Tree of Knowledge path to life… Tree of Life path to Life. What’s the difference?

evolution-horseAs people round the steps in the 67 step coaching program, as they begin the second cycle, they start to see new things, or they keep on seeing the same things…

Some see the things from memory. Comparing. “Knowing”. And some from actually seeing.

Step two (in the 67 steps) introduces the idea of the Selfish Gene, evolutionary stable strategy.

This point is where people diverge: one in the direction of the Tree of Knowledge, the other in the direction of the Tree of Life.

It is really amazing to watch them go, unaware of the other path.
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The cold fireplace syndrome

fire-burningIt’s not worth it… you moan…

Is it worth it to invest your energy in something that is uncertain? It’s not worth it, or is it?… It is all about whether it is worth it for YOU or not…

If you are supposed to have it already, then working for it doesn’t look like it’s worth it.

And this is the problem, an epidemic, of today. I have students in all the time zones of the world… and they all share this problem.

Memes, thought forms, prevalent teachings suggest that…

  • 1. you are already happy, worthy, successful, precious, special, blah blah blah or should be
  • 2. that you already have everything or supposed to to be who you want to be or should
  • 3. that you should look within for all the answers
  • 4. that the Universe is friendly to you and if it isn’t then there is something wrong
  • and on and on and on, endless flow of half-truth, endless flow of deceptive “inspiring” statements and quotes and memes.

Now, depending on where you are, depending on what you have, depending on how you feel about yourself, depending on your history, on your vibration, on your clarity, you’ll hear all those memes differently.

The lower you are in your starting numbers on the essential measurements, the bigger the gap is between what you have, who you are, what you feel, and what you feel you should already be, feel and have.

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What is the typical reason people don’t do anything with their lives?

success-will-never-be-a-big-stepWhat is the typical reason people don’t do anything with their lives?

That’s a loaded question, but it’s a valid question.

I have done a lot of observation and thinking on this.

I have come to the conclusion that the core issue is stinginess that results in scarcity thinking and scarcity behavior.

I will list a few variations: I am sure that you’ll find yourself…

This is how it goes:

  1. You don’t quite know what you want from your life. So you postpone doing anything until you know… which is never.
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Never practice surgery on your family and other lessons for life…

662311125cd60dbfa86171ea8e68a6b3Developing the habit to look before you leap

You have habits, thought patterns, beliefs, practices that guarantee that your life will not change, especially won’t change for the better.

When you do a course, read a book, or talk to a coach, you want to do and change the most important thing about your life: drop 30 pounds, start a new business, or leave your husband.

You are unprepared.

You are like a medical student: you need to practice surgery on cadavers before you cut open your mother or father… translating for those that can’t see the forest for the trees: you need to develop the practices that are building blocks for a good life.
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Why do we have an ego, and how can we make it really useful? You don’t have any part that is not useful!

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I just had a “conversation” with a student, where I suggested that she uses ego to support her growth.

From her answers it has become clear that “using ego” is not a commonplace conversation, and that it needs instruction.

So let’s see what ego is, and what it isn’t.

Ego is a lot like a kitchen knife: you can use it for good, for useful, or for harm… kill with it. You can also use it to clean it under your nails… somewhat useful, but not the right tool…

You can also call it bad, and ban it from your house. 1

I was looking for pictures for this article… in vain. All memes, all pictures said: do away with the ego, it’s bad.

You can see that this is a big conspiracy to strip you of your power. To turn you into powerless limp d-i-c-k. Without the go you are soft, with high aspirations and no power, no bones, no muscles, no strength.

Recognize yourself? Good… now get to work. Strengthen and direct ego to help you become worth a damn. It is never too late. Those who laugh last laugh best.

By the way, the people who are enlightened: got the joke played on them. Maybe that is what enlightenment is? Do you get the joke played on you?

Hey, I never said that ignorance is bliss… someone else said it. I believe that ignorance is not bliss, it is a hindrance.
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Want to find your self? Express it? Be true to it? Be motivated by it?

brett-wilson-find-yourself-and-be-thatI started to read the book by Edward Deci, “Why we do what we do. Understanding self-motivation”.

This is the first book, that I know, that defines self the way, or similarly the way I do…

To become a person, to have autonomy, self-determination, self-expression, integrity, self-motivation, the most important job is to find the self, by distinguishing what is the driver of all your actions, whether it is inner or outer.

And if it is inner… is it the self, or is it the “not-self”?

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The two types of “getting things done” systems… and what people really do

To-Do List Tasks Clipboard Checkmark Words Remember GoalsI have always liked getting things done. Why? Because everything that doesn’t get done is like an energetic attachment, like a ball and chain on your ankle, slows you down, and prevents you from soaring… having a good time, feeling free and unencumbered.

I don’t like those feelings, so I learn, test, experiment with methods that allow me to be free.

I even like to be lighter in weight because I don’t like to be heavy in any way, including physically.

I handle problems, issues, doubts, the same way… handle them so the weights can disappear.
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How dead are you? If your life is not a roller coaster, then you are not alive.

how-dead-are-youWhat you are, instead alive, is a walking dead, resigned, and settled for the little that, it seems, life has to offer. To you. You see others, seemingly happy, seemingly alive, and you feel regret, shame, and envy.

Your heart, where rain forests and colorful birds, and life used to live, is devastated. The lush rain forests gone, the birds gone, life: gone.

Your ups and downs are tiny, not like a roller coaster. They are about money, or noise, or that you are fat, or skinny, or that you are aging. Irrelevant circumstances.

Maybe it is about someone being sick, maybe dying… but that is also a circumstance. Storm in a teacup.

Your pain is the pain of not having lived.

But…

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Are mind movies and vision boards useful? Are they mental representation?

movie-mind-controlYes. Mind movies and vision boards are a mental representation of some fancy that you have… creative or not so creative visualization. Low vibration, low consciousness, wishful thinking stuff. 1

So what is the difference between a blueprint and a vision board/mind movie?
What is the difference between an action plan and a mind movie?

The main difference is how realistic the “dream” is… how much of the groundwork is done and already in place.

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Is there no rhyme or reason in your life?

now-or-neverYou live a life of quiet desperation… meaning: you live in the daily hubbub of pedestrian life, never getting anywhere, pushed around, hopeless and in despair that it is ever going to get better.

Most people come to my site, or seek out any self-improvement, spiritual, or manifestation program for this simple reason: they can see that in the pedestrian hubbub they will not find what they seek: peace of mind, a sense of purpose a rhyme and reason to their life. And without rhyme and reason you cannot be happy.

None of those courses help, unless you first lift yourself from the muck of pedestrian living.

I am offering a workshop (at the end of this article) that does that. Lift you from the muck… to a place where suddenly everything makes sense.

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