Through every generation of the human race there has been a constant war, a war with fear. Those who have the courage to conquer it are made free and those who are conquered by it are made to suffer until they have the courage to defeat it, or death takes them.
Now, looking at it from the viewpoint of the fixed mindset versus the growth mindset you can see that the fixed mindset provides a barrier that promises you to keep you safe.
My father was never discouraged. Not that he didn't show it... he wasn't discouraged. I remember him having doubts, whether something could work, but not discouraged. 1
So what did he have that most of you don't have?
Let's see first what discourage is on the level of feelings, and feelings dynamics? Because unless we know how a feeling is born, at the end of what process, we have no idea how to counter it.
Discouragement is one of the most harmful feelings you can have, because whenever it happens, it makes you reduce the size of the box you live in... And remember? What we want is grow... bigger box... so discouragement works against what we are up to here.
As we saw, the two capacities, humility: (saying: I don't know), and seeing the big picture/looking at the thing inside the big picture, are the most predictive of people who can and will correct their faulty mental picture of reality.
Of these humility is primary.
Humility is what gets us out of our head, and makes us look again.
The mood of this: maybe I didn't see it right!
We all know people who didn't look twice, and walked into a trap, walked into disaster with their heads high, no idea that the trap is there.
I got lucky today. I got to see something I haven't seen in a long time.
It's been many years that I "shared" with anyone.
Sharing is a Landmark Education distinction: you talk about some gain in your life, in a particular way, and if you did it well, the other person gets a tiny bit more than just a whiff of what you are "sharing"; they get a taste of it. A taste of your gain...As if you've given them a bite of your triple chocolate fudge cake... lol.
We were both early for the exercise class, and she was really relieved that she wasn't going to be the only student...
If you are one of my students who isn't getting better... Or not as fast as you hoped you would, you should ask the question: Why you won't follow a system, why you lie, why you'll never amount to anything worthwhile?
This article will attempt to point you to some answers...
Our tendency to socialize and spend time with people with our lesser (at least in our not so humble opinion) is so strong, and so "normal", that I expect you not to recognize it in yourself.
Why? Because the desire to do that does not come from our conscious self, it comes from our "other than conscious" self, the selfish gene.
Today I learned a lesson so cruelly cutting, my stomach hurt from it.
Now, being on the other side of it, it has opened my eyes to so many things, I am surprised.
I found out that some of my carefully crafted assumptions based in decades of education might be wrong.
I have been fighting it for more than a week now... and finally, today, I had to face the piper.
The polar pitcher, the equipment I use for energizing water, has changed: the pitcher you get on Amazon today are slightly smaller than what I own and have based my water energizing system on. Continue reading "When the guru is wrong…"