What if you have something blocking you from growing? The Seven Boulders principle

BoulderWhen you decide on an organizing principle, aka direction for your life, you'll suddenly find yourself with obstacles blocking even your view of the horizon, let alone your path.

This article is about that...

Some ten years ago I learned a valuable way of looking at making life meaningful, or living a meaningful life. The teacher suggested that we pick a horizon, a direction, and then look what's blocking the way of getting there.

Since then I saw that even seeing the horizon is blocked... Blocked by seven boulders, lined up one behind the other, blocking your view, blocking your movement.

So, in my coaching practice, when I ask people to set a direction, and they can't see any, I am inclined to suggest that they choose the direction: living a meaningful live, or a fulfilled life... without specifying what it is.

The goal is to see the first boulder that blocks your view, that blocks your path.
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5-ways-to-pinpoint-your-strengths so you can move towards the good life: success, health, happiness

who are you? imprisoned in who you are supposed to be?Politically correct living, living for someone else's sake robs you of seeing who you really are.

I am talking about everybody. Empaths are a special case... they really don't know much until they become conscious empaths.

Life cannot be lived authentically, unless you know who you are.

Authentic living means being the same inside and out. The more you are authentic, the higher your vibration.

So finding out who you are is mandatory if you want to be well, feel well, and do the best with what you got. This is what this article is helping you to do.
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Why You Keep Signing Your Future Self Up for Stuff You Don’t Actually Want to Do

Part One: Knowing yourself is key to being able to change

We all think that we know ourselves... and then when it turns out to be wrong, we are surprised, but unphased in our certainty that we know ourselves.

Why is it nearly impossible to you to know yourself?

Because self-reflection is an intangible, spiritual capacity that can only open up if and when you look at your effect, your reflection, your feedback from the world around you. Continue reading "Why You Keep Signing Your Future Self Up for Stuff You Don’t Actually Want to Do"

Where there is anger there is a lie underneath…

How your integrity, or the lack of it is one of the keys to your raising your vibration, or not raising it...

Yesterday we had a last session of the course, From Upset to Communication.

The call was nearly all about integrity... or the lack of it.

There are countless ways to violate integrity.

The most significant ways are

  • lying by commission
  • lying by omission.

We all tend to know when we actually say something that is a lie...

We rarely know when we lie because we don't know what is the truth

And we almost never realize that withholding the truth is the worst thing we can do for ourselves. It is a lie by omission.

I have written about, and taught the inner dynamic of perpetration/withhold before, but it seems that it is never enough. I have 3000 articles on this site, and no person can read them all... We are talking about more than 30 full size book worth of articles... that is a lot.

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Why Is It So Hard to Change? A new (for me) look at what’s under the hood…

changeWhy is it so difficult to change?

I am in the business of causing change... Causing you to cause change for yourself... 1

Because ultimately YOU cause the change, YOUR actions cause the change... I am pointing you towards the actions that can cause change, towards the thinking that can cause change, towards the books, ideas, principles... and you either change or you don't...

People always teach what they need to learn. I am not an exception.

Change is hard for me... until it is easy. And what happens between the two stages is what this article is about...

When I look at my students, change is always the challenge... and this article, hopefully, will make my job easier by making you more conscious of the inner dynamic...
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The single reason you fall back, even after you raised your vibration. The reason that you can eliminate

Yesterday I spoke about reaching the magic 200 vibration... and falling back...

When I look at the common cause in everyone I have ever observe falling back, the common cause is one thing.

The TLB score. Your Twitchy Little Bastard score...

The TLB score measure to what degree you are willing to postpone gratification.

Most people I observe feel entitled, act entitled. Entitled to pleasure, entitled to smooth, entitled to politeness, and courtesy, and love, and sex, and nice things.

Now, what is underneath of entitled is going to surprise you: it is scarcity. Anyone who doesn't live in the scarcity mindset: I can only be happy if... is going to have a higher TLB score, and will be OK to work towards what they want.
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What should be your first step in becoming astute:?

About the title: an astute person is a person who can see things for what they are

On the Tree of Knowledge we are taught to listen to words instead of looking at reality.

In essence we are cut off from our direct experience of life. 1

In my classes the biggest challenge is to cause the students to see. Unless the seeing comes with words, explanation, they can't see.

See patterns, see the story behind a picture, see cause and effect, see similarity, see differences, see what they need to see to maneuver life.

Astute is a person who can see things for what they are without having to ask for help, explanation, etc.
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A good tool keeps on giving, and giving, and giving

skills, they keep on givingWhen you find something good, then hold onto it, make it your permanent tool or partner.

How do you know if what you have found is a good thing?

This can be in any area of life, health, wealth, love, and fulfillment.

Here is how you know that something was a good purchase, a good bet?

  • A good thing keeps on giving.
  • A good thing doesn't just give you one time, or for a little bit of time. It keeps on giving and giving, maybe even indefinitely.

In another word: what is good is useful. Long term. Keeps on giving to you.

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Impostor Syndrome – One stumbling block to becoming an Expanding Human Being

writers-block-4This article is an old one... republished here...

It is puzzling to watch people not taking any actions that would make a lot of sense for them to take. They will cling, tooth and nail, to some status quo that only they see: it seems that they don't want to find out that they can, and they don't want to find out that they can't.

This relegates them into the status of has-been, or never-been. You can't hold onto anything, because anything that isn't growing is dying. And you can't become something more without growing.

Growing is risk: the risk that you need to find out that you are not as good (or not as bad) as you thought, pretended, claimed you were. Well... suck it up... but most people can't and won't.
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A piece of the vibration puzzle just fell into place

Today was one of those days where the plenty resulted in only confusion and nothing got finished. 1

I started four articles, and ran out of steam, or focus, or attention after half a page or 120 words.

I was a lot like you... lol.

Anyway, when nothing goes well, then the best thing to do is to go out for a walk, or in my case, climbing the steps. Some call this "changing the state", or you could call it: changing the field inside which life is happening. So...

67 steps audio on my ears, I merrily walked down the steps, 160 steps, 20 cm high each, 3200 cm, not a high hill, about 10-11 stories high. 110 feet or so...

I turn around at the end at the bottom and start the climb. That's when I ran into this guy who I see on the steps occasionally. I stopped him to ask how many times he climbs, and found out he climbs the steps 7 times at a clip, 3-4 times a week.

I do it once a day... and it "cripples" me... lol.
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