How do you escape the current paradigm of hate?

Paradigms explain why you don’t see, don’t hear what is right in front of you.

Paradigms are, like the ancient Kabbalists presented it, like the Tree Of Life.

From every branch you can look down and see everything… and you can look up and see nothing… or better said: you see yourself reflected.

Werner Erhard used a different geometric model… concentric spheres. Your sphere includes the smaller spheres, seamlessly. The upper border of your sphere seems to be endlessly reflect all the lower paradigms. Continue reading “How do you escape the current paradigm of hate?”

Hey, when you are BEING a knucklehead does it mean you ARE a knucklehead?

Hey, when you are BEING a knucklehead… does it mean you ARE a knucklehead?

Or you are just doing the only exercise most people do: jumping into conclusions.

Listen if you can recognize yourself in this story:

A lot of my clients find themselves in a trap…

For example, they make a mistake. They are frustrated. Or they are scared. Or they are angry. Or they are devastated. Even suicidal.

They say to themselves: Here I go again!…

…I am never going to get it right! I am never going to learn this… I better give up while I am ahead! I am stupid! I am a loser! and on and on and on I could go with the examples how people abuse themselves.

Continue reading “Hey, when you are BEING a knucklehead does it mean you ARE a knucklehead?”

I don’t want to be judged! you cry. But YOU judge everything and everyone…

Why would you think that someone will judge you? Simple… you have already judged yourself.

But why would you? Not everyone judge themselves. I, for example, don’t… or not often at all. I often assess myself, my behavior, my looks, my stuff… but assessment does not carry condemnation in it, and it doesn’t carry praise in it either.

What is the difference between judgment and assessment 1 ?

The main difference is fixed mindset.

In judgment, the judging person lives as if there were a fixed good or bad, smart or stupid, right or wrong. And then they act as if they were assigned the job of judging…

So a high fixed mindset plus arrogance, superiority, plus high desire/low ambition numbers.

I have found that people with this combination are unable, unwilling, or resistant to do the work of the Playground. Continue reading “I don’t want to be judged! you cry. But YOU judge everything and everyone…”

People will always judge you and what you are doing. It’s part of the machine to judge.

People will always judge you and what you are doing. It’s part of their machine.

There is nothing you can do about that. Judging is the only way humans have access to “what’s happening”. It is the right circle (the meaning and story circle)… and it is NEVER empty… You can call it meaning, you can call it story, you can call it judgment, you can call it commentary, you can call it whatever you want to: it never goes away.

Mother Teresa may be right… but doing it anyway, giving your best anyway, may be a really uphill struggle, unless… unless you set the context. She did… masterfully, and she made people “write big numbers” as a result. Continue reading “People will always judge you and what you are doing. It’s part of the machine to judge.”