Why is it that you look at a successful person and even if you copy all their actions, even if you copy their attitude the way they tell you, you won't be able to duplicate their success?
I have been slacking off growing, i.e. didn't do much to grow, and I noticed. Not for a long time, maybe a week or two, but I have started to notice. Just like athletes notice the imperceptible signs of muscle atrophy and weakening when they are on vacation.
It is very easy to go to this mode... easier than to go back to growth mode.
Suffering? Miserable? I have distinguished Three Causes You Have Control Over...
Motto: Pain is inevitable, Suffering is optional
Most everybody gets miserable and suffering from time to time. Some more, some less.
I used to be miserable and suffering more than most... and I had no idea how to get out of it. It was like a deep hole, and the bright happy world was outside of the hole, and definitely outside of my reach.
As far as I can see, feeling powerless, feeling at the mercy of something out of your control, is part of the human experience, in fact it is a fundamental part of the human experience. And it is a part of it, even after the activation of The Original Design where homo sapiens turns into Human Being.
Why is it part of the Original Design? Because it was part of the experience of the Original Vessel, according to Kabbalah. And because I haven't seen much in Kabbalah that wasn't, that didn't turn out to be true, I am going to conditionally trust Kabbalah...
I am not going to tell the story again, if you don't know it, please look it up.
It's all invented, it is all some rules or some laws to make sense of what cannot make sense... life, the Universe, this whole thing we were born into.
For a while it makes sense... while the parents and the family surround you, but once you are on your own, once what you do matters beyond the rules of the family, life doesn't make much sense.
The ego, the part of a human that wants you to be safe, is not comfortable with uncertainty, with not knowing. It is only comfortable when the rules are clear, they work every time, and you know that if you do A you'll get B.
Many people tell me that I should not give it all away in articles, after all who is going to buy my stuff if I give away all the knowledge.
But the truth is, all the MIND knowledge we can ever have will never help us to live a better life, to be healthier, etc. Doctors are an unhealthy bunch, psychologists / psychiatrist are a wimpy bunch, energy healers come to me for healing...
Why? because the mind considers knowing, i.e. information sufficient... and ...
As long as we identify yourself with the mind, we consider information/insight sufficient as well... But in life it isn't sufficient... not by far.
Just look at weight: we all know what we should be doing, and we have known it for ever. We read, we learn... and yet the number of obese people is growing by the minute. Or worse than that, people losing and regaining the weight, hating themselves, and are totally POWERLESS... and they don't know what they can do to become POWERFUL.
In this article I'll teach you something that has the potential to turn you into a happy, joyful person. No kidding.
Also, it can serve as the bridge between human and human being...
From that you can guess: the distinctions in this article are advanced.
At present, if you are a "normal" human, you are judging yourself and others. You are miserable, wretched, prone to get happy, get sad, get depressed at the drop of a hat.
I assert that you are judgmental, because distinctions are missing, and there is nothing wrong with you. Or them...
You are judgmental. You can't help it. You may try to control yourself, suppress it, but it isn't going anywhere. It is there. It's vicious. You judge yourself as much as you judge others. This is how you learned to be by modeling your parents, your teachers, your bosses, your church, your politicians.