We all want to be loved. It's hardwired, because being loved is the surest way to be fed, as a child, get sex as an adult, be promoted or helped as an adult.
Its purpose is survival.
The organism wants to survive, desperately.
We don't know what that love is, but we want it. And some of us want to earn it.
I just followed a link that introduced me to Chris Farley, a fat comedian, who died... because he could not live without that love.
So love is a tricky one, because millions loved and adored Chris Farley, but he didn't feel it. He kept on trying and trying and trying... and he kept on putting more and more heroin into his veins, until it was too much.
Some of us know that it has nothing to do with us, whether we are loved or not. Some of us know that there is no chance for love between humans... not even between a mother and a child. Unfortunately or fortunately, you keep on deluding yourself, you keep on pretending.
The capacity to come to terms with the human condition would be useful, but scarcely if any humans have that capacity turned on in their DNA. Instead they keep on pretending, keep on trying to earn love, or pretend to give love... hoping it is reciprocated.
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