If you need to eat by appetite, but you seldom have appetite... you are, instead, hungry.
When I mention appetite, I get puzzled silence in return.
Most of you don't know what appetite is.
Your body has a language (like cats! lol) that is nonverbal. If you don't speak the language then you are out of touch with your body, and likely your health is low. You have symptoms that tell you: you are doing the wrong things. Continue reading "Eating by appetite… not hunger… but do you know what appetite is?"
In my weekly coaching call with my only business/marketing student last night, I went deep into the causes of why someone with a degree, why someone who is making a living, cannot move further up the life-satisfaction, life effectiveness scale.
I have found two blatant holes in him, that my guess is shared by all of you, or most of you.
- 1. a total blindness of what gives meaning and therefore the mood for life.
- 2. a total inability to see what is cause and what is effect.
So how do you fix that? You don't.
When you find something that isn't working or isn't working as well as you'd like it to, your knee jerk reaction is to fix it. Or change it. Or stop doing it.
But unless what you found is seed level, you can work till the cows come home, and you will only produce pretense, but not a change.
Continue reading "What is the difference: I get to shovel the 10 inch snow… and I have to shovel show?"
This article is about the inner workings of a human... that if you get it wrong, the price you pay for the error is your life.
Is a human like a assembled faucet? When it drips you have to replace the whole thing?
I energize my water in a 5 gallon (20 liter) plastic containers with a spigot.
The spigot is replaceable, but I am not strong enough to unscrew it. I have the replacement spigot... I bought it a year ago, but is still sitting on my kitchen counter. I still need to be mindful that the old spigot, which is just another word for water tap... still drips. Continue reading "How true is your truth? Do your teachers have theory induced blindness… the world is still flat where human behavior is concerned?"
How do you model after a successful person? Do you do what they say? Do you do what you see? It's about modeling to grow, modeling to become all you can be.
I do both.
I am most interested in their habitual way of thinking, responding, decision making, and attitude.
Sometimes they know themselves, but more often than not they don't know themselves that well... do not see much into the invisible...
If I see a habit that I want for myself, even if I see it clearly, I still have the difficulty of integrating it... it is not enough to see it.
Integration means it becomes part and parcel with me and my structure. But each habit forces me to find a crack, an opening in my structure, or I won't be able to integrate it. Continue reading "How do you model after a successful person? Do you do what they say? Do you do what you see?"
Frame: state change. Causing yourself or another to change their emotional state, aka attitude.
The myth of "IS"
One of the invisible tools the memes use, the memes that keep us trapped and unable to take control of our lives is to spew "is" on us.
OK, that was a long sentence. let me see if I can reword it. The memes freeze us into a life where we have no power. It is in the wording. The freezing power comes from the wording.
We have spoken about the having to, needing to, wanting to, and should... these are a group of tools the memes use to rob us of our own power, and render us puppets.
The tool that renders us powerless to change is the improper use of "is".
- Whenever you feel you need to change, this meme tool is at work.
- Whenever you point a blaming finger at yourself, at the world, or at others, this meme tool is at work.
- It is under learned helplessness. It is under resignation, cynicism, and unless you learn to recognize it, you'll fight it... like Don Quixote was fighting the windmills. No chance to win.
Continue reading "Reframing: State change: Changing your emotional state"
It seems that we, humans, never look at anything long enough, or awake enough, to actually see the forest for the trees.
What do I mean?
I mean that certain things can only be seen if looked at long enough.
The cat can't recognize anything stationary, unless it stares at it long enough. And honestly, neither can you. Or me.
But you, with your big brain, and arrogance, you think you saw all you needed to see, and it is how come you use only a small fragment of the information available to you. You don't even look! You don't listen! You don't pay attention to your senses.
You live in your head...
It's habitual. Continue reading "God doesn’t play favorites. Will you be the one who survives?"
When you can't seem to attain your new years resolutions...
When you have a hammer, everything looks like a nail
I have a better "hammer" for you: it has worked for my multi-millionaire mentor, it will work for you.
What to do when all you know fails you? When the hammers don't work, and you can't seem to attain your goals?
I was on a radio show today. I was the "minor" guest, and as such, I did not prepare: I wanted to stay present to the conversation the "major" guest had with the radio host, so I can add my 2 cents worth, instead of taking the show to a different place. Continue reading "Got New Years Resolutions?"