Stuck in a rut? Would you like to find your way out?

Originally posted 2010-07-11 08:57:56.

Stuck in a rut? Would you like to find your way out?

First off: You are not alone.

My coaches, mentors, teachers, friends, and clients are stuck too, from time to time.

Take one of my teachers: she has been dealing with some downward spirals, that completely felt as something that has no solution.

Their expensive, and almost brand new RV suddenly needed major repair, and the funds weren’t there. Continue reading “Stuck in a rut? Would you like to find your way out?”

Will Practicing Compassion Make You A Better Human?

How To Raise Your Vibration? Become A Better Human Being, Practice Compassion

What is gooD? wHAT IS the definition OF GOOD?

The first question that you should ask when I suggest you become a better human being, is ‘what do you mean: better?Continue reading “Will Practicing Compassion Make You A Better Human?”

Do You Feel Stuck? Case study of a client who got unstuck

Do you feel stuck? Are you trying to do everything but you still are stuck at the miserable place instead of where you could be your best?

If so, you are not alone.

One of my clients used to be in constant survival.

  • He could see that he wasn’t doing what he really wanted to do with his life.
  • He knew he loved to learn.
  • Also: He loved to be in conversations about deep issues where he could distinguish, for himself and another what they were looking at, deeply, precisely and in a way that it altered life. He loved that.
  • And he loved teaching.
These were the activities he loved to do, and he hoped that people would, at some point, pay for it. Continue reading “Do You Feel Stuck? Case study of a client who got unstuck”

How fast can you raise your vibration? to get…

raise your vibrationYou want to raise your vibration, Right? You do… That is why you are here…

And you can. Your next question is probably: how fast?

There are two main issues for that question, how fast. Lack of courage and lack of humility, that if you have them, you probably won’t be able to raise your vibration until you overcome these two issues. Continue reading “How fast can you raise your vibration? to get…”

Validation: The Fastest Way To Raise Your Vibration.

As we are embarking on another 30-day challenge to activate seeing in reality… I change the focus and therefore the process, but want to achieve the same thing: accuracy, astuteness, intelligence… in seeing what is in reality and have accurate, astute and intelligent responses in return.

Because, as weird as it sounds, the best the collective human race can do, at this stage is a 1% accuracy… which isn’t sufficient for happiness, peace of mind, powerful life… none of it.

Why? Because we look not out there, but in here… in the mind, and we keep seeing the same thing, regardless what is outside.

Your vibration, everyone’s main concern, can only be high as your astuteness is… this is why the average vibration on the planet is falling like a rock… it is 100 in 2020.  When I started this website, in 2011, the average vibration was, if I remember correctly, 150… 100 is the level of religion, any ideology, fascism, communism, racism…

So, although I can’t do much for the Planet, I can help individuals lift themselves from the morass and see more, and see more accurately.

The easiest method and fastest method of doing that is validation, the practice, coupled with the DNA capacity activation.

To be able to get into the vibration of appreciation (300 on the map of consciousness) or get into the vibration of gratitude (above 300 on the map of consciousness), you would need to be a vibrational match to either, and 99.99% of the population isn’t.

The good news is: the act of validation will temporarily raise your vibration to that same vibrational frequency and that is the vibrational frequency where you can TEMPORARILY activate the Law of Attraction and have your desires be fulfilled. You can start exactly where you are.

If you diligently practice validation, you will be able to keep your vibrational frequency at this high level. You will experience first-hand what having a higher vibration is like: pure bliss.

Let me explain the process of validation

You find something worthy of acknowledgment in another.

It can be big or small. You can always find something easy to start with: you have nice teeth, or you smell good, or your socks are a fabulous color. Practice this first to find out that people, if you are honest, will appreciate being seen…

Next, a step harder, is to have a goal in mind: one could be: to experience being heard by another. I have a student for whom that would be reason to celebrate.

Another goal could be to bring a smile to another’s face.

Mine is often to experience people returning to the present moment. I’ll feel it because I will experience that they can actually see me. Not an easy feat… I don’t always succeed. You show up for them as a disruption… ok, I do… lol. Hey, I am a disrupter…

Why does validation work? Why it alters YOU? Why it’s worth doing?

Validation coupled with the DNA activation is like getting glimpses of heaven.

Validation is much like smiling. Once you start it, it causes a state change. Your mood start matching the smile, it goes up with it. You don’t have to feel like smiling when you start, and when you end it, you can’t help feeling happy.

In the beginning you will have to strain yourself to find anything worthy of acknowledgment. But as you practice, it will be easier and easier.

I remember when I started I looked at people’s clothing, their bodies, their hair to find something to acknowledge. Then I graduated to behavior, and later to who they really are. Today I am able to connect to their real self and acknowledge that.

validationCatch: in order for validation to work for you, you actually need to look before you speak. Which means, you can’t just become a robot, and spout nice things, that will actually lower your vibration. Trickery doesn’t work in the world of vibration.

Remember that this exercise only raises your vibration while you are doing it. So doing it diligently is your best bet.

Eventually you’ll be able to keep the DNA capacity open… but continuing living a life of a validator is, I say, mandatory to keep the capacity open so you can see

Put up reminders around you. After a long while it will become second nature to you. By then your vibration was permanently impacted.

The 30-day Validation challenge starts on Monday, 10/26/2020

I activate the capacity and let you know in an email.

So, as you see, the first exercise for validation asks you to see… and tell them. See more every day, and tell them.

A second exercise for validation is different

It talks to something you can’t see. It is designed to open up your sight to see what you have been denied access to by your own mind.

Some twenty years ago I had a homework in one of the courses I did to acknowledge a missing item, something I could not see, something that was missing for me. The instructions were: lie authentically.

That sounds like an oxymoron, doesn’t it? lie and authentic in the same sentence? Bah.

But it worked brilliantly. It took me a week and 43 people, but by the 44th I could actually see free, my missing item, and acknowledge it authentically. Until that point I just said the words, and was very surprised that people thanked me for noticing it, or just nodded in agreement. I really could not see… but they could. They had a different missing item, not the same as mine.

I have used this in my coaching with the same surprising results.

My missing item was “free.” Yours will be likely different.

So my acknowledgment was: “I see that you are free.” Or “I acknowledge you for being free”.

If your missing item is powerful, then you would say: “I can see that you are powerful”. You’ll be surprised to see how many people will be pleased to hear it.

How do you get your missing item? Go and read my post on the three wishes… it’s given there exactly.

This second exercise, done properly and past the time that you can actually see your missing item, raises your vibration permanently.

I just got an email from a long time student who said:

how can something that is all about me raise my vibration? After all my missing item is ‘belonging’… and it is all about me.

My answer is: the exercise is to acknowledge that they have your missing item… and that is not about you. If I tell you: I see you are loved, and you smile and feel warm all over, and say, thank you… was that about me? No.

So none of the validation exercises are about you. If at any point you feel it’s about you, then you are doing some ego exercise.

If you think you are ready to make the jump, please do so before Monday


Get your ‘recognizing/seeing value’ capacity activated

PS: It’s a good idea to watch the movie “Validation” before you start.

How to raise your consciousness to the level of guru in 18 months?

How to raise your consciousness to guru level in 18 months?

This article is seven years old…

I had a conversation with a friend of mine. She was the kind of friend who was in and out of my life… she lived a dramatic life and she needed help, technical, health, money, legal… that was the basis of our relationship.

I used to be the kind of person she was, and I have compassion. She didn’t bring me down, and I enjoyed her unique view of life… she was a transgendered person, was born a man, and she lived as a woman. She never changed her name… she once got kicked out of an apartment because her name said Jeffrey (not her real name.)

I was recounting to her the miraculous rise of my consciousness… and she asked what she could do to raise hers. Continue reading “How to raise your consciousness to the level of guru in 18 months?”

What you see… is it reality?

The view is different from the foot of the mountain than from the top

One of the weird thing about humans that they are stuck in their limited view of reality.

They don’t even suspect that there is a different view from different points.

This is why almost every otherwise worthless therapist or coach can cause temporary results… because all they need to learn is to ask you to look a different way, through a different perspective, and voilà… magic happens.

The problem is that when you are left to your own devices, you rarely if ever think to activate the magic. The magic that is magical, but isn’t magic.

Things look different from different perspectives, because that is what perspective means. Duh.

And because your life is given by what you see, if you are stuck, which seems to me is always, all you need to do is change the perspective.

I hardly know anyone who volunteers to do that. Continue reading “What you see… is it reality?”

You are not learning. What does the culture teach you, tell you, so that you end up not learning?

iceberg of your identity: the hidden dimensionsThis is a great question, if you have curiosity the capacity turned on. This is an even greater question for you if you have been trying to learn, by signing up to my programs, or buying a capacity from me, and you are failing.

Here is the statement I paid more than 20 thousand dollars for, taken an airplane some 20 times, slept in a hotel 20 times, and got nothing else from the courses and programs I paid for…

But this sentence is worth the 20 grands it cost me to get it.

Here is the magic sentence: “When something isn’t working… there is something you don’t know.”

The sentence is brilliant… and yet it won’t work for 99% of the people…
Continue reading “You are not learning. What does the culture teach you, tell you, so that you end up not learning?”

Reframing… Label of ethnicity or cultural origin

One of the things that came up in the Muscletesting Course is ethnicity.

Ethnicity is “the fact or state of belonging to a social group that has a common national or cultural tradition.”

Continue reading “Reframing… Label of ethnicity or cultural origin”

Reframing… She is a person! Not an object. OMG.

Refraiming, or looking at things in a different context is one of the tools you have available to you when you raise your vibration.

Ultimately, the most accurate description or definition of higher vibration is that the vibration number expresses the height from where you look at events, ideas…

  • The higher you are the less personal it becomes.
  • The higher you are the less the desire trap will rob you of being able to see that A is A…
  • The higher you are the more options you see.
  • The higher you are the more you can see what bigger thing you can accomplish while you are taking care of things…
  • And of course the higher you are the more ready you are to look at things through different frames and actually see something different.
Some of these new frames, when you first get to look through them, are dramatic. Upsetting. Revolutionary.

Continue reading “Reframing… She is a person! Not an object. OMG.”