Through every generation of the human race there has been a constant war, a war with fear. Those who have the courage to conquer it are made free and those who are conquered by it are made to suffer until they have the courage to defeat it, or death takes them.
Now, looking at it from the viewpoint of the fixed mindset versus the growth mindset you can see that the fixed mindset provides a barrier that promises you to keep you safe.
Meeting others' expectation of you: the need and the controversy: how it has lead you to be the way you are
This is a very important article. If you just read one article, this is it. Without getting this, what I am showing here, you can't and won't be able to fulfill your destiny as a human.
This morning I looked up the expression "eager beaver" in Hungarian. And cried again. This time without tears. This time, not for myself. This time for humanity. This article is what you can get when you cry with your eyes open...
To belong to the cool guys, you needed to, at least, pretend, that work, school work, reading, learning, achieving are not important to you.
It is pretending that you don't care.
The cool guys are losers. In life. But they look good.
Being eager in response to an inner or outer need, is considered uncool.
It's even obvious to you that allowing is missing... But how do you activate the capacity of allowing, and then how do you make the capacity a working skill?
Allowing is what's between you and serenity. I don't mean happiness, because happiness has its roller coaster nature: happiness has unhappiness as its shadow. You can only get happiness if you are willing to have unhappiness.
Allowing is letting it be. And although you may feel the urge to change it, fix it, kill it, hide it, hide from it, allowing is authentically allowing something to be, and gain your own beingness.
I got lucky this morning. One of the participants in the Reclaim program shared that until I asked him to experience his distaste, he'd felt numb for two months.
This is a great catch. Even though I am an empath, I don't always identify the beingness of a person accurately, astutely, because the feeling is alien or unknown to me. I don't experience numb outside of a dentist's office...
But truth be told, at least half of the people who ask for their vibrational reading, feel numb. They hold their breath lest they feel something they don't want to feel.
Every single human (and to a certain degree lots of animals) has automatic ways of being, that could be called a machine, because their behavior is predictable, it is machine-like. Push a button and outcomes the same result, every time.
Every person I know is, more or less, an emotional wreck... a thinly disguised heap of upsets, fears, anxieties, and other very unpleasant feelings. As an empath I see the disguise and feel the truth.
The gap between what you'd like to be, calm, collected, smart, graceful, close, intimate, effective, important, creative, productive, etc. and the reality, the truth: you are bogged down by bad feelings, bad thoughts, doubts, insecurities, fears... stuck, stuck, stuck. In survival mode alternating with sudden bursts of inspiration, hope, etc.