Change… The hardest thing. Why? Do you really want to change? I didn’t think so.

If you wanted to change… if you actually wanted to change… so your life can change too… where would you make the change?

I just had a conversation with one of my students who shows promise to be able to change.

The conversation was about how to behave, what to do when you notice mistakes, mistakes YOU make.
 

Mistakes are like the fruit on the fruit bearing tree. Symptoms. Show what kind of tree you have…

On a side note: where do I look when I assess who will change and who will not?

I will look at two places:

  • 1. do they argue or offer explanations or excuses when they get feedback from me. Argument, explanations, and excuses are the sign of a foolish person who won’t take feedback, and either won’t change, or will do it to either curry approval from you, or to prove you wrong.
  • 2. An immediate testing tool is the 5-question exercise. If they do it, that is a very good sign that they will be willing to change.

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The ability to be in awe… how will it matter for your life?

aweSometimes it is the people no one can imagine anything of who do the things no one can imagine~Alan Turing

I watched yet another movie about Alan Turing and how his machine won the war against Nazi Germany.

I would not be around without him. And you would live a totally different life… The book (and the Amazon series) The Man in the High Castle approximates…

I am in awe. With what he did, with who he was, with genius winning, with goodness winning.


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Many people grieve continuously. What do you grieve for? Is it grief or is it depression?

grieving lossBelieve it or not, grieving 1 is ALWAYS for what could have been. For the loss of a future.

Whether it is in a relationship, or adventure, or riches, or living a fulfilled life. Opportunities missed, a life missed.

If feels like an occasional hiccup like desire to weep, hiccup from a deep sorrow base.
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Negativity… are you protected enough?

We are all trying to live a great life, stay clear headed, be productive, feel good about ourselves.

But, it seems, the world is full of negativity. Gurus teach us to isolate ourselves from that negativity, to think positive, to remove negative friends from our circles… but with all that hubbab, we are more miserable today than we were before we started to protect ourselves from this negativity.

Why? Find some of the truth out from this article… 1

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How much stress, tension can you handle? It is all in the stance…

overwhelm, anguish, cherry plum stateI am going through a rough time.

A business I started 25 years ago needs to be shut down. It wasn’t a self-expression for me for about 10 years now. But closing a business is much like getting a divorce, so I was just plodding along until it is costing money instead of making me money.

It’s not very complicated, actually it is much easier, technically, thank a divorce: you just shut down the websites, and cancel a few contracts with suppliers.

But there is a very interesting aspect of this, that I would have not guessed without actually starting the process myself: the process is largely irreversible, like death. Fear of death, fear of commitment. Fear of loss.

I am watching myself. Of course, half of the feelings I feel are not mine: it seems that a close friend of mine is going through similar issues. His anguish is stronger than mine.

Overwhelm-Frustration-ConfusedSo what is this feeling I call Anguish?

I have identified that a component of the feeling I call anguish is the Bach Flower Remedy Energy® Cherry Plum: a sense of overwhelm, a threat of overloading the circuits, the I can’t take this, it’s too much feeling. All faculties, all nerves are misfiring: incoherence across the board.
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What Causes Weather Extremes That Kill People? Floods, Earthquakes, Tsunamis, Draught? Cancer, Mental Illness, And Other Incurable Diseases And Conditions?

Why didn’t the world end like the Mayan predicted?

The Universe is not exactly a cause and effect phenomenon, it is too complex to detect causality in it. From the limited perspective of the human mind, no causality can be detected… it looks random and capricious.

Human being always wanted to reduce the risk that Life is, always wanted to understand how it works, always wanted to reduce Life to a formula. This is what gave rise to religions.

Religion, organized religion, puts you in the cause and effect mindset. They are doing it to control you, to control your behavior. It puts you in a false sense of security: you are doing the right things, so only good things can come out of it…

In Kabbalah, I learned that the reason you can’t see this cause and effect thing, because G-d in his infinite wisdom, put time between the cause and effect, so you can exercise your free will, whether you are going to be a good boy/girl, or a bad boy/girl. So you just have to believe them.

In Christianity if you are bad you go to hell, and it’s a direct cause and effect. If you can come back from hell, you could tell all of us what it’s like, and then we would know. It would be as effective as burning the child’s hand on a hot stove while saying no. It would be clear to all of us not to be bad… whatever bad means.

For a child, everything happens because of them. A child cannot see the other side of things, cannot see the invisible. My mom left me in the street because there was something wrong with me. My sister died because I was angry… or heavy, or bad, or whatever… a lifetime of anguish and guilt, and trying to be different-than-I-am, trying-to-be-not-me results.

Parents, siblings, teachers, church people seem to be only there to make you feel guilty: it is all your fault.

So, on one hand it is not clear how you cause anything, because of time.
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