Make your plane go where you want it to go...
This is probably the most shocking sentence in the whole 67 step program.
I literally don't know anyone who lives that way.
People try to succeed, try a diet, try this and try that... while their plane crashes in every area.
So what is the difference between who are like that, who are on their way to become that kind of person, and others who never ever land their plane on the landing strip?
Continue reading "Make your plane go where you want it to go… or what one thing you want to learn from Babe Ruth"
I have read all the One minute books... I saw that the One Minute Manager touched on my Achilles' Heel...
Each of these One minute books teaches some
attitude, or a thing to do, that makes you and the people you work with happier, more productive, etc.
Occam's razor says: everything should be as simple as it can be but not simpler.
Pop psychology is simplistic. You find yourself nodding vigorously as you read it. But when it comes to doing it... oops. You cannot do it.
The One Minute manager's job is to catch people doing the right things.
Most people cannot. Most people keep their eyes on what you do wrong, what they do wrong... what needs to be fixed. But most importantly they cannot see what is.
Continue reading "What is real? What is made up? How can you tell?"
1. I think it was in 1991.
A manager of mine in Landmark said: you don't make a difference.
My answer was: then I must kill myself...
I was banned from participating for about 8 months. By that time the manager and everyone have forgotten the interaction.
It was significant to me, and not significant to them.
Today, I got that I was just one of most, including themselves, who didn't make a difference.
It sounds bad, doesn't it? Very bad indeed. From one vantage point.
Continue reading "The grass doesn’t grow where you walk… does that make you special?"
One of the remarkable things in the book, Flowers for Algernon, is the new awareness Charlie (Charly) has about his mental state.
When he was just a retarded person,
he could see the shadow of the mental feebleness, but once he got smarter, when his mental abilities decline, he can see it directly... not only the shadow.
Once you raised your cell hydration, which translates for most people to a brain surgery similar to Charlie's, you have a higher factual IQ. You should move to the same position as Charlie: when your cell hydration drops, you should notice it.
Of course, if you never realized that cell coherence increases your IQ... (mostly because you don't habitually acknowledge the source of any result, you take things for granted, no capacity for appreciation, etc.) you won't check your water...
Continue reading "Can you tell when you are stupid? dull? incoherent? Or do you wait until someone points it out to you?"
If you find yourself on the wrong road... trace your way back to where you went astray... and choose a different road.
Why? Because trying to go across to where you really wanted to go, without going back, is fraught with death traps.
Humanity, some seven thousand years ago, took a wrong turn. In just a few words:
they started to replace reality with word pictures in the mind. Concepts.
This took us to where we are now: not a pretty place. Any and every human is afflicted: no one is exempt.
An "avatar's" job is to take you backwards so you can find your way from there... They have to have earned the right... by going back personally, backtracking themselves.
Most teachers try to cut across... oh the Buddhist, oh the Zen, oh the blah blah... they must know what they are talking about... b.s.
Maybe they know, maybe they don't. But you haven't done the journey back, so you are a second-hander at best, so shut the f... up!
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A student of mine, after listening to my last Sunday call recording, asked why Jews turned to a different strategy than the slaves from Africa. Or Native Americans.
Continue reading "The narrative… the story that creates who you are"
We live as if things never changed. Even though we hear, read, that the only thing that is constant in life is change.
And yet, our minds,
the machine-like part of us that cannot learn, won't learn, and fancies itself YOU... our minds tell us, moment to moment, that life will remain the way it is in that moment.
Is that crazy or what?
When something bad happens, the reaction is not to the bad thing, but to the idea that the results of the bad thing are life-long.
When something good happens, the reaction is not to the good thing. It is to the idea, to the notion, to the certainty, that the good thing will last a lifetime.
When you are well... you are sure you'll be always well. When you feel sick, you are sure that unless you fix it, you'll never feel good again. Gloom and doom, or yippee... all is wonderful. The roller coaster, I call it.
So in light of this behavior of the mind: what is the most important skill?
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This article is about the inner workings of a human... that if you get it wrong, the price you pay for the error is your life.
Is a human like a assembled faucet? When it drips you have to replace the whole thing?
I energize my water in a 5 gallon (20 liter) plastic containers with a spigot.
The spigot is replaceable, but I am not strong enough to unscrew it. I have the replacement spigot... I bought it a year ago, but is still sitting on my kitchen counter. I still need to be mindful that the old spigot, which is just another word for water tap... still drips.
Continue reading "How true is your truth? Do your teachers have theory induced blindness… the world is still flat where human behavior is concerned?"
How to Get Your Mind to Read article by Daniel T. Willingham (@DTWillingham) is a professor of psychology at the University of Virginia and the author, most recently, of “The Reading Mind: A Cognitive Approach to Understanding How the Mind Reads.” Republished from the New York Times Continue reading "How to get your brain to read?"
Frame: state change. Causing yourself or another to change their emotional state, aka attitude. The myth of "IS"
One of the invisible tools the memes use, the memes that keep us trapped and unable to take control of our lives is to spew "is" on us.
OK, that was a long sentence. let me see if I can reword it. The memes freeze us into a life where we have no power. It is in the wording. The freezing power comes from the wording.
We have spoken about the having to, needing to, wanting to, and should... these are a group of tools the memes use to rob us of our own power, and render us puppets.
The tool that renders us powerless to change is the improper use of "is".
Whenever you feel you need to change, this meme tool is at work.
Whenever you point a blaming finger at yourself, at the world, or at others, this meme tool is at work.
It is under learned helplessness. It is under resignation, cynicism, and unless you learn to recognize it, you'll fight it... like Don Quixote was fighting the windmills. No chance to win.
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