Everyone has dreams, visions of success... A good job, a nice family, nice people, nice work, nice house...
But that is not what people have... When you ask people what made them who they are today, invariably all of them answer a version of the same thing: The past.
How they express this varies: my parents, my schooling, what I have been doing, my genes, etc. etc. but all in all, they all mean the same: what makes me who I am today is the past.
If that were true, that would be bad news, really.
Imagine that it is true. Now see yourself trying to be successful online. Given your track record, and your genes, and your past behavior, how much chance do you have for success?
I'd love to say zero, but it would be unfair to many of you. So instead, I answer it in a way that applies to all of you:
The same as yesterday. Or a year ago...
Now, that is a total bummer, isn't it? Continue reading "Will You Succeed or Will You Fail in business or pretty much any other endeavor?"
I wrote this article back in 2007, when I was in Pam Ragland's course...
I want to address the phenomenon of the "Law of Attraction" vs. "victim mentality" in today's post.
Most of us interpret the Law of Attraction as a kind of "Cosmic Soup Kitchen" where you sit at a table, a waitperson comes and takes your order, and then you wait for your order to come.
Sometimes your order comes, sometimes it doesn't. Sometimes you get something totally different, something that you didn't want.
Some people's order comes faster than yours, some others' slower, or never.
It all seems random, and capricious. Like the Universe is playing a game with you.
Frustrating to most, happy and great for some. It seems like there are chosen people, or lucky, and something invisible marks YOU as the one who should never get ahead, never get what you want.
Continue reading "Law of Attraction vs. Victim Mentality… Choose!"
I got a thank you note today. I get quite a few of those, I must admit.
They are a great way for me to track how the methodologies and principles I use in my teaching work. I mean, how effective I am, how effective the methods are. They track my ability to make a difference in the world. (Someone please remind me to write about how I view my making a difference... OK?)
This note reads
Today was a huge success. I did not even recognize myself. I was attempting to have a conversation with my sister when she became extremely aggressive upon trying to control me and failing. She was in my face yelling and pacing around in circles. I remained calm and did not attempt to defend myself as the lies flew at me. I was able to stick to the subject and not accuse. At this point her husband jumped in and tried to intimidate me, pointing his finger in my face and yelling. They both looked like mad men ganging up on me. I did not raise my voice or get emotional. This is the first time in my life I had no fear in a confrontational situation and it felt GREAT! To be honest I think it frightened my sister & her husband. They did not know what to think of me, I have had many weaknesses in the past but now I am strong.
Continue reading "Did Your Personality Get Put Together vs. You Were Born That Way?"
Well, this could be a real long article, even a book.
I won't go there! writing a book is way too long for my ADHD personality.
But there is one teacher, who I admire, Colin Wilson (of "Outsider" and "The Mind Parasite" fame, who wrote a book, "The Books In My Life" where he strung about 15 essays into a book, and I learned more from the writers he speaks of than I would have learned, had I read the original books. Continue reading "Who Were My Teachers in Transformation and Mindset… ?"