You look around. Everyone seems to have it better than you. They laugh, they hug, they walk hand in hand, kiss… or have friends who like them… but you? If feels like you have no one, no one cares about you, no one responds well to you… You are not getting enough “strokes”… from others.
A “stroke” (in Transactional Analysis) is a unit of social transaction. A hug. A nod. A smile. A hello, a thank you, a “how are you?”, or an f… you…. these are all social transactions. The more strokes you get the less your spine will shrivel up on you…
Continue reading “The empath’s guide to: How to not feel alone, isolated, abandoned, not belonging…”
The fox and the hare tale: Why does a rabbit run faster than a fox? Because while the fox is running for his dinner, the rabbit is running for his life. All of life works the same way…
Keep this tale in mind as you read this article: are you running for your dinner, or are you running for your life?
I have noticed that take-away, as a manipulation technique, works exceptionally well on me.
Here is how the technique works: you show something, and you state that it is only available at this price or any price for a limited amount of time.
I find myself scrambling to get it…
Obviously I was taken in, because once I have it, I don’t want it. I was put in a hypnotic trance, and I acted under that influence.
I am fairly certain that nearly all humans are sensitive to scarcity or takeaway: the pain of loss is bigger than the joy of having something. Or better said: the genes are…
One area you may notice it (the fact that you don’t notice it, doesn’t mean it’s not there!) is how you value your life. Or a relationship. Continue reading “The secret sauce that makes you start having joy in your life”
The secret of producers in the invisible (both to you and them!) dimension. They do something differently from you… and they don’t even know it. I am an empath… and I feel what you do, and I feel what they do… I feel your how…
One area where the two how’s are strikingly different is your self-image. This is crucial… by the way. So please pay attention.
I won’t charge you a million dollars, even though it would be worth it.
You are who you are, the many different characteristics that describe what you do, how you feel, what you go for, and what you shun… are all a result of decisions you made when you were upset, in trouble, and when your brain misbehaved. Continue reading “The invisible difference between a producer and you… is in the how dimension of life”
Your vibration, your creativity, your truth value all depends on your cone of vision… But until you see that you have a narrow cone of vision, that you look at things with narrow cone of vision, or a narrow filter, you won’t want to make it wider.
Wide cone of vision means inclusive… narrow cone of vision is exclusive… exclusive of areas that you KNOW don’t matter, don’t belong, or you don’t like them. Exclusive because you KNOW the answer…
The most exciting insights first show up in the corner of your eyes… Which means they are literally outside of your cone of vision.
One way I see this is how attached you are to one area of life, or one way to do it, or one problem you have.
Continue reading “To what degree is your life fragmented?”
In search of quick transformation…
This is a long article, first showing what doesn’t work, why, and then it takes you to what does…
One of the things about humans is arrogance.
Arrogance is not what you think it is… arrogance is really an attitude where you assume superiority where you have none…
Which is, in an ordered universe… EVERYWHERE.
But you, in your arrogance, ignore that you were born into some already existing order… and you behave like you can do whatever you goddamn want… and expect that it is going to work. Continue reading “A life you love can be built at any age… if you keep some simple rules”
I am reading the Metaskills book.
I am reading it for you and for me.
This book has given me a big insight… and ultimately a breakthrough, though we shall see…
OK, let me start at the beginning.
Most books are either easy or difficult to read. Why? I just found out.
This book, the Metaskills was alternating between easy to read and difficult to read.
At some point it felt like thick mud I needed to wade through.
Why? I had no idea how what he was talking about was connecting to what the book was supposedly about.
I am nearly certain that this happens to you often. The thought is “What does this have to do with the price of tea in China?” or some other dismissive thought.
Continue reading “Seeing… one of the Metaskills that will raise your vibration”
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When you are not well, you are in survival mode. You live in scarcity. Everything seems to be about you. And not much can change about your life… given the focus (me-me-me) and therefore the questions you ask.
In scarcity everything is an is, and the questions you ask are from that “is”. Everything needs to be fixed, and you can’t very well leave things alone: they are wrong, wrong, wrong. Ugh…
You ask why question. Why is this happening to me? Why are you treating me like this? Why can’t I blah blah blah… get rich, understand, be loved, get well… you know those whiny questions that don’t make a difference, they just make you feel even worse.
“They” teach you that you can change your mindset, that you can easily get out of the scarcity mindset, but they are lying. They ignore that your existence is based on your physical well-being (and vice versa!) and unless you get better, nothing will change.
Your whole being comes from your physiology, mostly from your digestive tract, and thus your eating. Bummer, eh?
When you are well, you can start to ask different questions
Continue reading “Abilities that are not available until your health number is above 30%”
If you’ve bought into the b.s. that thinking good thoughts, happy thoughts, being non-judgmental is good for you, then your vibration is low, but more importantly, your vibration cannot be raised, unless you let go of this b.s.
Let’s turn this baby on its head: if you bought into the b.s. that your thoughts create your reality, and you need to avoid thinking bad thoughts regarding yourself, the world, the future, other people, because it makes you and your life bad… then there is nothing I can ever do for you, unless you change your mind.
Why? Because you refuse to interact with reality, you refuse to base your actions on reality.
Reality is neither good nor bad, it is what it is.
Continue reading “A spiritual practice that can change all the numbers in your Starting Point Measurements”
Latticework can be likened to a Christmas Tree.
I once had a boy friend who bought tree ornaments as gifts every Christmas. Even to people who didn’t have a tree… ;-/
One of the barriers to real knowledge, I have found in my students, is compartmentalizing.
The opposite of compartmentalizing is the integrative approach…
I first saw this phenomenon in 1988, when i first read the famous book, What Color Is Your Parachute.
The core of that book is completely wasted on 99% of the readers. The core that talks about portable, transferable skills.
The reason people don’t get it, because they cannot see the integrative aspect…
All in all… if we look through spiritual capacities, the issue is that people look through a narrow cone of vision.
Continue reading “More on the latticework on which you hang new knowledge to become worth a damn”
Parents want to help, but instead they push you deeper into the bull’s ear.
The expression, came from a student’s father, you are in the bull’s ear, is a great distinction. It is not American, and because it is alien sounding, almost nonsensical, it can wake you up.
Continue reading “You are in the bull’s ear… You live in the bull’s ear”