Expectations, Self-Image, and your future results: should you expect the best?

illusion, beautiful illusionI have a friend who is around 4 years older than me, he is in his 70's. We have been talking once a week for about seven years.

He would like to retire, but his business is in decline, and there is nothing to sell: he is a glorified self-employed person.

Since I have known him, he bought about 15 money making programs, only to drop them after a weak attempt, after losing money with it, or even without trying.
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Expectation is the mother of Disappointment

expectation is the mother of disappointmentOne of the questions I hear on the Talk-to-Me calls or in emails is how to "make it better" or what is good, etc.

It's all a comparison, past based, from the mind.

One thing, disappointment 1 can't be made better. It's like pregnant: it is either a yes or a no.

Now, I assume that we all get disappointed, more or less, depending on us.

disappointment-2Disappointment is the shadow side of expectation.

Expectation, of course, is quite automatic, just like having an agenda is automatic... actually they are just a different word for the same thing.

I haven't been able to consciously not expect a certain result... on the other hand, for the most part I expect nothing... or expect the worst.

This is another Dark Side suggestion: expect the best and then you'll get the best... What a bunch of huey! The whole positive thinking movement is a Dark Side suggestion, and has created more misery than even religion, which is saying a lot.

Expecting the best won't get you the best... Exactly the opposite is true.

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When an area of life isn’t working or isn’t working as well as you’d like it to, there is something that you don’t know

tumblr_kxldz31eZQ1qaukckWhen an area of life isn't working or isn't working as well as you'd like it to, there is something that you don't know.

Obviously, if this is true, then it's true about every area of life... money, your health, your spirituality, your relationships, becoming a person you can like.

But how do you find out what it is that you don't know... that if you knew that it would make a difference?

That is the question.

Many of those answers are on my blog but you have been only scanning... which means you are only interested in what you already know. Your life stays the same, and I am wasting my life, wasting my breath.

One of the major things that you don't know is that you don't pay attention...
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If you are still waiting for miracles… Unwilling and yet expecting

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I expect to receive a lot of hate-mail for this article. Why? Because it is not politically correct. Because it tells the brutal truth, naked and ugly as it is. Don't read if you can't deal with the truth. You have been warned!

I find that I am afraid. I find that I wish people didn't read this article. I am afraid of getting killed.... and yet, I am hitting the publish button...

Real Learning is really hard

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