The more you pretend the less you can love yourself, and the less you love your life.
80% of language deals with stuff that is non-physical and not visible. The stuff that matters the most.
Almost everything that matters in life is in the invisible domain. Really. All that is visible doesn’t matter much if what is in the invisible is lacking or bad.
You can be married to the most magnificent person, for example, but if you don’t love them… meh, at best, horrid in most predictable.