When you become aware of your urges… a feeling that urges you to do something, mostly to relieve a tension, a pain, a fear, you’ll often find this fear of being left out, being left behind.
One of the survival conditions for a human is to belong to a group… or they are dead.
So the need to belong to a group is a very old DNA driven need. I see people all the time whose entire existence is inside that unfulfilled need: people who look different, people who speak differently, people who feel different.
Especially nowadays that minorities are not so minor any more in any country.
Urges, DNA needs make you do self-destructive, self-damaging things. Things that when you watch other people do them, you shake your head. What were they thinking?!
The fear of being left out, the fear of being left behind, the fear of not fitting in has an age associated with it. It’s young. And your behavior to “fix it” will be young too. Ineffective.
As you may know, I am working with a group of people to take them through the “Gate of Heaven” through the Detached capacity taught in the Detached Workshop.
As usual, unexpected snags abound. Whoever said it was going to be easy?!
The issue I am encountering is the ego doing its darned best to prevent the capacity from functioning. It is trying to prevent participants from stepping back, or staying back… out of the mind.
When I observe the gritting its teeth tenacity of the ego, I have a suspicion that the ego is a hireling of society, of the horizontal plane, and the passage will be harder than I thought. Crab bucket.
Everything that is between you and you is becoming active and pulling the participants down.
This article is about what you can do to help me and help yourself to become all you can become, to become a human being.
I used to have it in spades. I used to have no tolerance to a closed door, being inside when children played outside, I wanted to be with them, “me too”.
It looked that people were having fun, and I wanted in. But I didn’t have that much fun, and I got into a lot of troubles, with parents, with school, with my health.
The reason you are so afraid to be left out, because you are afraid to be alone. To meet yourself. To face yourself. To face your emptiness.
So you postpone it by joining in the fun.
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