Suffering? Miserable? I have distinguished Three Causes You Have Control Over...
Motto: Pain is inevitable, Suffering is optional
Most everybody gets miserable and suffering from time to time. Some more, some less.
I used to be miserable and suffering more than most... and I had no idea how to get out of it. It was like a deep hole, and the bright happy world was outside of the hole, and definitely outside of my reach.
Your vocabulary, the number and the kind of words you use, is a dead giveaway of the level of your spiritual evolution... simply put your vibrational frequency. If I could not measure your spiritual/consciousness level accurately other ways, I would use your vocabulary number to tell you what is your spiritual vibration, what is your level of consciousness.
How to raise your consciousness to guru level in 18 months?
This article is seven years old...
I had a conversation with a friend of mine. She was the kind of friend who was in and out of my life... she lived a dramatic life and she needed help, technical, health, money, legal... that was the basis of our relationship.
I used to be the kind of person she was, and I have compassion. She didn't bring me down, and I enjoyed her unique view of life... she was a transgendered person, was born a man, and she lived as a woman. She never changed her name... she once got kicked out of an apartment because her name said Jeffrey (not her real name.)
I am reading this guy's book. I say "this guy" because I don't want you to read it. I want you to read my blog...
In a lot of ways he and I teach the same things, even though we use different words. He uses words from psychology and woowoo science... I use words like Amish Horse Training Method, Memes, Marker Feelings.
He is a money/marketing man. His vibration is 200, his accurate vocabulary is 600.
This is a good question to chew on, observe, test out, for a True Empath.
The fate of humanity, and your personal well-being, evolution, raising your vibration, depends on your relationship to perfection.
How? Perfection is imposed. Perfection comes from your relationship with something outside of yourself. It's a comparison, and you live in a constant fear of "falling from grace", falling short of perfection. The rules are set by others with an agenda. The agenda isn't overt: in fact, it is a manipulative agenda. The goal is to keep you out of balance, keep you failing, keep you suppressed, keep you small and dependent. 1
Integrity is an inside job. It is between you and you. No one, outside of you, can judge your integrity. Of course, the way the word is used in everyday language makes it, for you, while you are unconscious, part of the perfection racket, but the "real" meaning of integrity is that you act consistent with YOUR interest, with YOUR values, with YOUR Self.
Integrity is an empowering concept, while perfection is disempowering. Integrity has no front office and back office, not shenanigans in the background, it is the same through and through.
While perfection is a Trojan horse. Once it is sneaked into you, you are a puppet on a string, at the mercy of the hidden agenda: you are an effect, never able to succeed in the impossible task of being "sinless". No one is. Your so-called saints are fakes and pretenders.
If you want to be successful, you need to start where you are.
But if you don't know where you are, or mistakenly think you are somewhere else than where you actually are, you will never get to where you want to get to... NEVER.
This includes your knowledge level, your skill level, your experience level, and your level of consciusness or your vibrational frequency.
The only reliable way I know is to tell someone's vibration accurately is to muscle test while truly connected to Source, by a person whose vibration is past ego... on or above the level of unconditional love.
That doesn't mean you can't have clues...So that you can get a ballpark estimate of where you are or where another person is...
Stages of consciousness... metaphor by what can you see, accurately... how much of the context you see, both in time and in width
.buried or in a well
.in the basement
.street level but inside a house
.second floor of a building, no windows
.second floor of a building, with sound isolating windows.
A partner call needs to be about a problem that came up in an incident. It is less talking than looking.
The person who talks, while the other listens, looks at the incident and attempts to take it through a set of looking points... we call that a script.
The looking points are filters through which the incident suddenly looks different... Richer, more detailed, looked through different vantage points.
The goal is to disappear the problem. A problem says that there is something wrong in the incident. Which indicates that the person's perception is not of reality but of meaning, interpretation, or rules.
The goal is to get to reality. In reality there is nothing wrong. All wrongs are added by the observer, they are not part of reality. Reality is the way it is... and all the wrongs take your power away to live life, to be intelligent, to solve real tasks, to be with people the way they are, to learn, to be productive, to feel good about yourself.
Ultimately the wrongs take your power away to live a live worth living.
The issues people deal with in the incidents are puny. All of them come from some perceived wrong in childhood, injustice, mistreatment, misjudging, etc.
With adult help, me, people can reframe the incidents in their lives, and the wrongs become less frequent, so they, the participants, can become available to solve REAL problems, if they are interested.
Suffering from those puny problems renders a person not available for life, for a life that is satisfying and makes a difference.
And because people cannot be happy unless they feel that they matter, that they make a difference, people are not happy.
The Playground is taking people, taking participants to the gate where happiness can become attainable. Where they can begin to be interested and available to solve bigger problems, worth solving.
Solve big problems, and your experience of life will be fulfilling.
The bigger problems you solve the more money you'll make and the more fulfillment you'll experience in life.
Obviously what you call a problem depends on your view of life.
And how you solve a problem depends on you too...
And thus YOU create your level of happiness... your life's experience.
You live in a world of your own design. And you live a life of your own design... Mostly unconscious...
I know you would not design a life that feels as bad as the life you are living, but in an unconscious way you have designed it...