Your life is like a boat on sea… Where it’s going is given by the drift 96%

Every learning is becoming. Every action that is aimed at learning but doesn't lead to becoming... is not learning, it is just a pretense. Treading water. The drift.

But becoming is not easy, and it takes longer than you would expect. OK, longer than I expect. Longer than I have been expecting... 🙁

Why? because some of the learning requires you to be "right there", ready for that particular learning. You first need to become ready. Continue reading "Your life is like a boat on sea… Where it’s going is given by the drift 96%"

Want the good life? Use the Edge effect. Finding your niche where you can win. living life creatively

theodore-roosevelt-quoteYou want the good life... Creating the good life, health, wealth, love and happiness, will require creativity from you... 1

The opposite of creativity is timidness. 2

Creativity is living at risk... Existential courage. 3

You want to color inside the lines... and get the good life. No chance.

Unless you are willing to shuffle and stir things up, you are among the dead, you are among those timid souls that never know defeat, but never know success either.
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For you everything is the same as everything else, except that not always…

The second part of the title, "except that not always" is doesn't apply for at least 10% of you: you won't even see the difference when I point it out. 1

The most frustrating thing is, that you are sure you are saying or understanding the right words... but you don't. And you blame it on the speaker saying that what they said doesn't work.

How do I know?

For most people, who become a student in my programs, this is the first hurdle to pass.

You come into my program with a 300 accurate vocabulary, and you only hear the words you think you know what they mean, but that is not what I said.

I only find out what you heard when you tell me my words back to me... wrong. inaccurate. different words. Different meaning. Or Tai's words, if you are in the 67 steps coaching... 2 Continue reading "For you everything is the same as everything else, except that not always…"

Clarity

Clarity

Is it clear? Are you clear? Yes! we say enthusiastically and we lie.

Clarity is one of the things we ALWAYS lie about. It's like the speed limit... or not thinking about sex. It is a built in landmine to make sure we are never in integrity.

We view clarity if it were a black and white phenomenon.

And we talk about clarity as if it were knowable.

Clarity is one of those words...

You don't know until you do.

So why talk about it if it is so tricky? Continue reading "Clarity"

Who are you being? What is the beingness that informs your actions?

Who are you being?

What is the beingness that informs your actions right now?

Your being is a paradigm and things show up consistent with that beingness.

I speak often about turning points in my life. Turning points are points in time where who you are changes... 1

One of them turning points, suddenly I remember, was in 1975. I just left a job where I was unhappy. Nothing new about that: I was happy only a few years of the 17 while I was an architect.

I made a decision based on a temporary emotion early that year, and went to a small firm with a good looking boss. I slept with him, and began a descent to a bad place. Really bad...

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Witness a “measure my vibration” conversation… very educational

open-micThis is a conversation between a person who sent me a donation to find out his vibration.

The conversation worth quoting: I say a lot of important things there... so please read and heed.

Please measure my vibration. Here is my $15 donation....

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I was looking at trust, the intangible capacity to trust… and its role in becoming a winner

no trust - no winningIn the past four months that I have been able to turn on individual capacities for people, I have received no request to turn on trust.

Why is that?

After all people, rightly, asked me for self-trust. But self-trust won't be enough.

So what can be the current world view with regards to trust, that trust doesn't come up as number one to turn on.

Because, whether you know it or not, without trust there is no winning. Without trust there is no flow. Without trust there is no fulfillment.

When I measured some winners in life, for whom it took years to hone their skills with which they won, money, recognition, admiration... trust was there, fully open.

As you probably already know, I use playing Freecell as my laboratory. It is much the way Richard Dawkins, The Selfish Gene author used the computer simulation "Prisoner's Dilemma"... very enlightening for me.

So, what I saw today, and it's only 6:45 am, lol, that without trust you can only play for keeps, or without trust you can't open your eyes wide, and take steps that will only pay off 20-30 steps down the line. Continue reading "I was looking at trust, the intangible capacity to trust… and its role in becoming a winner"