…And live to tell the tale…

You want to live a life where you say this about yourself, a lot. "...And I lived to tell the tale..."

Where you are on the edge... and come back to tell the tale.

The edge? it feels like the dividing line between life and death. It is just a feeling. Some edge is quite inconsequential, but the going there is tremendous.

I signed up to be coached on Monday, and it's Sunday, and I am already "fired".

Another man's integrity may be out of integrity for you. Another man's wisdom is not YOUR wisdom. That is what happened.

I was asked to do something that doesn't agree, doesn't foster love between my two selves. Everybody is doing it... but for me to love ME, I can't do it.

If you are not free to be yourself, then your integrity number is low.

Integrity is an inside job, and only you can call the shot...

But... Without integrity nothing work. Continue reading "…And live to tell the tale…"

What is real? What is made up? How can you tell?

I have read all the One minute books... I saw that the One Minute Manager touched on my Achilles' Heel...

Each of these One minute books teaches some attitude, or a thing to do, that makes you and the people you work with happier, more productive, etc.

Except...

Occam's razor says: everything should be as simple as it can be but not simpler.

Pop psychology is simplistic. You find yourself nodding vigorously as you read it. But when it comes to doing it... oops. You cannot do it.

The One Minute manager's job is to catch people doing the right things.

Most people cannot. Most people keep their eyes on what you do wrong, what they do wrong... what needs to be fixed. But most importantly they cannot see what is. Continue reading "What is real? What is made up? How can you tell?"

Why you can’t tell if somebody is smart or not… Because in the dark all cats are gray

One of the most surprising thing in the world of humans is that humans can't tell if they are smart or not. This error leads to lives that are not fulfilled, filled with fear, trepidation, or on the other extreme: boasting and disappointment. 1

I just watched two episodes of a Korean series where most people were dimwitted.

Dimwitted is just another word for "not smart"... but it is a good word because you can see that something is dimmed... as in "it's dark here... you can't see much".

I like this word because it is more accurate than most. Continue reading "Why you can’t tell if somebody is smart or not… Because in the dark all cats are gray"

Your soul correction in your favorite movies, the ones that come up in your memory again and again

One of my favorite movies is a Coen brothers movie, True Grit

It comes up for me 4-5 times a year, to ponder who had the true grit... the little girl or the big drunkard marshal? 1

Which, as it turns out, isn't the right question.

Continue reading "Your soul correction in your favorite movies, the ones that come up in your memory again and again"

For you everything is the same as everything else, except that not always…

The second part of the title, "except that not always" is doesn't apply for at least 10% of you: you won't even see the difference when I point it out. 1

The most frustrating thing is, that you are sure you are saying or understanding the right words... but you don't. And you blame it on the speaker saying that what they said doesn't work.

How do I know?

For most people, who become a student in my programs, this is the first hurdle to pass.

You come into my program with a 300 accurate vocabulary, and you only hear the words you think you know what they mean, but that is not what I said.

I only find out what you heard when you tell me my words back to me... wrong. inaccurate. different words. Different meaning. Or Tai's words, if you are in the 67 steps coaching... 2 Continue reading "For you everything is the same as everything else, except that not always…"

What is the difference: I get to shovel the 10 inch snow… and I have to shovel show?

In my weekly coaching call with my only business/marketing student last night, I went deep into the causes of why someone with a degree, why someone who is making a living, cannot move further up the life-satisfaction, life effectiveness scale.

I have found two blatant holes in him, that my guess is shared by all of you, or most of you.

  • 1. a total blindness of what gives meaning and therefore the mood for life.
  • 2. a total inability to see what is cause and what is effect.

So how do you fix that? You don't.

When you find something that isn't working or isn't working as well as you'd like it to, your knee jerk reaction is to fix it. Or change it. Or stop doing it.

But unless what you found is seed level, you can work till the cows come home, and you will only produce pretense, but not a change.

Continue reading "What is the difference: I get to shovel the 10 inch snow… and I have to shovel show?"

Sometimes you have to trust where you are taken.

I am sitting here at my computer, playing freecell. Somehow I find myself pondering the flowershop scene of the movie... and am taken visually and viscerally to the movie, City Lights with Charlie Chaplin. To the scene where he passes the flower shop where the girl whose eye operation he paid for works.

I saw that movie back in Hungary. I was young. And I didn't understand the movie.

Today I realized: I didn't understand the movie because I didn't understand that the Chaplin character was poor.

I lived in a country, in a household where poor wasn't a meme. We had what we had. And we were alive.

You could argue that poor isn't a meme, that it's a fact, but it isn't.

You have what you have, and that is not a meme. But what you don't have is not real, other than in your thoughts, in the memes. Lack is only real in the memes.
Continue reading "Sometimes you have to trust where you are taken."

Vibrational Review: Muse – the brain sensing headband… a meditation device, Ariel Garten and Jordan Peterson

The idea for the Muse came from Ariel Garten, personal vibration 120, a Canadian entrepreneur... curiously deserving a Wikipedia entry, while Dr. Joel Wallach hasn't. Ugh. Continue reading "Vibrational Review: Muse – the brain sensing headband… a meditation device, Ariel Garten and Jordan Peterson"

The art of being well, being unphased, and impervious… for real.

I had an interesting unintended experiment this afternoon.

I have a loud burr coffee grinding machine.

I was ready to make some coffee (I drink cold dripped coffee) and ground the coffee beans while I was doing something else.

I found out that I am much better ignoring memes than ignoring loud noises. I could not hear myself thinking. I was making mistakes... I pondered what I was doing...

This gave me an opportunity to put myself in your shoes. What it must be like to be living in the constant jarring noise of the memes...

Here is what I have seen so far: Continue reading "The art of being well, being unphased, and impervious… for real."

Reframing: How old are you being?

Raising your vibration, raising your coherence is your job. With my help. The helping is my job.

I am experiencing a blissful period in my work.

  • I personally experience seeing things from a higher place and in a richer way.
  • I also experience that suddenly more of my students are getting coherent than normal... than before.

Someone said: when you succeed you celebrate, when you fail you ponder.

But a really successful person ponders, no matter what.

Continue reading "Reframing: How old are you being?"