Buyers are liars

“Not what we say about our blessings, but how we use them, is the true measure of our thanksgiving.”

– W.T. Purkiser

Most people claim that they want to change their lives… because truthfully, how it is now, is not much fun.

Only a tiny fragment of them will be willing.

What is the reason?

One reason is that they are lying. Habitually. And maybe, just maybe, they don’t even know it.

  • I remember the times when I had no idea what I liked and what I didn’t like.
  • I remember when the only way I knew I was hungry is because I found myself eating.
  • I remember when I didn’t know I had to go to the bathroom until I found myself there. 1

So ultimately you know what you like, what you want, who you are only from your actions. Not from what you say. Continue reading “Buyers are liars”

How to detect lies… even your own…

lying spot a liarOne of the things I am starting to check if the person who wants to work with me, closely, is in the habit of lying or not.

So yesterday I told an applicant that she was a liar.

I muscletested it, and muscletest said she was a liar…

Turns out she wasn’t lying in that moment, yet she was a liar.

I muscletested it because I felt it. It felt like a disgust or stomach ache…

She considered the incident an invalidation of anything and everything I do, and left.

I am OK with that. It is still “cheaper” to have someone quit than have to do the uphill struggle to try to cause transformation to someone who is a liar. Even if the lies are not conscious. Mostly they aren’t.
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