In my weekly coaching call with my only business/marketing student last night, I went deep into the causes of why someone with a degree, why someone who is making a living, cannot move further up the life-satisfaction, life effectiveness scale.
I have found two blatant holes in him, that my guess is shared by all of you, or most of you.
1. a total blindness of what gives meaning and therefore the mood for life.
2. a total inability to see what is cause and what is effect.
So how do you fix that? You don't.
When you find something that isn't working or isn't working as well as you'd like it to, your knee jerk reaction is to fix it. Or change it. Or stop doing it.
But unless what you found is seed level, you can work till the cows come home, and you will only produce pretense, but not a change.
It seems that we, humans, never look at anything long enough, or awake enough, to actually see the forest for the trees.
What do I mean?
I mean that certain things can only be seen if looked at long enough.
The cat can't recognize anything stationary, unless it stares at it long enough. And honestly, neither can you. Or me.
But you, with your big brain, and arrogance, you think you saw all you needed to see, and it is how come you use only a small fragment of the information available to you. You don't even look! You don't listen! You don't pay attention to your senses.
When you can't seem to attain your new years resolutions...
When you have a hammer, everything looks like a nail 3
I have a better "hammer" for you: it has worked for my multi-millionaire mentor, it will work for you. 4
What to do when all you know fails you? When the hammers don't work, and you can't seem to attain your goals?
I was on a radio show today. I was the "minor" guest, and as such, I did not prepare: I wanted to stay present to the conversation the "major" guest had with the radio host, so I can add my 2 cents worth, instead of taking the show to a different place. Continue reading "Got New Years Resolutions?"