If you need to eat by appetite, but you seldom have appetite... you are, instead, hungry.
When I mention appetite, I get puzzled silence in return.
Most of you don't know what appetite is.
Your body has a language (like cats! lol) that is nonverbal. If you don't speak the language then you are out of touch with your body, and likely your health is low. You have symptoms that tell you: you are doing the wrong things. Continue reading "Eating by appetite… not hunger… but do you know what appetite is?"
How do you model after a successful person? Do you do what they say? Do you do what you see? It's about modeling to grow, modeling to become all you can be.
I do both.
I am most interested in their habitual way of thinking, responding, decision making, and attitude.
Sometimes they know themselves, but more often than not they don't know themselves that well... do not see much into the invisible...
If I see a habit that I want for myself, even if I see it clearly, I still have the difficulty of integrating it... it is not enough to see it.
Integration means it becomes part and parcel with me and my structure. But each habit forces me to find a crack, an opening in my structure, or I won't be able to integrate it. Continue reading "How do you model after a successful person? Do you do what they say? Do you do what you see?"
What is negativity?
Most of us seem to know what it is, we feel it, some in their guts, some in their heart, but feel it, especially when other people are negative. When it's within us, we feel despair, anxiety, worry, we have a sense of dread, or we are sad, nervous, stressed, hyper, manic, depressed, or just listless. We get sick from it.
We do not recognize it as negativity on ourselves and that allows it to go rampant, unmanaged, something that happens to us and all we can do about it is complain, bear it, or take some pills.
In the normal course of events we don't notice anything special tied to what we think or say, because we are so mired in negativity, it's normal. Our life is lived in quiet (or not so quiet) desperation, and that's that. Continue reading "What is Negativity?"
How To Beat Depression Without Medication
You Can Beat Depression... if you recognize it as depression
I found this article when I searched for the phrase "beat depression."
Many of us are depressed. Depression can be low-grade or raging... I am most interested in the low-grade depression, it is easier to beat depression that is low-grade without medication.
The writer of this article uses valid arguments for self-management, but misses a lot of factors, like what did he do, exactly, that allowed him to beat depression to begin with.
He says he took responsibility for his feeling down and out, ad he kicked the medications... so far so good.
But what he isn't saying is that depression is a sign of something.
What is it a sign of? In my experience, as a once depressed person (for 40 years!) I have noticed a few common characteristics with my coaching clients.
- I lacked desire.
- I was not happy with myself
- I could not see myself clearly doing what I thought I wanted to do... the picture was there like fuzzy patches, but not like a movie.
So, how do you get out of these three interconnected and synergistic (negatively) states of mind?
I think that the easiest is to start with number 2.
Why? Because it is easier go get happy(er) with yourself, especially because you need energy for the other two, and having a good feeling about yourself will give you energy.
You can also start really small, like doing something that you consider hard to do, but still doable, like
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