Why you can’t see, don’t see value…

you can't abort what you can't catchYou can't catch what you don't see

Gratitude is a capacity. You can't fake it, like you can't fake riding a bicycle.
Appreciation is another capacity.

Appreciation means: seeing value. Gratitude means: acknowledging value.

There are three levels of values:

  1. Cultural or systemic values. 80% of people see those. They are different culture by culture. But most of them are universal... meaning they are in all cultures... These values are binary, like an on/off switch.These are the "two drawers" the book The Art of Hunting Humans talks about, loser/winner, sad/happy, good/bad, useful/useless, smart/stupid, right/wrong, etc.
  2. The second tear is the value, extrinsic value, the use value humans place on things: they are personal values, mostly... They are closer to what people pay for, with money or reciprocation: tasty (food), a nice conversation (companionship), useful, interesting, beneficial, etc.A bowl of soup, a wedding ring, a Thanksgiving dinner, a nice conversation...Anything will have, albeit not acknowledged, not noticed value on all three levels.
  3. The third level is the godlike level, the intrinsic level, and most people don't notice it, don't value it, don't provide it... Even if they know the words... but they are like appreciation: you can say the word as much as you want, the word does not create appreciation, the capacity creates the being.The capacity of appreciation is, like everything in reality, can be expressed in percentages... capacity not on is zero, fully open is 100.

It is one thing to appreciate the obvious, and quite another thing to appreciate what is not obvious... because in the moment it is not visible yet where the value is, or it doesn't FEEL GOOD...

Too much, too strong focusing on systemic value robs a person of their ability to have spiritual, third level, godlike capacities: generosity, love, enthusiasm, creativity, intuitive, etc. Continue reading "Why you can’t see, don’t see value…"

Why it is normal to be miserable: the itch you are trying to scratch

itch catch22The consolation prize you get, instead of a rich and fulfilling life

We all have it... unnoticed, unidentified, undistinguished, sneaking past your conscious awareness, the strings that make you a puppet on a string, robbing you of your life, using it for its own purposes... laughing at you. I can hear the laugh.

The racket. The insidious, ubiquitous racket.

It is a machine... and it is powered by an unfulfilled and unfillable desire, I call The Itch... the itch that cannot be scratched.

The desire for attention, for significance, for winning every transaction, for love, for filling your gaping hole inside. Continue reading "Why it is normal to be miserable: the itch you are trying to scratch"

You can have everything, but not at the same time…

Look how hard I try! Look how good I am!

You can have everything, but not at the same time...

In certain areas of life it is obvious... Like eating sugary stuff and weight loss...

But in this work, the work of causing human evolution, from human to human being, I don't address many obvious things, because the secret of evolution is in the invisible domain. Continue reading "You can have everything, but not at the same time…"

When you argue for your limitations…

When you blame other people... When bad things always happen to you... When you won't be happy unless... When winning is the goal...

Why is it that some people consistently choose being right... when the question is being right or being happy?

The underlying dynamic is invisible to the naked eye. It is like an iceberg: only tiny bit of it is showing, and the bulk of the iceberg is under the water level, waiting for your life to kill it... like an iceberg sunk the mighty Titanic.

The visible part is almost always presenting you as the good guy. Nice guy. Hurt, angry, taken advantage of, innocent like a freshly born lamb. Harmless. Continue reading "When you argue for your limitations…"

Are you the solution or are you the problem?

I am sitting here. In a few hours I have a brainstorming call with a student of mine, who is, who has been, who is proving to be impossible to train... and I am scared and angry.

This article is the process in which I change my context for the call, so I can make a difference... or not... Inside the current context all I can do is yell... Not what I want my life to be. So, here we go...

Useless vs Priceless

Or said in another way: are you the solution or are you the problem?

As a little boy or as a little girl, you made some decisions about yourself, what it is that you were supposed to get, how to get what you want. Continue reading "Are you the solution or are you the problem?"

An interesting recording from 2012… why does your life feel empty?

As I am teaching the invisible dynamics, I go every day and dig up older recordings...

This one is brilliant. It deals with the complaint activated dynamic, called racket. But the racket in this recording is "special"... it points to why your life is so empty, and why, it seems, nothing that you do fills it up with life...

Correcting vs fixing or how illness is my racket

I don't think I have ever really distinguished the difference between these two similar sounding activities... so it's time.

As usual, I had to distinguish the difference for myself... the hard way.

I almost didn't make it...

My strength deteriorated to the degree that I was having heart pain and exhaustion from just going from one end of the apartment to the other... So I started to mentally prepare myself to meet my maker, so to say.

The weird stuff was, that Source answered all my "diagnostic" questions with no... not my heart, not my lungs, not this and not that... yet it agreed that I was dying... Weird, right? Continue reading "Correcting vs fixing or how illness is my racket"

You are a racketeer. Small time, bit player. Smoke and mirrors…

Why is drama a racket? Why is it never real...

Life is never dramatic. The drama is added by the onlookers or the participants.

Things happen. And you do what you do. You may get mauled, killed, or laughed at. But drama only happens in your head... it is never out there.

You look in the mirror and you see what you see.

I look in the mirror and I see loser. Why? I don't care. I know there is no loser there... in fact there is no loser anywhere. so I have a choice: make drama or not make drama.

Most of my life, like everyone, I was making drama.

I found clever or not so clever ways to make people say that I was a loser or something like it. Other ways to prove I was or I wasn't.

Life was a drama around being a loser. Continue reading "You are a racketeer. Small time, bit player. Smoke and mirrors…"

How does your past get into your future… and make you repeat the same life

I have an older blog that is attacked by hackers every week. They install malware... so I don't want you to go there...

It's an old website, more than 10 years ago it was my main blog. Most of it is still useful. 1

I have started to move the old blog posts, one by one, to my yourvibration.com site.

One of those posts reminded me, that until you get what I am writing in it, your future will be much like your past.

While I was researching for pictures, I found that what I am teaching is against the mainstream ineffective, all in the visible... the mind is powerful type of teaching.

Reality, if you watch a person, reality doesn't work the way THOSE people, those memes, those motivational speakers tell you it works. The nature of reality is that 90% of what moves anything or anyone, the CAUSE, is in the invisible/unconscious domain of life. Continue reading "How does your past get into your future… and make you repeat the same life"

The mind is the stupid part of you…

Your mind, your stupid part, has no direct knowledge about reality. It has no concern, no regard to reality... It has in it what the memes have programmed it to have... 1% reality, 99% b.s. And your mind is, therefore, your worst friend. It is killing YOU and it is killing your life... sometimes slowly, sometimes really fast. 1

Every Tuesday I read my email to find my weekly horoscope, and here it goes... again. Setting a context for my life, a context I could have never dreamed up myself... Rob Brezsny and his weekly horoscopes I would not want to miss. Continue reading "The mind is the stupid part of you…"