "new technology".
The new technology was based on an earlier statement or assertion: that who you are in the present is given by the future you are living into.
It was also said like this: What gives you who you are in the present moment is the future you are living into.
But, although they were illustrating this assertion with a story 1 , what they meant was this: what gives your being and consequently your actions in the present moment is who you invented yourself to be.
Let's say you invent yourself to be a winner... what give your being and consequently your actions in the present, that no matter what you do, you'll at least end up landing on your feet... and that makes you, automatically, a winner. And some of the time you'll win more than just your safety or your life... you may win some stuff, some arguments, etc. Continue reading "Stepping up to the plate"
A good 20 years ago I had lunch with a famous seminar leader from Landmark. We had a long history, and she shared with me how unhappy she was, and how ready she was to quit leading seminars for Landmark Education.
I was quite dumbfounded... she was the best in the country, the most effective...
She said: "We teach people to be more effective, and many use the technology to be more effectively dupe people, abuse people, exploit people, make the world a worse place than it would be if they were not equipped with what we teach them."
I didn't have an answer for her... but I was pondering that myself for the past 20 years.
Most people, when I ask them, want to be happy, or want to be free. They want to get more of this and more of that. The source of their happiness is outside of them. They want circumstances to change, including how they feel, how intolerant, how judgmental, how sick they are. Because even if those are inside traits, they are treated as, they are considered a circumstance: they seem to have no power over them.
You read a book, you read an article, you come to a webinar, and you get an insight. You feel wonderful for a day, maybe even for a week or two... but then it goes away and you are back being the same powerless person you were before.
Another person read the same book, the same article, was at the same webinar, maybe even sounded dense, or slow, or much stupider than you, and their story is just the opposite of yours.
Their life starts to blossom, their work becomes a passion, their relationships thrive, their health is moving in the right direction. WTF, you ask... right?