If you are on this site, you will find yourself, more or less, in this article. And it may change your life.
A student writes,
Hi Sophie, I think I take trivial and superficial things too seriously. How can I let go of these immaterial incidents or people and focus on important things that truly matter to me?
this was my answer
“This is the sign of two things: 1. your map of reality isn’t very similar to reality. 2. you have too much importance attached to nice words about you… i.e. you want to be defined by words not by your actions.
Continue reading “Do you meet others’ expectation of you? No? Don’t care? There is a price to pay…”
This morning something pulled me back to bed after I got up.
I considered it guidance, and I got back to bed.
What came next was amazing: trips down memory lane, all centering around mental illness, mental stability, your TLB, and what was in common among the many people I remember so clearly, people I spent time with in mental institutions.
As an empath, other people’s feelings, emotions tend to tug at me. today 99% of what I feel is not mine… But before I became conscious, before I started to climb the consciousness tree, 30% of the feelings I felt were mine. I also had a lot more noise in my head… all talking at the same time.
The only reason I know, with 20/20 hindsight, that I was hospitalized not for what I felt, is that none of the medication worked… I wasn’t the person who was crazy, I just felt the craziness of others.
My theory of mental illness has always been that it is an escape… a hiding place.
Continue reading “Read again: Is your inability to say what happened a type of mental illness?”
One of the most surprising thing in the world of humans is that humans can’t tell if they are smart or not. This error leads to lives that are not fulfilled, filled with fear, trepidation, or on the other extreme: boasting and disappointment.
I just watched two episodes of a Korean series where most people were dimwitted.
Dimwitted is just another word for “not smart”… but it is a good word because you can see that something is dimmed… as in “it’s dark here… you can’t see much”.
I like this word because it is more accurate than most. Continue reading “Why you can’t tell if somebody is smart or not… Because in the dark all cats are gray”
This morning I received an email from a young man who paid me to measure his starting point measurements.
He could be speaking for you.
I need to take better care to my physical body. Like you said, drinking more water is the first step.
I don’t take care of my body, and I can’t understand why.
I feel like I’m missing gratitude. I hate to say it but I don’t feel grateful, and I don’t understand why.
Gratitude probably will come up to everyone, at least in the United States, where this week is Thanksgiving week… and you are supposed to be grateful. Or pretend that you are.
The more lavish your Thanksgiving, the more money you spend, the more food on the table, the more you do it to cover up that you are pretending. And pretense is the killer of the spirit.
Continue reading “It is the week of Thanksgiving… Why can’t you feel gratitude? Why your thanksgiving is hollow?”
I am on my eighth round of the 67 steps.
Obviously I am following what I learned when I was nine: you can spend a whole vacation reading a book, or a lifetime listening and working with 67 audios and not get bored with it.
Or the way Bruce Lee says the same thing: I fear not the man who has practiced 10,000 kicks once, but I fear the man who has practiced one kick 10,000 times.
I have grown more in these 19 months than in any similar period in my life.
Most people I watch are not present to what they are doing: it is habitual, which means mindless, stuck, plateaued. Continue reading “Is consistency THE winning capacity?”
Mattering is a feeling. Nothing matters and everything matters. But if you don’t feel your life matters, then you’ll live consistent with that…
Some mornings it is hard to write an article.
Ultimately, when I examine the possible causes, I find that I am scattered. My attention flitters, and it is looking for more reasons to flitter (flitting from one thing to another. Move quickly in an apparently random or purposeless manner).
I am sure you recognize yourself. Continue reading “Do you matter? Does your life matter? What is the most important skill to learn so your life will matter?”
The world has never been so divided.
The dividing criteria is intellectual and spiritual abilities, the ability to tell truth from falsehood. To interact with reality the way reality is… not how it should be.
The stupid is becoming stupider, and the smart remains the same. Said in another way: the underachiever is stuck there… and more are joining him.
In this article I’ll look what may be a linchpin issue, and how you can start moving from the hopelessly stupid to the smart camp.
Here are a few contenders to being the linchpin issue:
Continue reading “What keeps you from what you want? Can you change it?”
I don’t know about you, but I have always thought that my food should be my medicine, and my medicine should be my food.
And this is mostly how it was for our ancestors… or more precisely: the more their food provided enough nutrients the more our ancestors thrived.
And the same is true for animals. People who raise animals, or take care of animals for a living, for their livelihood, know this.
Animals need nutrients they cannot always find in the right combination in nature… and they get sick or they die.
It makes economical (money) sense to keep the animals healthy: no money in a sick or dead animal…
I have learned this more than 20 years ago.
Then it took me 20 years to really do enough about it for it to matter for my own health.
Continue reading “Your life expectancy and your vibration are connected, but how?”
The quality of your life depends on your overall intelligence… intellect, body intelligence, emotional intelligence, social intelligence, the ability to live a full life, with a range of emotions, and to conquer difficulties, adversities successfully.
You are born with certain DNA defined potentials. No doubt about that. Your ancestry and its habits lead to your DNA being allowing and restrictive, and yet, all human capacities are encoded in your DNA… but what is not needed, what was not needed by your ancestors is dimmed out… “not needed”, Nature decided…
Continue reading “Intelligence… what is intelligence, and how can you become more intelligent?”
How do you go about awakening compassion, caring and empathy?
The first step of transformation, and awakening a missing capacity is transformation!, is to tell the truth about how it is now.
Transformation is so rare, because people are unwilling to tell the truth. Why? Because truth, any truth about you, will first be painful, and it will piss you off.
The truth about you is that you, the way you are, are unable to feel for another person. You mistake your loin’s yearning, your heart’s yearning for connection to a feeling for the other, but they are not the same.
At this point only a handful of people are able to feel, feel deeply for another person.
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Continue reading “Republished: Want real love in your life? Awaken caring, compassion and empathy in you”