When you decide on an organizing principle, aka direction for your life, you’ll suddenly find yourself with obstacles blocking even your view of the horizon, let alone your path.
This article is about that…
Some ten years ago I learned a valuable way of looking at making life meaningful, or living a meaningful life. The teacher suggested that we pick a horizon, a direction, and then look what’s blocking the way of getting there.
Since then I saw that even seeing the horizon is blocked… Blocked by seven boulders, lined up one behind the other, blocking your view, blocking your movement.
So, in my coaching practice, when I ask people to set a direction, and they can’t see any, I am inclined to suggest that they choose the direction: living a meaningful live, or a fulfilled life… without specifying what it is.
People ask: what is the spiritual practice, the spiritual work that allowed me to climb up to the skinny branches of the Tree of Life, and allowed so many spiritual capacities to turn on? To raise my vibration…
All these years I’ve been asked, and all these years I didn’t know what to answer. I didn’t know what to suggest that you do, that I did, until this morning.
This morning, while and after I was leading the workshop “What’s missing” I realized something profound:
Life is not set up to challenge you to turn on new capacities. The box you live in has no room for new capacities, and offers no challenges.
So how are you going to grow?
You can learn to swim by being thrown to the deep end of the pool, and it’s life or death… sink or swim. Not a pleasant experience, and will probably scare you away from swimming again, for life.
This is when the need for a new capacity is thrown at you. You are unprepared, and you are not at your best… because of fear. Incoherent, and reactive.
It is too late to dig a well when you are thirsty… and it is too late to summon empathy, or courage, or resiliency, or other capacities when you need it, unless you already have it.
There are many approaches to fix a problem, but all fixes are more harmful than the original problem.
Why? Because fix come from the same level of consciousness as the problem… and ultimately that kind of solution: a fix, is the root of the next problem. Like marriage: a fix for loneliness, and the start of more and bigger problems… yet it doesn’t stop loneliness… (Marriage is two people combining efforts to solve problems that would not exist without the marriage…)
Instead of dealing with what frightens you today, what you want to get rid of so you can live your puny little life, let’s go back to a time and situation where you weren’t even born, and it probably didn’t effect you much.
You look at it and you can’t imagine why I would bring it up… that signals a lack of ability to see under the hood…
It seems that one method of making the newly activated capacities real has been found.
As you know, having activated DNA capacities is nice, but unless you need it, they won’t do anything. They will be like lights that are on in streets that no one passes.
The methods I am looking for are methods that make you go into those streets, so you use the light and find ways to be different, do different, have different results, different reactions, different feelings.
The issue with comfortable and somewhat successful people (you) has been is that ego won’t allow you to take risks unless you trick it. I mean: trick the ego. Sweet-talk is great, but won’t help much in this case, I have tried.
In the game of life, when you are losing, or not winning, the two things that can be missing are moves and DNA capacities.
The game goes the way the game goes, but you can play well and with a full deck, or not. Life deals a hand that you can play to win, and you can play to lose…
Each game in life has moves. Winning moves, and losing moves. You can have all the winning moves if you can’t see the consequences of your actions, you won’t win. And even if you see the consequences of your actions (capacity), if you don’t have moves, you still lose.
You have to have the capacities and you have to have the moves to win. Both are part of the invisible.