Finally a TED talk that explains why seeing the big picture is such an amazing capacity. Why it can alter your life. Why it allows you to learn. Why it takes you out of the fear of making mistakes...
It also explains why "normal" adults stop being able to learn, experiment, be creative...
One student asks:
If I have identified something as worth having/knowing, when I set out to read a book or take a class, if there is an agenda there, what do I do with that agenda? How, if I could, would I abandon what I think I should be going after to pursue life as more of an experiment? Does the courage to walk away from what I think is the path, the missing piece?
The agenda he is talking about is the "economical" little (or big) piece you want out of your activity. And once you fix what you want, you'll see nothing else, like a machine.
I have a favorite actor. Simon Baker, from The Guardian and from The Mentalist.
Before I sat down to write this post, I looked what it is that I like about him. And I found two things about him that make me want to be around him:
He is never in a hurry. He is not tense, he is not forceful, even when his life is threatened. I can feel the automatic muscle tension leave as he quickly returns to coherence, the only state where you can be effective and efficient in your next step, whether it is picking the lock of a handcuff, seeing the invisible to other details, or winning a hand in poker.
Before you can go up, You need to go down! Just like in building a house. Because unless you clear off the "stuff" and then dig deep to know what's under the top soil, your house will be warped and collapse in a hurry, often while you are building it.
For most of you this is really bad news, because you are hellbent to stay phony happy, phony loving, phony well... delusionally high self-esteem-ed, and you are unwilling to even look at what is real. But what's real is real, and if you ignore it it will bite you in the a-s-s. No compassion, no looking, just continuing what isn't working, and never will is stupid... Here, I said it.
Or maybe you know you are miserable, and you will take on the task of digging deep, to the bottom of the foundation... and what you find there isn't pretty... and it isn't. It violates your standards, it violates your better self... and even though I teach you to bring self-compassion to the looking, so you can build an healthy self on top of this new foundation... what was seen cannot be unseen... and it is toxic... that's why you've been miserable. Continue reading "Updated: What is an emotional detox? What is emotional healing? Introducing HOE long range"
I'll do this workshop until I am satisfied that the method the way I teach it works...
We had results across the board: some came away moved to tears, some came away and quit coaching... Why? It brings up what you have been desperately trying to hide.
I'll do the course and refine it and tweak it and mold it, until it works for every participant. Why? I like challenges, and I definitely finish what I start... lol.
When stuff happens, you go to fear, anxiety, trepidation, anger, frustration... you lose your power. This article is about how to pull back your powers with the correct use of correct language... It is not affirmation, afformations, positive thinking, visualization, etc... those, in my experience, have no real effect, they only have pseudo effect. Continue reading "Instant Coherence… a workshop"