I feel and I behave like an injured quarterback without my usual programs at my usual computer.
And the big winter storm is here... so I most likely won't get the new computer on Thursday... Eh, we'll just limp along, and it will turn out the way it will turn out... I can handle it.
One of the topics that have come up from students over the past few days is their difficulty to focus.
I say it is ADHD. Now, I am not a doctor, but then again, that's a good thing. Because as long as you have some medication to take, you don't pay attention to anything: you let the meds do the work, and you become a slave. Even if the meds work, Actually, especially if the meds work.
When I wrote the article about racial, ancestral identity and its importance, I touched on something that is not valuable for most people... because I didn't go deep enough and I didn't accurately identify what it takes to be proud of who you are, where you belong.
I got on the phone with one of the people who was very unhappy about that article... I was eager to talk, because it is near impossible to go beyond the visible by yourself. It is a whole lot easier when you get input... because what is invisible to you can be visible for another.
You live in a world of your own design... Time to reinvent yourself as someone you can love
Your own design is like a filter you look through. You can't see the filter, just like you don't see the window unless you touch it...
A filter is like a pair of glasses...
A filter is also like a pair of glasses... They can be dark tinted, they can be yellow, green... and the world occurs differently with each pair of glasses. You can't see that it's the glasses that make the world look the way the world looks to you... unless you can take it off...
You can see only the ripples. The indication that there is something there...
It's the ripples that we don't like... we don't like the things we do, the things we think, the things we feel. We want to change the ripples. But the ripples are the surface of the iceberg... hidden, invisible...
But you can't change something that you don't know. You can't change something that you don't see.
We all want to reinvent ourselves, our world. Because what we have now is not working too well, not serving us too well. We can't have what we want, and we suffer.
When you decide on an organizing principle, aka direction for your life, you'll suddenly find yourself with obstacles blocking even your view of the horizon, let alone your path.
This article is about that...
Some ten years ago I learned a valuable way of looking at making life meaningful, or living a meaningful life. The teacher suggested that we pick a horizon, a direction, and then look what's blocking the way of getting there.
Since then I saw that even seeing the horizon is blocked... Blocked by seven boulders, lined up one behind the other, blocking your view, blocking your movement.
So, in my coaching practice, when I ask people to set a direction, and they can't see any, I am inclined to suggest that they choose the direction: living a meaningful live, or a fulfilled life... without specifying what it is.
How your integrity, or the lack of it is one of the keys to your raising your vibration, or not raising it...
Yesterday we had a last session of the course, From Upset to Communication.
The call was nearly all about integrity... or the lack of it.
There are countless ways to violate integrity.
The most significant ways are
lying by commission
lying by omission.
We all tend to know when we actually say something that is a lie...
We rarely know when we lie because we don't know what is the truth
And we almost never realize that withholding the truth is the worst thing we can do for ourselves. It is a lie by omission.
I have written about, and taught the inner dynamic of perpetration-withhold before, but it seems that it is never enough. I have 3000 articles on this site, and no person can read them all... We are talking about more than 30 full size book worth of articles... that is a lot.
I am in the business of causing change... Causing you to cause change for yourself... 1
Because ultimately YOU cause the change, YOUR actions cause the change... I am pointing you towards the actions that can cause change, towards the thinking that can cause change, towards the books, ideas, principles... and you either change or you don't...
People always teach what they need to learn. I am not an exception.
Change is hard for me... until it is easy. And what happens between the two stages is what this article is about...