If you are reading my articles, you know that about a month ago I adjusted my predatory genes.
This happened after I read a thriller on human predatory genes... wrote about it, put it aside, let it simmer, and then returned to it a few months later when the idea came up again. Re-read the book, and decided to have a heart-to-heart with Source, and decide what to do about the issue.
You look around. Everyone seems to have it better than you. They laugh, they hug, they walk hand in hand, kiss... or have friends who like them... but you? If feels like you have no one, no one cares about you, no one responds well to you... You are not getting enough "strokes"... from others.
A "stroke" (in Transactional Analysis) is a unit of social transaction. A hug. A nod. A smile. A hello, a thank you, a "how are you?", or an f... you.... these are all social transactions. The more strokes you get the less your spine will shrivel up on you...
Hey, when you are BEING a knucklehead... does it mean you ARE a knucklehead?
Or you are just doing the only exercise most people do: jumping into conclusions.
Listen if you can recognize yourself in this story:
A lot of my clients find themselves in a trap...
For example, they make a mistake. They are frustrated. Or they are scared. Or they are angry. Or they are devastated. Even suicidal.
They say to themselves: Here I go again!...
...I am never going to get it right! I am never going to learn this... I better give up while I am ahead! I am stupid! I am a loser! and on and on and on I could go with the examples how people abuse themselves.
This attitude, or world view that you can create a life you love, is the same exact world view that prevents you from being happy.
33 trillion webpages talk about that.
But the truth is that you have no authority to change anything in life outside of yourself... but even if you could, even if you do, unless YOU change, your life will remain the same, even if the circumstances changed, because you haver remained the same. You can get the girl out of the gutter, but you can't get the gutter out of the girl... goes the saying, and, unfortunately, that is how it goes. Continue reading "What does it mean “create a life you love”?"