When you decide on an organizing principle, aka direction for your life, you'll suddenly find yourself with obstacles blocking even your view of the horizon, let alone your path.
This article is about that...
Some ten years ago I learned a valuable way of looking at making life meaningful, or living a meaningful life. The teacher suggested that we pick a horizon, a direction, and then look what's blocking the way of getting there.
Since then I saw that even seeing the horizon is blocked... Blocked by seven boulders, lined up one behind the other, blocking your view, blocking your movement.
So, in my coaching practice, when I ask people to set a direction, and they can't see any, I am inclined to suggest that they choose the direction: living a meaningful live, or a fulfilled life... without specifying what it is.
How your integrity, or the lack of it is one of the keys to your raising your vibration, or not raising it...
Yesterday we had a last session of the course, From Upset to Communication.
The call was nearly all about integrity... or the lack of it.
There are countless ways to violate integrity.
The most significant ways are
lying by commission
lying by omission.
We all tend to know when we actually say something that is a lie...
We rarely know when we lie because we don't know what is the truth
And we almost never realize that withholding the truth is the worst thing we can do for ourselves. It is a lie by omission.
I have written about, and taught the inner dynamic of perpetration/withhold before, but it seems that it is never enough. I have 3000 articles on this site, and no person can read them all... We are talking about more than 30 full size book worth of articles... that is a lot.
I am in the business of causing change... Causing you to cause change for yourself... 1
Because ultimately YOU cause the change, YOUR actions cause the change... I am pointing you towards the actions that can cause change, towards the thinking that can cause change, towards the books, ideas, principles... and you either change or you don't...
People always teach what they need to learn. I am not an exception.
Change is hard for me... until it is easy. And what happens between the two stages is what this article is about...
It is puzzling to watch people not taking any actions that would make a lot of sense for them to take. They will cling, tooth and nail, to some status quo that only they see: it seems that they don't want to find out that they can, and they don't want to find out that they can't.
This relegates them into the status of has-been, or never-been. You can't hold onto anything, because anything that isn't growing is dying. And you can't become something more without growing.
Today was one of those days where the plenty resulted in only confusion and nothing got finished. 1
I started four articles, and ran out of steam, or focus, or attention after half a page or 120 words.
I was a lot like you... lol.
Anyway, when nothing goes well, then the best thing to do is to go out for a walk, or in my case, climbing the steps. Some call this "changing the state", or you could call it: changing the field inside which life is happening. So...
67 steps audio on my ears, I merrily walked down the steps, 160 steps, 20 cm high each, 3200 cm, not a high hill, about 10-11 stories high. 110 feet or so...
I turn around at the end at the bottom and start the climb. That's when I ran into this guy who I see on the steps occasionally. I stopped him to ask how many times he climbs, and found out he climbs the steps 7 times at a clip, 3-4 times a week.